:crying2: Yesterday, I asked a classmate to help me out during our clinicals. I needed help turning a patient because he could not move at all in bed. Then the next thing I know, my classmate turned me in saying to the instructor that I did not know what I was doing. :crying2: :crying2: I know what I was doing, I just needed help on positioning a patient. It is my first semester and I am learning. If I knew she was going to do that, I would not asked her for help. I thought I could trust her. I did not know that I was going to get told on. :crying2: :crying2: Then the instructor acted really mean to me and said that I did not know what I was doing and was put on probation. :crying2: Why do classmates do this? Don't classmates suppose to help each other out or is it all back stabbing and war going on. Why did she do it? The patient was not in danger...Just to warn you, there are a lot of evil people out in the world, who would just back stab a person to get ahead. I do not know what her intentions were, but she was out to get me... :crying2: :crying2: :crying2:Anyway, I dared not to confront her, because she would tell on me again for asking the question on why I was turned in, then I would be out of the nursing program for sure..People are so cruel...I do not trust any of my classmates now, they will tell on a student... :crying2: I dare not to ask questions from students, because they will tell that I am incompetent.... :crying2: :crying2: :crying2: :crying2:
Very unfortunate, this situation you are in....BUT you have got to start taking ultimate responsibilty when it comes to nursing. Yes, an RN was supposed to take care of wound dressings, but you did not report it. That is ultimately your fault. You got put on probation, that is ultimately your fault; not the schools, not the girl w/a tattoo, not the instructor, YOUR fault. Now that you have cried about it and had a little pity party, what are you going to do to rectify the situation? As another poster stated before and I will state it again, LEARN IT, LIVE IT while you are in nursing school>>>report anything ABNORMAL to your instructor and then to the client's nurse. Doesn't matter what it is...if it's abnormal report it, even if it is just a little bit of blood. Of course your instructor is going to think you don't know what you are doing if you're not reporting abnormalities. My instructor tells us, "Nurses don't look for the things that are normal, we look for the ABnormal." Swallow your pride, your hurt, or whatever it is and request a meeting w/your instructor. Sit down and tell him what you are feeling, and ask him what you can do to improve your performance. 9 times out of 10, if an instructor sees you want to improve they are going to jump through hoops to get you through it. Lack of communication seems to be one of the problems. Not taking personal responsibility seems to be one of the others. Honey, did you think clinicals were going to be easy? They sure aren't, and you better get used to the criticism, constructive or not. Grow some thick skin and LEARN from your mistakes instead of wallowing in this self pity. Get up; dust yourself off; learn; make a plan for improvement; carry that plan out; and move on! Honey child, life is too short to be feeling sorry for yourself all the time.
BTW, I have a couple of tattoos, and most ppl consider me to be one of the most reliable and trustworthy ppl they know.
Sad, I really feel very badly for you. This is, I believe, the third thread you've made about troubles in your nursing program.
You have blamed the program, you've blamed the instructors, and now you are blaming another student.
As I mentioned once before, I think the cultural issue is the problem here. Generally people are not out to "get" others. You also should learn a bit more about American culture, so that you will understand that a tattoo is simply a personal preference and has no "deeper" meaning.
Weetz~
I do believe you've hit the nail on the head with this one...
I also have noticed the "trend" with the problems in nursing school, and I first looked when I saw the username "SAD".
There are many obstacles to overcome when going from one culture to another.
I agree with Weetzie, that you should sit down with the head of the program and discuss what exactly is to be expected of you and vice versa.
As far as the tattoos go, I have 3 and am a 41 year old grandmother. My tattoos have no bearing on my capacity to care as a nurse or to help as a student, or to love as a Mom, wife or Grandma.
Please know that here in America, many people have tattoos and there is no hidden message behind them. We do not belong to a secret group or organization, nor do we have to go through an orientation in order to get one.
God bless you Dear, and I hope you get things straightened up soon.
