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    Health-care system causing rampant burnout among doctors, nurses

    I believe when we use the term "burn out" we are blaming the victims. This is moral distress, as ZDogg says.
  2. I have heard it said: Middle management is the most difficult position to hold. Having experienced this, I know for a fact, it is true. There is no (or very little) gratitude or thanks for your efforts, most often. Often the pressure is tremendous from both the leadership about you and the nurses you supervise...... Moral distress ensues and you are done. There is no amount of pay that makes all that "worth it" IMO. Try going back to staff nursing and see if that is what you really want. To do that is to be able to shut off the phone, concentrate on caring for patients, which is likely why you entered nursing, and taking a deep breath. You did a great job and the experience is never to be taken away from you. Be a staff nurse again, as I think it's what will make you feel better. I've no regrets doing so, and am actually making more money now than as a manager.
  3. Ah--- that's the problem. The poster who mentioned "servant management" hit it on the head. I too have followed that model, only to never have backing from administration above me. It's a fast ticket to burnout. If you don't have sound leadership up the food chain, you won't ever emerge a winner. Being salaried oftentimes, is to be used until you burn out completely ( to suffer moral distress, really) and then being tossed away like yesterday's coffee. I also echo the other poster who asked you if you truly desire to remain in management. If so, boundaries are needed like mentioned and you need to take care of yourself better. If not, you may find being a staff nurse is so much better for your personal situation. Clock in, do your best, clock out. Turn off the phone. It can be wonderful going back to staff nursing. I have no fast answers. I wish you the best.
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    Tired and burnt out from the abuse

    The day a larger number of hospitals/clinics enforce a "no abuse policy" and support their staff in cases where abuse occurs, will be the day they never have to worry about a "nurse shortage" again. People will be lined up to work these places. Enough already. We are not punching bags!
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    Millennial Nurses Have Issues

    Ok well I am not biting. I have worked with people who are pre-boomer (one lady still is working part time), and others who are Gen Y. I am GenZ-boomer myself. (we don't exist much as a demographic). Yep---Right there in the middle. I admire a great many of my Gen Y coworkers. They appear to know what they want and are not afraid to go for it. Their loyalty is very hard-won. They don't tend to collect useless material goods, but would rather live experiences than have "stuff". I know many who won't want mom/dad's old furniture, knick-knacks, and china. It's useless to them, except to sell and travel to other places and meet new people. Awesome. Life is too short for cheapening it with working too hard to please others and not simply have phenomenal life experiences. I wish I had been more like that when I was younger. It took a long time to understand my worth and to place boundaries on unhealthy behaviors toward me. And I finally understand life is to be lived, not to be forced to live up to others' desires for them. The Gen Y people I work with are not lazy, no. But they won't kill themselves for corporate masters who would use them up and discard them quickly when their value is perceived as less than expected. This younger generation understands these things better, sooner. I raised my own kids to be this way. I love new, fresh ideas and hearing how they think. They way they grew up, the way they experience the world, is so different than what I know. Try LISTENING and UNDERSTANDING people with whom you have not much in common. It's fascinating.
  6. I'm not looking for lie detectors. Leave that to the cops and Maury. I know that we can't be "color blind" as human beings unless we live all our lives in a homogenous society in which no visits by others are made. I admit freely; I have faults. I have prejudices. I don't need a lie detector to help me realize and understand I have a long way to go to appreciate others' struggles in a country where White Privilege is a real problem. And yes, seeing a person's color and differences *is* needed to be able to understand. It's not wrong to appreciate differences. Like the song "Free your Mind" says "before you can read me you got to learn how to see me". The line about being color blind, (in the same song) is not as realistic nor something I feel I should strive for. But first, you have to admit you SEE them.
  7. Last sentence is wrong. Appreciating differences is what is needed to decrease prejudice.
  8. I am more concerned about you than the job. Continue with professional help; work on you and the rest will come together. So many of us have been there; you are NOT alone.
  9. https://www.king5.com/article/news/local/washington-board-of-health-bans-flavored-vaping-products/281-ddad5104-7d18-4f96-a2c5-6ff1ed162428 Yes yes yes we know vaping is not healthy. But after the MILLIONS who have been harmed and died smoking cigarettes and no ban there, guess who is behind this. Follow the money.....hint: Big Tobacco. It's known the products causing harm are from "pirate" sources, and often contain added THC. And that victims are children and young adults who think vaping is "cool"---- but so did they when cigarettes were "Cool" back when....tell ya what: I will buy this when they enact laws to outlaw cigarettes, chewing tobacco and other dangerous sources of nicotine. Washington State today, your state tomorrow. Follow the money. And vote carefully.
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    Case management/Insurance work?

    Good afternoon, all. I don't know if this is the right forum, if not feel free to move it, mods. I was wondering if anyone here who works for insurance/tele triage/case management (or any other work from home job), how you managed to get in? What requirements/experience are they looking for? How might I break into this field? I don't personally know anyone who does this, or I would ask them. Please let me know how you got in, and how you feel about this work? I am, like so many, tired of abuse/foul language/physical threats, and being asked to be "compassionate" and "understanding". I would like not to have to go to work, knowing this is coming. I have done all kinds of specialties in nursing, OB/GYN surgical, LTC, Doctor office nursing, ambulatory type care in an outpatient clinic. I am familiar with ICD-10 coding and the like. Anyhow, if anyone has wisdom or advice, I am all ears. Thank you in advance.
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    Other nurse and DON are besties!

    If I were you I would be very careful. I saw this with an MA who got their bachelor degree and became the boss. The besties were in the office all the time, shooting the breeze with their friend-boss, leaving others to do all the work. It was so obvious and blatant. They (the boss' besties) knew they were protected and the ones who were not in the clique were treated badly. No one cared this was going on, and everyone knew, including higher levels of mgt/admin. They were all friends and went out to dinner/drinks together off work. It was all over social media, for everyone to see. In your case: Reporting it may just lead to a big fat target on your back. You don't need that. Do your job and look for a place where this is not the case.
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    5th e-Cigarette Death Reported As Illnesses Double

    Follow the money. Big tobacco has a huge stake in making vaping products illegal. Follow the money.
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    Workplace Violence in Healthcare: Nurses, What is Being Done to Protect Us?

    Nothing. Nothing is being done to protect us.
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    It’s That Time of Year Again: Preparing for Influenza Season 2019-2020

    So many mention their low effectiveness. Here is my take: Even ONE percent is better than nothing. And one builds up immunity to many strains of flu over the years, taking an annual flu shot.
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    Webcams in Nursing Homes?

    I don't have a problem with working with a cam in the room. But I also believe staff definitely need to be informed of use of such tools. I do nothing that would be trouble, caught on camera. But people have the right to know when they are being recorded.
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    Social Media and Doxxing - Your Thoughts???

    I think where FB, SnapChat, Twitter and others come, it's best never to have in one's profile where he or she works and never mention work, in any way, or have pictures of such in your threads/posts. Anyone can use any reason to fire us and this has to be one of the easiest ways. Asking others not to engage in doxxing is pointless. The ones who do this are never going to change. They love the trouble they create, the damage they cause others. ? not sure what you mean. I think to say, when we have lost anonymity, we lose the filter that may protect us otherswise?