Nurse dates doctor openly at work.

SmilingBluEyes · Mar 7, 2006

Married to others or not, moral judgements aside----the love life belongs OUTSIDE THE HOSPITAL. This will affect morale of the unit unless nipped in the bud. A call to HR is definately in order.

teeituptom, BSN, RN · Mar 7, 2006

What do you think about a nurse who dates the doctors she works with. We have a nurse in our unit that is doing that. It is quite embarrasing when relatives of the patients are asking how long they have married. When doctor is actualy married to someone else. Our unit has brought this to the attention of the unit manager, but she does not share our concerns. Is this right.

1. what occurs between them should stay between them

2. Whats wrong with that sleazeball MD cheating on his wife like that.. Dont call HR call his wife.

3. Whats wrong with that loser of a nurse, sinking low enough to date a married MD. Her self esteem must be in the gutter. How sad

Messink · Mar 7, 2006

Does their relationship interfere with their ability to perform their jobs right?

If so, than I might report them, if addressing them about the issue doesn't work.

If it doesn't interfere with their ability to perform their jobs correctly than I would not report them because then it is none of my bussiness.

Just my opinion on the matter.

live4today, RN · Mar 7, 2006

1. what occurs between them should stay between them
2. Whats wrong with that sleazeball MD cheating on his wife like that.. Dont call HR call his wife.
3. Whats wrong with that loser of a nurse, sinking low enough to date a married MD. Her self esteem must be in the gutter. How sad

:yeahthat: Especially #2. :saint:

SmilingBluEyes · Mar 7, 2006

Does their relationship interfere with their ability to perform their jobs right?
If so, than I might report them, if addressing them about the issue doesn't work.
If it doesn't interfere with their ability to perform their jobs correctly than I would not report them because then it is none of my bussiness.
Just my opinion on the matter.

AH but it IS your business if they are making it obvious at work. They are inappropriately making it so. It's unprofessional as well as unethical, and to say the least, distracting to the workplace environment. MYOB does not apply in this situation.

RNOTODAY, BSN, RN · Mar 7, 2006

Does it affect the care of any patients? Are they spending a whole shift shacked up in the call room? If not, its none of anybody's business. Tacky? YES. Unprofessional, on both parts? Absolutely. But, really, do you honestly care that much to make waves about it?

Tweety, BSN, RN · Mar 7, 2006

Has anyone actually confronted the nurse or doctor? Or are they just being embarrassed and gossiping about them behind their backs

Someone, like you, should directly confront the nurse and explain that her behavior is not professional and is embarrasing her co-workers and would she kindly keep her personal life and professional life separate. She just may be mature and professional enough to nip her behavior in the bud. She might be simply having a good time and have no clue has to what's going on and simply needs to be told.

I agree with the person above who stated that a careful analysis of how this is affecting patient care first, then morale of the unit, without making a mountain out of a molehill and infllicting self-righteous morality on others.

purplemania, BSN, RN · Mar 7, 2006

There should be some rules of conduct for everyone, regardless of married to one another or not. After all, the hospital is not a bar.

**canoehead, BSN, RN** · Mar 7, 2006

Tacky, but none of my business.

Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN · Mar 7, 2006

What do you think about a nurse who dates the doctors she works with.

I'd think it's none of my business until it affects pt. care.

DutchgirlRN, ASN, RN · Mar 7, 2006

Hospitals are sometimes hotbeds of romance, an sometimes equal mix of coding and cuddling. Patients fall in love with their nurses, nurses fall in love with physicians, and many physicians stay in love with themselves!

I don't know if it's any of our business or not, if it doesn't affect the well-being of the patient, I suppose it's not. It is morally wrong for a married man of any profession to date other women. I also think it is un-professional of this nurse and physician to flaunt their relationship at work whether or not one is married. As my Mother has always said "it's ok to work up an appetite but make sure you go home to eat."

nursemaa · Mar 8, 2006

1. Many couples have met at work- not unusual, not necessarily unprofessional.

2. If he's married, then he's a pig and she should dump him, but unless I'm a close friend who can talk to her about it, it's really none of my business.

3. The patients may ask how long they've been married simply because when they make rounds, they are so comfortable with each other- no big deal unless they're making out in the patient rooms or something. I had a patient ask if an orderly and I were married...there was nothing going on between us, but we'd worked together so long and had a good friendship so we probably acted like an old married couple sometimes.

4. As long as she is taking good care of her patients and is getting her work done, then who she's dating is again none of my business.

5. I am way too busy at work to pay much attention to who is dating who- I hate "office gossip" and won't participate.

6. We all say we should leave our personal lives out of the workplace, but we don't really do that. We talk with each other about our kids, our husbands, our family life, and many other personal things.

I'd need more information to form an opinion- is she a good nurse, is it interfering with her work, are they showing public displays of affection, is patient care being compromised, etc.

Just my thoughts.