Relationship problems

I guess for me, if I was in a relationship with someone who made me cry all the time, I'd be ending that relationship. But that is just me and my own opinion. I had a boyfriend once who hated the fact I have horses, that I spent my money on them, or my time with them, etc. He said to me one day "its me or the horses", I think the thing that surprised him the most was that it didn't take me more than 1 second to say "see ya", So I guess alot of it comes down to what one is willing to put up with to be in a relationship, whether they are co-dependent or an enabler, whether they know their own worth, have self respect, and self esteem and whether they are the type of person who needs to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship. again this all just my personal opinion.

I've been with my partner for 10 years and they have never made me cry. They don't necessarily understand what I'm venting about, but they have mastered the art of nodding and looking sympathetic and just letting me vent

I know nursing and nursing school changes people. I think about 80% of the people I started nursing school broke up with their so by the end

It's completely your choice if you want to stay in this relationship, what you're values are and such.

If I was with someone who made me cry(assuming it wasn't tears if joy) all the time I would definitely end it. Your significant other is supposed to make you happy not sad.

Nope, could not be with someone who made me cry all the time, even if it was not his intention. My ex- boyfriend of five years caused me so much distress, even without meaning to, that I wasted nearly the whole time trying to be a functional human being. My boyfriend now of over two years had never made me cry. There are misunderstandings, infrequently, but I'm amazed at what I have accomplished with his support. It's important to be with someone who can help motivate and encourage you, not someone who costs you all your time and energy.

Crying all the time is not a normal part of a healthy relationship. I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half, and we have never made each other cry. We're always happy when we're together. Sometimes I wonder if it is a real relationship, because we have never fought, but I think we just have very compatible personalities.

Munch said:

If I was with someone who made me cry(assuming it wasn't tears if joy) all the time I would definitely end it. Your significant other is supposed to make you happy not sad.

I would leave if they made me cry tears of sorrow or tears of joy.

Crying sucks, in general, except for like once every 5 years or so.

On a more serious note, it's all about one thing: Respect. In my book literally everything else flows from that.

Beldar_the_Cenobite said:

Hello!

WHat's not nursing related is my mom was telling me the other day at a restaurant, "Michael makes me cry all the time. If you're not crying, you're not in a relationship"

Sorry, but that's complete and utter nonsense.

jodispamodi said:

I guess for me, if I was in a relationship with someone who made me cry all the time, I'd be ending that relationship. But that is just me and my own opinion. I had a boyfriend once who hated the fact I have horses, that I spent my money on them, or my time with them, etc. He said to me one day "its me or the horses", I think the thing that surprised him the most was that it didn't take me more than 1 second to say "see ya", So I guess alot of it comes down to what one is willing to put up with to be in a relationship, whether they are co-dependent or an enabler, whether they know their own worth, have self respect, and self esteem and whether they are the type of person who needs to be in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship. again this all just my personal opinion.

Glad other people are like me. I dumped a guy one time because he didn't like my dog. I was telling someone about it once and they said "Well you had the dog first."

I told her that actually the guy came first. I just liked the dog more.

Uh.... no?

I been with my fiance for 3 years, 2 years of being friends before getting together and he never once made me cry. Even if he did, he would apologize and try to make up for it. But never once made me cry, so yeah no. My ex-boyfriend did make me feel sad and cry all the time, so I don't know about you, but I left him and didn't go out with anyone for 7 years because I didn't trust anyone anymore. So it took A LOT for my boyfriend to talk to me and be my friend, then try to be my boyfriend.

So my answer: I would break up with someone like that. In a heartbeat!

I wouldn't stay with someone who wasn't supportive nor would I stay with someone who vented frequently. Situationally, of course, but not months on end.

I had an in law who frequently ranted and complained about her social work and psychology programs. Pretty much everytime we saw her and asked the customary, how are you? It was grating and though stress isn't a competition it was out of proportion from my perspective and I could never live with that.