Nursing school isn't SAD, it's hectic and frustrating, but one of the best times I've ever had! :)
:crying2: :crying2: I am not being judemental, but she has a big colorful tattoo on her back.....So maybe they are right..........I trusted her and she goes on trying to get me kicked out of school? She COULD have told me to tell the instructor about the wound....But she had to go tell him herself to be all like a good nurse.....Anyway, I am very sad...I might not make it..........It is a community college, and the instructor sees failing students ALL the time.... :crying2: :crying2: May God be with me...... :crying2: :crying2: :crying2:
When you say someone stabbed you in the back because they have a tattoo, not only is it judgmental, but it is also completely lacking logic. I truly feel badly for you having such a rough time. However, in all honesty, I think you'll be much better off when you start taking responsibility for yourself, your actions, and the lack thereof. You are the only person who can make this better. Either you are going to get a grip and make positive changes, or you aren't. Regardless, now is a great time to make that decision.
I honestly think you have to start being accountable for your actions. That's part of being a nurse.
I keep seeing a "poor me" thread. Who would you blame if you graduate? The patient for being noncompliant?
I know I sound harsh, but like a few others have suggested, I think you need to sit down with a counsellor and re-evaluate why you want to be nurse. Is it for prestige, the pay, a desire to help others?
Specializes in LTC, assisted living, med-surg, psych.
I'm sorry, but I'm going to call this one as I see it: this poster appears to be quite immature, and she evidently sees the world only as it relates to her, which does not bode well for her nursing career at this point in her life. Perhaps it would be better for her to grow up a little and then, if she still wants to become a nurse, to try again in a few years. The lessons to be learned from life's experiences are lost if we blame other people, circumstances, or just bad karma for the adverse events in our lives; and until we learn to take responsibility for our part in bringing them about, we just keep doing the same things that get us into trouble over and over again.
This is the pattern I'm seeing here. Sad, in my opinion the kindest thing you can do for yourself, and your future patients, is to take a long look at yourself and your motives for wanting to be a nurse. Then, give yourself some time to get some life experience before you go back to school. You sound like someone who could be a good nurse in a few years.........I don't know how old you are, but you seem to be rather naive, and you've got some hard lessons to learn about life before you'll be ready to take on a job that requires as much 'street smarts' as nursing.
I don't mean to be hurtful, but I work with students every day, and there are always one or two out of every clinical group who are just not yet at a place in life where they have the wisdom and the maturity to handle this type of work. You sound like you are in this category......it doesn't make you a bad person, just someone who's not ready to be a nurse yet. :)
Obviously your fellow student felt you were being unsafe. Maybe he/she has SEEN you perform other "incompetent" acts while in clinical, and she feels that you are not practicing at a level that you should be at.
Your instructor would not put you on clinical probation if she did not have good reason for it. Talk to her about why if you have issues with it. I am suprised she did not sit down with you and talk it over with you
Being a nursing student, I have gone to my instructors when a nursing student has done something "incompetent" and IMO very dangerous for patients. I am in my last semester of nursing school and when a student draws up insulin and gives it w/o checking it with the RN or the instructor, I am sorry but I have to step it. Even nursing students are patient advocates and luckily nothing happened to the patient, but you can imagine that my instructor was ON HER for the rest of the rotation. She did eventually get dropped from this rotation b/c of being unsafe (instructor had observed her doing multiple unsafe things in clinic). There is nothing wrong with a student "telling on you" if you are unsafe.
Not reporting the dressing change thing in your situation, thats going a little far to be telling on you for that. At the same time, I don't think we are getting the whole story. You have a lot of wishywashy things going on (you like the instructor??? the tattoo thing?) come on. There is more to the story that we don't know, and I am sure your classmate had good reason to go to your instructor, and I am sure your instructor had good reason to put you on probation.
What the others on here have posted is right. I just want to add that if you just do YOUR best, not worry about someone else, remain accountable and responsible, you'll make it. It's really that simple. Nobody is out to get you, and if they are, if you just do what YOU"RE supposed to, so what!
And tattoos have nothing at all to do with conservativeness, My friend has a big colorful one across her lower back, and she is the sweetest, most conservative person I know.
