Question.We all know nursing makes decent money.Those with spouses who are not nurses who make much less money ,do you have increased discord in the marriage ?Spouse has no interest in pursuing education ( kinda dont blame him,we are in our 50 's) ,but makes 50 percent less than me. There is now a big financial strain with cost of living(taxes went up, utilities went wayyy up,gas,old car repairs,etc) I cant stand it anymore.
Am i being realistic to think that spouses should at least make equal money ? (And we both work full time)
What? Seriously? Not trying to hijack the thread but is that correct? You Americans have some really poor laws and regulations if an employer can do that.
at least I am not the only one in this situation.apparently I have let it bother me .
yes,I was holding a grudge at the wage disparity.i see the general consensus is to look for a more suitable job for me,despite the loss of income it will cause me.
i actually am going to get my knees replaced,find a job,and go from there.granted,going out on medical will definitely make some bills to not be paid,but,oh well.guess I had to get super upset before accepting things as they are.
Martymoose, I wish you all the best. Some of the comments were a little sharp or definitely pointed, and you remained calm and thoughtful. That says a lot for you.
You do need a new job. My previous, toxic job was influencing my emotions outside of work. Find something you enjoy, it will make a world of a difference. Then you can work on cutting expenses, perhaps downsizing, whatever you need to do. Best of luck.
I’m glad my CFO-ex didn’t have this mindset... for all his character flaws he had a lot of respect for my nursing, although not nearly as lucrative as his career
Just my little unimportant 2 cents... Only way it’s ok for your spouse to make 1/2 of what you do.. is if he can still foot his end of the bills.. It is pretty hard to allow a man to lead if he can’t provide security
Just my little unimportant 2 cents... Only way it’s ok for your spouse to make 1/2 of what you do.. is if he can still foot his end of the bills.. It is pretty hard to allow a man to lead if he can’t provide security
His end of the bills??? Is that how you see marriage? Marriage is (or should be) about sharing. HE does not have bills, SHE does not have bills. THEY have bills. It's supposed to be a partnership.
His end of the bills??? Is that how you see marriage? Marriage is (or should be) about sharing. HE does not have bills, SHE does not have bills. THEY have bills. It's supposed to be a partnership.
Yes indeed. Marriage (or any relationship) is not "me vs. he/she", it is "me vs. we". You have to conquer the "me" before you will succeed as "we". I have plenty of failed relationships to prove this point ? before I got smart.
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10 hours ago, It'sYaGirlK said:
It is pretty hard to allow a man to lead if he can’t provide security
Who says the man has to lead? 1, relationships are partnerships. 2, men don’t need to “provide security” because it’s a partnership and both need to contribute to the marriage’s security.
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14 hours ago, It'sYaGirlK said:
Just my little unimportant 2 cents... Only way it’s ok for your spouse to make 1/2 of what you do.. is if he can still foot his end of the bills.. It is pretty hard to allow a man to lead if he can’t provide security
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