I can't believe she went there!

oklahomagal · Jan 4, 2011

I recently asked someone close to me if she would be willing to watch my two kids while I go to Nursing school and she repied" OH NOW YOU WANT TO GO TO SCHOOL...NOW THAT YOU HAVE TWO KIDS AND A HUSBAND...DON'T YOU THINK THAT YOU SHOULD OF DONE THAT BEFORE HAND...WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO WITH YOUR HOME" I was so shell shocked...I couldn't even reply, and now that I think about it I wish I would have said something...

People are always gonna have something to say... no matter what... just let it roll off of you and look for some one else to help you.. Just remember that she isn't the supporter that you were hoping for and dont go back for more advice.

Oh and BTW, You CAN do it!!!

Yummy Chocolate · Jan 4, 2011

you will come across alot of people like her, either telling you that your stupid or lacking something. i personally think she is jealous of you because here you are getting ready to pursue your dreams. don't let her stand in your way. you just have to find someone else who will be happy to be your supporter. now you know she isn’t your support just don’t talk to her. i really admire the fact that you have the courage to go back to school and please don’t let someone else decide for you what you want out of life. good luck!!! :)

Butterfly0328 · Jan 4, 2011

Don't give this person another thought! I so admire you for going back to school. I wish I had done this years ago. Just like another person mentioned - she is most likely jealous because you have decided to persue your dreams. It will be hard but you can do it. Good luck & God bless. :)

2ndyearstudent, CNA · Jan 4, 2011

I recently asked someone close to me if she would be willing to watch my two kids while I go to Nursing school and she repied" OH NOW YOU WANT TO GO TO SCHOOL...NOW THAT YOU HAVE TWO KIDS AND A HUSBAND...DON'T YOU THINK THAT YOU SHOULD OF DONE THAT BEFORE HAND...WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO WITH YOUR HOME" I was so shell shocked...I couldn't even reply, and now that I think about it I wish I would have said something...

So....that's a "No" on watching the kids?

I get reactions like this once in a while too, but they are so rare they make me laugh more than anything else. The vast majority of the time I get nothing but support and well wishes. Gotta thicken that skin up a bit.

Sometimes, but not always, the type of reaction you got stems from pure green-eyed jealously. I have friends who are unhappily spending their days scurrying on the corporate hamster wheel. They would love to change careers but don't want to give up any of the creature comforts their wholly unsatisfying 9-5 dreck provides. When they see someone say, "Screw it" and pursue a dream or lofty ambition, they get a little shook up.

I used to be one of those people. Sure, I miss a lot of stuff - like golfing 5-6 days a week all summer or hopping on a plane to anywhere when I felt like it, but I sure don't miss what I had to do to get it.

Someone will watch your kids. Some of my graduating class even have banded together for childcare and it is working out really well for them.

dudette10, MSN, RN · Jan 4, 2011

No matter what decisions you make for your life, there will always be someone out there telling you that you're doing it all wrong.

Screw 'em.

Tricia76 · Jan 4, 2011

Oh believe me I would have told her off..It is none of her business what you have done with your life she just should of said no or yes plain and simple!

OB-nurse2013, BSN, RN · Jan 4, 2011

Wow thats terrible but just remember where theres a will theres a way. My two little ones motivate me everyday to do well. Although its scary I just take it semester by semester. And for what that special person :uhoh3: said well I wouldn't let it botehr you life sometimes just happens. I started school and got married and planned on applying to NS and had one lil surprise and then I go back into it and uh oh another surprise :redbeathe Now I switched schools and I love it and am just starting my first semester of NS and am very happy..

ps my husband and I sleep in sperate rooms now (jk :lol2: )

allnurses Guide · Jan 4, 2011

The temptation to tell someone off at that moment is huge! even when you can't think of exactly what you want to say(or should have said). Be glad you didn't, because if she is really close to you, the door is still open for future (and calm) conversations about it. That is, if you want to keep the relationship, as friends don't always have to agree on things. But, she isn't the one to go to to vent or get moral support in the future!

Situation 1: she really believes you are abandoning your family

Situ 2: she is jealous beyond belief and secretly wishes she wasn't "trapped" where she is (or was)

situ 3: she ends up watching your kids and is inspired to go back to school herself :clown:

After all, your home doesn't suddenly go POOF! and disappear! So its a little messy, so what? I grew up with my mother saying "I have better things to do than housework". Her house was generally clean (mine's messy), but we both enjoy life!

blonde mommy2 · Jan 5, 2011

That statement she made is plain ole jealousy. Times like this you realize who your friends are. A true friend would be there for you and encourage you to reach your goals. I would just cut her off, b/c everytime u talk to her she will have something negative to say. Statments like that make me stronger and pushes me to work harder to prove them that I can do it.

ImThatGuy, BSN, RN · Jan 5, 2011

Quick comebacks are a skill that take practice. Even something like "All you had to say was 'no,' *****!"

OneHungryNurse · Jan 5, 2011

It happens. In life, you'll be surrounded by people who just don't want others to do well. That shoudln't stop you from accomplishing what you want to do. It's one wave after another. Students crap on each other all the time in nursing school. Once you become a nurse, you'll have co-workers and supervising nurses who will rain on your parade... but stay the course. Anytime you receive a dirty look, or a snobby comment from a supevisor, just remember why you wanted to become a nurse in the first place. The patients. Think about the patients.