Nurse dates doctor openly at work.

Published

What do you think about a nurse who dates the doctors she works with. We have a nurse in our unit that is doing that. It is quite embarrasing when relatives of the patients are asking how long they have married. When doctor is actualy married to someone else. Our unit has brought this to the attention of the unit manager, but she does not share our concerns. Is this right.

Up Vote Up Vote ×

Morally at least it is not right at all. If he already has a wife, he shouldn't be dating someone else and this nurse should not be flaunting her indiscretions.

Up Vote Up Vote ×
Specializes in NICU.
What do you think about a nurse who dates the doctors she works with. We have a nurse in our unit that is doing that. It is quite embarrasing when relatives of the patients are asking how long they have married. When doctor is actualy married to someone else. Our unit has brought this to the attention of the unit manager, but she does not share our concerns. Is this right.

Make an anonymous call to human resources. They'll share your concerns.

Up Vote Up Vote ×

I see nothing wrong with nurses dating doctors, as long as neither is already attached to someone. I would call HR.

Up Vote Up Vote ×
Specializes in Med-Surg and CCU/ER.

No I so not believe that this is right at all. I do think that since you took it to your unit manager and they did not do anything, then you should probably contact HR or even the CEO.

Up Vote Up Vote ×
Specializes in Pediatrics (Burn ICU, CVICU).
What do you think about a nurse who dates the doctors she works with. We have a nurse in our unit that is doing that. It is quite embarrasing when relatives of the patients are asking how long they have married. When doctor is actualy married to someone else. Our unit has brought this to the attention of the unit manager, but she does not share our concerns. Is this right.

As long as it isn't affecting patient care or the way the nurse or doc performs their jobs, what business is it of anyone else?

I agree that it isn't right since he is still married, but what if she was dating another married man that wasn't a doctor at the hospital. Would that still constitute her being reported to HR? Are there really any hospital "rules" against it?

Not trying to be sarcastic, just really want to know...

Up Vote Up Vote ×
Specializes in Ante-Intra-Postpartum, Post Gyne.

When I first started reading this I was thinking, "whats the big deal" but then you mentioned that he is married...big no no! Does the wife know and not care or somthing? If even the patients know, how has she not found out yet?

Up Vote Up Vote ×
Specializes in Maternal - Child Health.

Unless the doctor and nurse are both employed by the hospital, I doubt that HR can or would do much about the couple dating.

However, if patients are inquiring about their relationship, it is clear that one or both are sharig WAY too much personal information with their patients. This is something that HR can and should address.

Up Vote Up Vote ×

There are so many things in hospitals to be concerned about--poor staffing, horrible working conditions, etc that I just cannot see why people would worry about this. That is unless it is compromising patient care.

What concerns me the most is that in your post you dont mention what type of nurse she is. Good, bad? Isnt that what is really important?

I doubt you or your co-workers know the entire situation. Maybe the doctor and his wife are separated. Unless they are being really unprofessional about it like making out at the desk, I dont see where it is anyone's business but their own. If they do make it other's business, simply tell them you would rather not be involved. Either way I wouldnt judge. If two people are really happy in this day and time, I say more power to them.

Up Vote Up Vote ×
Specializes in NICU.
However, if patients are inquiring about their relationship, it is clear that one or both are sharig WAY too much personal information with their patients. This is something that HR can and should address.

This is exactly what I was thinking. Personal relationships need to be left at the door. It's not professional to be so open with relationships that even the patients notice. The fact that this doctor is married makes it even more inappropriate.

Up Vote Up Vote ×

If it comes down to patients asking how long that they have been married, then they are definitely flaunting something and it is not appropriate. Even if they were married, not something to be on display for patients.

Up Vote Up Vote ×

This is disgusting.

Up Vote Up Vote ×
+ Join the Discussion