:crying2: Yesterday, I asked a classmate to help me out during our clinicals. I needed help turning a patient because he could not move at all in bed. Then the next thing I know, my classmate turned me in saying to the instructor that I did not know what I was doing. :crying2: :crying2: I know what I was doing, I just needed help on positioning a patient. It is my first semester and I am learning. If I knew she was going to do that, I would not asked her for help. I thought I could trust her. I did not know that I was going to get told on. :crying2: :crying2: Then the instructor acted really mean to me and said that I did not know what I was doing and was put on probation. :crying2: Why do classmates do this? Don't classmates suppose to help each other out or is it all back stabbing and war going on. Why did she do it? The patient was not in danger...Just to warn you, there are a lot of evil people out in the world, who would just back stab a person to get ahead. I do not know what her intentions were, but she was out to get me... :crying2: :crying2: :crying2:Anyway, I dared not to confront her, because she would tell on me again for asking the question on why I was turned in, then I would be out of the nursing program for sure..People are so cruel...I do not trust any of my classmates now, they will tell on a student... :crying2: I dare not to ask questions from students, because they will tell that I am incompetent.... :crying2: :crying2: :crying2: :crying2:
Maybe I was just lucky, but I remember my classmates being as helpful to me (and I to them) as my co-workers today are. The work we do requires teamwork, collaboration, and a spirit of helpfulness for one another. Always feeling like a victim of everybody else is very non-productive.
I, too, have a hard time believing this is all to the story. One is not placed on probation for asking for help in turning a patient, as was stated in the first post. On the contrary, we are REQUIRED to ask for help with patients who need extensive care, as they don't want US getting injured.
I'm going to keep my mouth shut about the tattoo comment. I was always told if I didn't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all - and I've got nothing nice to say!
i HAVE BEEN A NURSE FOR 7 YEARS AND I HAVE TO TELL YOU, THERE WILL ALWAYS BE SOMEONE LIKE THAT WHEREVER YOU GO. JUST GET THROUGH SHOOL, THAT IS THE TOUGHEST. DO NOT GO TO CLASSMATES, THEY ARE TO COMPETATIVE. IF YOU NEED HELP, ASK YOUR INSTRUCTOR WITH ASSISTANCE. I HAD A NURSING INSTRUCTOR WHO HATED ME. I BARELY PASSED HER ROTATION BECAUSE OF HER BUT, I JUST TRIED TO EXCEL IN ALL MY OTHER CLINICAL AREAS AND I MADE IT. YOU HAVE TO UNDERSTAND, NURSING IS EXTREMELY SELECTIVE.MY NURSING INSTRUCTORS MADE IT A CONTINUAL HABIT OF WEEDING OUT OUR CLASS. IF YOUR HAIR COLOR WAS WRONG,THEY KICKED YOU OUT,ETC. JUST DO YOUR BEST-IT IS ALL YOU CAN DO. REMEMBER,RIGHT NOW,YOU ARE A STUDENT. EVERYTHING IS VERY DIFFERENT IN THE REAL WORLD OF NURSING AND YOU WILL STILL MAKE MISTAKES. ITS A MATTER OF YOU LEARNING FROM THEM
I asked the instructor on what is the main reason about the probation. He told me that it was the report made by the other classmate. :crying2: :crying2: The patient with the wound was already there for two weeks in the hospital and I just seen him for only one day on his last day. The nurses with the licences were well aware of the wound. The patient was discharged the same day I was taking care of him. He did not die and there was no error done by me. A wound with a dressing suppose have blood. I just ran into a horrible student. She could have told me to report it to the instructor.. :crying2: The classmate probably did not like me, she probably said I was incompetent and I did not know what I was doing. :crying2: :crying2: Geez, how harsh is that...I am just a student..I trusted the wrong person...But if I knew she was going to report me for asking for help, I would have stayed away from her. I do ask for assistance from other students about many things. It does not make me incompetent...I am there to learn by having practice. Well I have to take responsibilty for my actions. The error I made was asking the wrong classmate for help and letting my classmate look at my patient. The action I have to take is that I should not trust anyone. :crying2: :crying2: All my classmates are potential backstabbers. :crying2: :crying2: When I go to the clinicals next week, WAR will be on my mind. Everyone out there is out to get me. :crying2: There would be no communication what so ever with my classmates. If i need help turning a patient, I will do it myself or ask a hospital staff member.
