SmilingBluEyes

Just move on. Time to quit.

Kristy: Moral of the story: Don't tell people what you are doing. It's none of their business and they will tattle on you just to make trouble. Time to make it all legal. Alcohol is much more dangerous/costly anyhow.

It need not be. One can succeed as a nurse without feeling "passionate" about the work. It's a means to an end for many. And that's OK.

Without clear substantive facts I would say no you should not do this.

No compassion for the caregiver. That's what has happened to nursing.

Social media and work just don't mix. I don't mention my work on FB or other social media sites, period. Those who do are risking losing their jobs. It's up to the employer what is acceptable and what is today, will likely not be, tomorrow. Be smart. The world has enough so-called "influencers". Ego isn't worth it.

I guess it would depend on the tone it's used in.

Congratulations. Make an appointment with an OB or Midwife ASAP and get from him/her what is safe and what is not for during pregnancy. We can't offer advice like that here. I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy and birth experience.

I cut off close relations with toxic people. You should, too. Just be polite but share nothing about your personal life, or choices. It's best in the long run.

No it is not feasible. You are not ready.

You know in Winter, I often take showers every other day. I have had no complaints about my smell. (including those who would tell me if I did smell! LOL). I wear a very good deodorant----one that lasts like 72 hours. My hair is very curly and tends to be dry, so I wash it once a week. I think some beneficial microbes on our skin are a good thing. But come Summer, since I sweat, I do shower every day. It's a must for me.

I applaud your self-awareness and desire to do best by your patients and families. I agree with the others who say a consistent schedule is key. I know I rotate (somewhat) between days and evenings and even that plays with my sleep and my mind. If I had to shift from day to night sleeping and back, I would lose what was left of my mind! I think you'll feel better and will be able to think more clearly if you are on one shift consistently. Those losses are heartbreaking as is that situation with the baby with no brain activity. Anyone would take those hard, but someone who is already physically stressed from sleep pattern changes would feel this even more acutely. You would do well if you can get that other job, even if only for a while. Maybe you could go back to NICU if/when the schedule would be either days or nights. I wish you well. You can't pour from an empty vessel; take care of yourself as you care for others.

"Take the time to care for your health today......or you will be forced to take time to care for disease later". That's all I have to say.

I am sorry; too little way too late. To turn the tide takes more than words. It takes ACTION. On the parts of nurses to band together and the parts of powers-that-be to put the money on the table.

How do you go? You say "it's been a wonderful opportunity for me. I wish you all the best. This is not a good fit, is all". Simple as that.

This is not a new concept; nurses and other staff are just an expense to corporations; this we know. It's also not a new idea to "charge" for nursing services. I have heard this for years. They can add in what nursing care costs to the bill but I DOUBT SINCERELY they will increase safe staffing accordingly. There is no end to the greed in healthcare today, HCA or otherwise. Color me a cynic.

Listen to your body. Go back when you are physically ready. And take better care of yourself. I wish you well.

My thoughts exactly. Boundaries people.

I cannot complain; I got a box of chocolates and a plant. I love both. I am grateful.

I hear you. I have worked LTC and I discovered something: a lot of them burnt their bridges a LONG time ago with family who may have been there if they had been kind to them when they were younger. Not everyone who is alone in LTC has mean, cruel family who don't care. Some of us were so horribly abused we can't bring ourselves to go through the pain of visiting them. I wish NO harm on my parents, but they don't get to continue to gaslight and harm me in their older years. Not every sweet LOL in the LTC was always so sweet.......or is to the people in their lives. I tried to treat all residents like family but I remembered at the end of the day they were not. It's how I kept my sanity with so much death in LTC. JMO anyhow.

I am so sorry you're going through this. But a huge part of the solution lies in the sentence I bolded. You need strong boundaries to protect your heart. It's always sad when we lose our patients we know well. I work in an area where we see our patients as often as we do family. But they are not family. They are not friends. They are my patients. At the end of the day this is all I can allow them to be. It's also not fair to go above and beyond for "favorite" patients and not do the same for others. If you really feel like you can't go on, I suggest you find a therapist or life coach to help you through this loss and with a plan not to get as caught up in the future. I am sorry for your loss. Take comfort in knowing you did right by her and were a wonderful caregiver. I wish you the best.

I don't think you should emulate anyone. You should build a relationship with this patient based on being your best self. Don't copy others; it's inauthentic.

SO MUCH bait and switch here.

"You are a...... "hero" "angel" "the best nurse" whatever else falsely superlative. It's patronizing and insulting. And it means absolutely nothing.

Yep! SO what are your prepared to do about it?