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Hoosier_RN has 20 years experience as a MSN and specializes in LTC, home health, hospice, ICU, ER, dialysis.

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On 8/31/2019 at 6:50 PM, GrumpyRN said:

What? Seriously? Not trying to hijack the thread but is that correct? You Americans have some really poor laws and regulations if an employer can do that.

 

'Merica...

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Ok.well,I wanted input,so I got input.

at least I am not the only one in this situation.apparently I have let it bother me .

yes,I was holding a grudge at the wage disparity.i see the general consensus is to look for a more suitable job for me,despite the loss of income it will cause me.

i actually am going to get my knees replaced,find a job,and go from there.granted,going out on medical will definitely make some bills to not be paid,but,oh  well.guess I had to get super upset before accepting things as they are.

thank you for all inputs

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Martymoose, I wish you all the best. Some of the comments were a little sharp or definitely pointed, and you remained calm and thoughtful. That says a lot for you.

You do need a new job. My previous, toxic job was influencing my emotions outside of work. Find something you enjoy, it will make a world of a difference. Then you can work on cutting expenses, perhaps downsizing, whatever you need to do. Best of luck.

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Here.I.Stand has 16 years experience as a BSN, RN and specializes in SICU, trauma, neuro.

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I’m glad my CFO-ex didn’t have this mindset... for all his character flaws he had a lot of respect for my nursing, although not nearly as lucrative as his career

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It'sYaGirlK has 1 years experience as a CNA, LPN.

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Just my little unimportant 2 cents... Only way it’s ok for your spouse to make 1/2 of what you do.. is if he can still foot his end of the bills.. It is pretty hard to allow a man to lead if he can’t  provide security

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L-ICURN has 8 years experience as a BSN, RN and specializes in ICU.

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All of this reminds me of an ex I had who sat on the couch and watched while I worked 40+ hours a week on minimum wage. Anyway...

I concur with the other posters who've said to look for a new job. I hope things turn around for you.

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GrumpyRN has 38 years experience as a NP and specializes in Emergency Department.

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9 hours ago, It'sYaGirlK said:

Just my little unimportant 2 cents... Only way it’s ok for your spouse to make 1/2 of what you do.. is if he can still foot his end of the bills.. It is pretty hard to allow a man to lead if he can’t  provide security

His end of the bills??? Is that how you see marriage? Marriage is (or should be) about sharing. HE does not have bills, SHE does not have bills. THEY have bills. It's supposed to be a partnership.

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CharleeFoxtrot has 7 years experience as a ADN, RN.

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35 minutes ago, GrumpyRN said:

His end of the bills??? Is that how you see marriage? Marriage is (or should be) about sharing. HE does not have bills, SHE does not have bills. THEY have bills. It's supposed to be a partnership.

Yes indeed.  Marriage (or any relationship) is not "me vs. he/she", it is "me vs. we". You have to conquer the "me" before you will succeed as "we". I have plenty of failed relationships to prove this point 😉 before I got smart.

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Rose_Queen is a BSN, MSN, RN and specializes in OR, education.

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10 hours ago, It'sYaGirlK said:

It is pretty hard to allow a man to lead if he can’t  provide security

Who says the man has to lead? 1, relationships are partnerships. 2, men don’t need to “provide security” because it’s a partnership and both need to contribute to the marriage’s security. 

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Nurse SMS has 9 years experience as a MSN, RN and specializes in Critical Care; Cardiac; Professional Development.

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14 hours ago, It'sYaGirlK said:

Just my little unimportant 2 cents... Only way it’s ok for your spouse to make 1/2 of what you do.. is if he can still foot his end of the bills.. It is pretty hard to allow a man to lead if he can’t  provide security

Huh?? 1950 called and wants its weirdness back.

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Rose_Queen is a BSN, MSN, RN and specializes in OR, education.

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56 minutes ago, Nurse SMS said:

Huh?? 1950 called and wants its weirdness back.

That’s what I really wanted to say in my response but didn’t. So thanks for being the one with the courage!

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