I was also put on probabtion in the past, but I made it through that one. This is a new one. The school wants to weed people out because it is an impacted program.. :crying2: :crying2:I am not blaming anyone on why am I on probation..I just trusted the wrong person and it was my fault.
The classmate probably did not like me, she probably said I was incompetent and I did not know what I was doing. :crying2: :crying2: Geez, how harsh is that...I am just a student..I trusted the wrong person...But if I knew she was going to report me for asking for help, I would have stayed away from her. I do ask for assistance from other students about many things. It does not make me incompetent...I am there to learn by having practice. Well I have to take responsibilty for my actions. The error I made was asking the wrong classmate for help and letting my classmate look at my patient. The action I have to take is that I should not trust anyone. :crying2: :crying2: All my classmates are potential backstabbers. :crying2: :crying2: When I go to the clinicals next week, WAR will be on my mind. Everyone out there is out to get me. :crying2: There would be no communication what so ever with my classmates. If i need help turning a patient, I will do it myself or ask a hospital staff member.
I was also put on probabtion in the past, but I made it through that one. This is a new one. The school wants to weed people out because it is an impacted program.. :crying2: :crying2:I am not blaming anyone on why am I on probation..I just trusted the wrong person and it was my fault.
Medicine and nursing are a team concept, in IMO, as strong as the weakest link. This is an area where mistakes can cost lives (at the very worst) and pain and suffering to patients if we are not responsible team players.
I'm going out on a limb here, but I would not want you on my team. If you are willing to blame everyone, not accept responsibility for your mistakes - I would not trust you to work w/ me.
Schools that weed people out usually do so for reasons besides being "impacted." Again, just my opinion, but I believe they want to graduate responsible caregivers.
If this is causing you such misery, and it follows you where ever you go, perhaps you need to look at yourself.
just focus on yourself and what you ned to do to graduate. Not everyone is out to get you, though some classmates are competitive and spiteful (some in my A&P lab deliberately have been telling other students the wrong info in the cadaver room and erasing info from the teacher that was onthe boards, sad to say the least.) However you are responsible for your own learning. Make i a point to ask the nurse that you are working with how you can improve and take the advice, same with your clinical instructor. Godd luck and don't start any "wars" it will only come back to bite you in the rear.
Any Psych Nurses reading this thread? Is this person paranoid?
From her last post she sounds like she's a danger to herself and or others.
This student needs to get to a Counsellor fast. She seems unstable, seeks a lot of help from her classmates, thinks the world is out to get her.
One last question, I know everybody's typing affects how they sound on here. But English definitely appears to be a second language with this student. Is her command of written/spoken English meeting her programs needs?
If this is the second time you have been put on probation, like you just said, then I have a stong suspicion this is not field for you. What are you leaving out of your sob story??
And I have to say, if you are so easily judgemental of your fellow nursing students (i.e. having tattoos), then how on earth are you going to be nonjudgemental of the patients that you are taking care of???
Just drop out of nursing already. You have a nasty "pity me" attitude that isn't appreciated anywhere. I think you have definately made that clear. Just for your info, if you keep up with this awful attitude towards OTHERS, imagine trying to care for a difficult/challenging patient who is yelling at you?!? Or angry family members? You are going to have problems in your career if you don't work out your issues.
HOW do you get on TWO probations during nursing school and STILL blame others for your actions? You blame: your classmate(s), your instructor, your SCHOOL for "trying to week out people". Look at yourself.
