SilverBells

I am currently working as a nurse manager at a SNF. I have the option to wear either scrubs or business casual. I'm just trying to get a feel for what might be preferable. What are others' experiences? Have you noticed if one seems to be preferable over the other? Does it affect how that particular manager is viewed in any way?

I wasn't in the position long enough to get any reviews. Reviews in previous positions had all been "exceptional" but that was with a different management team, back when the work environment was more friendly and less high-strung, toxic and hostile. Maybe all that can be done is just accept that she was better suited to the job and works better in a high pressure, cut throat environment than I do.

My mom asked me, "Silverbells, why would you want to keep a job that resulted in you needing to increase your antidepressants, increase the number of therapy sessions needed and result in you needing to take FMLA?"

If I'm being honest, focusing on Queen Bee takes the focus off my own problems.

Probably because she has something I want--a place she belongs. She naturally received compliments and recognition from upper management, where I felt like I had to "fish" for any of mine.

We were both case managers. I was slightly higher up than she was, with me being an RN and her being an LPN. However, by the way she acted, you would have thought she was my supervisor.

At the end of the day, all I know is that Queen Bee ? is going to make it. Queen Bee ? will be fine. As for myself, I have no idea

Doesn't matter how many lessons Queen Bee or I need to learn. The only one who will walk out a winner is Queen Bee

A Comprehensive Lesson Plan for Queen Bee: 1. Effective Communication with Others -Respectfully addressing the concerns of others -Communicating own concerns with others in a way that respects the dignity of others -Learning to listen without interruption -Monitoring tone of voice during communication 2. Time Management -Developing methods to ensure arrival to work on time -Prioritizing to ensure that essential work is being completed -Arriving to meetings on time -Focusing on own work rather than the work of others 3. Humility -Acknowledging the strengths of others -Acknowledging the weaknesses of oneself -Recognizing that one is not better than anyone else -Remembering the reason why one entered nursing -Focus more on the patient rather than being pretentious (wearing dressy clothes that interfere with patient care, avoiding patient care as much as possible, instructing staff to "just work short," etc)

In a sense, job #2 reminds me of when I was in my previous rehab position. They mention a lot of admissions and discharges. It was salary. My mom asked me,"Was that too much for you? You were always there very late"

Regardless Queen Bee will probably never learn the lessons she needs to learn

I think being fired could be an excellent experience for Queen Bee. She can go work in a small town and learn a lesson or two regarding being humble.

My old job has already found a replacement for me. Gotta love the feeling of being replaced...

It may come across as a surprise that I have actually taken allnurses.com members' advise and have accepted the first job ?

LOL, if there is one thing that I can say, it's that I haven't been dishonest on Allnurses regarding my thoughts or feelings. Maybe a bit too honest at times.