Heartbreak and nursing program

I am so sorry you are going through this.  Breaking up can be very heartbreaking.  However, if you are still unable to function properly in school after two months, please seek help.  Talk to your academic advisor and let them know what is going on - they may have some suggestions for you.  I strongly advise you to get counseling/talk therapy.  Many schools provide this service.  In addition, I suggest you see a psychiatrist or PMHNP as you may benefit from an antidepressant.  

Frankly, your ex doesn't seem like a very smart woman.  She was unable to make some short term sacrifices for long term gain.  The best thing you can do is to focus on your studies and being successful.  Living well is the best revenge.

Best wishes

Hello,

I know your going thru a difficult time right now and your heart is broken but trust me when I say this too shall pass. don't blame yourself unfortunately when it comes to nursing school you really can't have a life outside of school all of your attention has to go into your studies. I know it's difficult but try to get back into your studies to take your mind off your ex. You will find love again! Your heart will heal in time and she will just be a memory of your past. Please don't give up your dreams of becoming a nurse. Try to finish strong.

That chick wasn't worth your effort and time if she couldn't support you through something as hard to do as get through your nursing program.  Do your best to keep yourself together get through your program and get a great job earning good money and having usually 4 days off a week and then find a girl who can appreciate you and everything you offer.

A breakup can be devastating, especially when you thought things were fine and got blindsided by it.  I doubt if this will help much in the short term but trust me on this, if she wasn't willing to support you through nursing school, she wouldn't be able to support you through all that life brings. Get back to studying, finish school and live your best life. 

Big hugs! I am now retired so this happened a LONG time ago. But I ended up dropping out TWICE. Once when one of my children had major surgery and again when life as a single mom without ANY support made it impossible. I later went back and completed. 

If you feel that you can stick it out now by all means please try? It may actually turn out to be a great distraction. And I agree with the person who said if she wasn't able to stick it out for the short time nursing school takes then life's unexpected ups and downs would also be too much. From someone who knows very well how devastated you must feel now, there really is someone out there who will support you through the worst life has to throw at you. I had this happen for me and believe it will happen for you too. 

You do not need anyone who doesn't want you.

Sorry to be blunt; I wrote it that way because if you were my younger sibling or such, I would want you to see things as they are and be actually empowered to move forward. Please, please do not spend much time feeling that you can't move forward because your educational efforts came into conflict with someone's superficial needs. I know this all feels horrible in the moment but it is true what they say--you are better off without this kind of thing. Try to process what I wrote in bold, reflect on it a little. You do not want to be the kind of person who is incapacitated because someone disrespected you and doesn't want to be with you. Aim to never again beg someone to want you. If they don't want you, you don't need them.

It is super immature and to consider a relationship dead because one partner is intensely working on a specific goal with a known time-frame for achievement. You are better off without that.

You're okay. There's nothing wrong with you. You don't need people like this.

Take care of you and get your butt going on your goals and dreams. ??

I'm really sorry you're going through this—it's heartbreaking, and it's okay to feel lost. Breakups are tough, especially when you thought you had a future with someone, and it's even harder when you're trying to balance all the emotions while keeping up with school. 

First off, it's important to remember that you did nothing wrong by prioritizing school and work—sometimes we do what we think is best at the moment, and it's not always easy to juggle everything. You've been through so much, but this doesn't define you or your future. 

Take it one step at a time—focus on getting through finals, and then you'll have more space to process everything. You'll get through this, and your drive will come back, even if it takes a little time to heal—you're stronger than you think.

I wanted to come back and reply to these comments after all this time to give an update. I did it. There were days I felt like quitting, days where I couldn't even figure out why I should keep going. It was honestly one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. I went through a lot of it on my own working, going to school, and dealing with everything internally at the same time. I still remember reading your comments back then and wondering if I was actually capable of doing this. I made this post when I felt like I was at my lowest, but I can say now that I pushed through. I passed my exit exam and I'm officially graduating from the program. Next stop is the NCLEX, and hopefully becoming an ED nurse. Thank you to everyone who took the time to comment and offer support when I needed it most, it meant more than you probably realize.