If you ever do become an RN, you will be ON YOUR OWN and every medication you give, every assessment you make will be YOUR responsibility and ultimately your fault if you mess up. Did you know that if an MD orders a wrong dose for a patient and you give it, its ultimately YOU who gets in trouble??????
Please get over being "mad at" your classmate. She did not report you for asking for help. That is ridiculous
The error I made was asking the wrong classmate for help and letting my classmate look at my patient. The action I have to take is that I should not trust anyone.
HELLO!?!?!?! The error you made was not reporting your abnormal assessment to your RN. I can't believe thats what you think you did wrong.
Sorry to be so negative, but I would never want someone with that attitude/track record taking care of me or anyone that I cared about.
I think there is a lot that you haven't told us about the situation.
I find it extremely hard to believe that this all had to do with asking for help to turn someone. Please tell us more.
Also want to add, that if you do not succeed at nursing school DO NOT BLAME ANYONE BUT YOURSELF. From reading the posts further I am starting to recognize a pattern that I saw in former classmates who did not make it through the program I was in.
#1) Most everyone (including the instructors) had it in for them
#2) Nothing that went wrong was their fault, if it had to do with an error it was the fault of someone else...this is what got me, whatever error they made they made because someone failed to do this or tell them about that therefore it was not their fault....ugh!
#3) Instructor's expectations of them was unreasonable (even though the same was expected of the rest of the class)
#4) Most everyone (including the intructors) had it in for them
I can't stress it enough. If you WANT to become a nurse you will. If you do something to get you kicked out of nursing school there was a GOOD REASON. There is nothing that is going to make me believe good hard working honest people get kicked out of school. From personal experience I know that a good attitude can take you further than brains can.
Well, I have to say that OK, you probably should have mentioned about the wound thing. But why in heaven's name all these people are ganging up on you, telling you that you should quit nursing school, and judging you so harshly ( I found the woman who tried to turn you into a psych nursing case particularly offensive) I can't tell. Especially without even knowing you or experiencing your practice for themselves. YOU ALL SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELVES. And I MEANT that to be capitalized.
It may help to talk to someone who is a little better trained in listening to your problems extensively. It's very easy to feel the way you do when someone DOES betray you like that. If she was a friend, she would have mentioned, in passing, that you might want to tell the instructor about the soaked dressing.
I've got 3 tatoos myself and wasn't too offended by your statement, I just got the feeling that perhaps you haven't met enough people with tatoos yet but you will. I have known conservatives who wear tatoos too. It's really not a big deal. And then, out of nowhere, people started talking about you're being from a different culture. You will find that, unfortunately, many Americans aren't very receptive to foreigners in nursing. It's a shame too, because we need you and there are times when having foreign nurses makes for better care of foreign patients whom American nurses can't always relate to appropriately. I am very sorry about the reaction you've received.
I also suggest taking responsibility for your boo-boo and move on. Remember the people on this board are making judgements based on just a very small amount of information that they receive from your posts. They don't know you, your genuine desire to be a nurse or your dedication. Only you know, deep down.
BTW, don't ever tell someone "not to go to classmates" because they are your support system in nursing school, they will build you up and criticize you when appropriate. That is the worst advice I have EVER heard, and suprising coming from an RN.
I agree, the caps are rude and very hard on the eyes. How do you expect us to read that? It hurts my eyes!
Going to classmates is important! I agree they are a huge support system, they know exactly what you're going through, and can really help out a lot!
:crying2: Yesterday, I asked a classmate to help me out during our clinicals. I needed help turning a patient because he could not move at all in bed. Then the next thing I know, my classmate turned me in saying to the instructor that I did not know what I was doing. 
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Maybe I was just lucky, but I remember my classmates being as helpful to me (and I to them) as my co-workers today are. The work we do requires teamwork, collaboration, and a spirit of helpfulness for one another. Always feeling like a victim of everybody else is very non-productive.