Having a username like "SAD", makes me wonder.... How can you tell if someone is conservative or not by looking at them? A person could wear an expensive suit and have three tattoos and be conservative or wear an expensive suit, with tattoos on each arm and be very liberal. My sons have tattoos and each one is soooo different from the other. What does being conservative or not have to do with school? I know conservatives who lie. Politicians are an example. :)
Even if you are not allowed to touch the wound dressing, you should have told the nurse responsible for the patient that there was drainage on the dressing. It's part of the job. As a nurse on the floor in the future, you will cover for your fellow nurses when they are on break, etc., giving info to each other will be part of the job. Plus helping each other turn or reposition a patient is not wrong, it's a part of common sense, it saves your back from injury. So I don't understand why you couldn't ask for help. As the others said there has to be more to this.
i HAVE BEEN A NURSE FOR 7 YEARS AND I HAVE TO TELL YOU, THERE WILL ALWAYS BE SOMEONE LIKE THAT WHEREVER YOU GO. JUST GET THROUGH SHOOL, THAT IS THE TOUGHEST. DO NOT GO TO CLASSMATES, THEY ARE TO COMPETATIVE. IF YOU NEED HELP, ASK YOUR INSTRUCTOR WITH ASSISTANCE. I HAD A NURSING INSTRUCTOR WHO HATED ME. I BARELY PASSED HER ROTATION BECAUSE OF HER BUT, I JUST TRIED TO EXCEL IN ALL MY OTHER CLINICAL AREAS AND I MADE IT. YOU HAVE TO UNDERSTAND, NURSING IS EXTREMELY SELECTIVE.MY NURSING INSTRUCTORS MADE IT A CONTINUAL HABIT OF WEEDING OUT OUR CLASS. IF YOUR HAIR COLOR WAS WRONG,THEY KICKED YOU OUT,ETC. JUST DO YOUR BEST-IT IS ALL YOU CAN DO. REMEMBER,RIGHT NOW,YOU ARE A STUDENT. EVERYTHING IS VERY DIFFERENT IN THE REAL WORLD OF NURSING AND YOU WILL STILL MAKE MISTAKES. ITS A MATTER OF YOU LEARNING FROM THEM
SAD, not sure whether you are cut out to be a nurse or not... but it is a cold cruel world out there.
Some of your statements and preconceived ideas about people make me think that you may be a horrible caregiver and quite prejudiced as well. You decided to think ill of your fellow student, not for doing you wrong but because she had a tattoo...How would you feel about me pulling up in full leathers on my Harley to care for you??? Can I be a good nurse and a Harley dude??? Just out of curiousity, since I ride a Harley, can I be conservative?
Your instructor may be doing the world a favor...
Please seek some help, and stop on a public forumn.
i HAVE BEEN A NURSE FOR 7 YEARS AND I HAVE TO TELL YOU, THERE WILL ALWAYS BE SOMEONE LIKE THAT WHEREVER YOU GO. JUST GET THROUGH SHOOL, THAT IS THE TOUGHEST. DO NOT GO TO CLASSMATES, THEY ARE TO COMPETATIVE. IF YOU NEED HELP, ASK YOUR INSTRUCTOR WITH ASSISTANCE. I HAD A NURSING INSTRUCTOR WHO HATED ME. I BARELY PASSED HER ROTATION BECAUSE OF HER BUT, I JUST TRIED TO EXCEL IN ALL MY OTHER CLINICAL AREAS AND I MADE IT. YOU HAVE TO UNDERSTAND, NURSING IS EXTREMELY SELECTIVE.MY NURSING INSTRUCTORS MADE IT A CONTINUAL HABIT OF WEEDING OUT OUR CLASS. IF YOUR HAIR COLOR WAS WRONG,THEY KICKED YOU OUT,ETC. JUST DO YOUR BEST-IT IS ALL YOU CAN DO. REMEMBER,RIGHT NOW,YOU ARE A STUDENT. EVERYTHING IS VERY DIFFERENT IN THE REAL WORLD OF NURSING AND YOU WILL STILL MAKE MISTAKES. ITS A MATTER OF YOU LEARNING FROM THEM
The caps are definately rude
Oh and I am SURE that your instructor tried to kick people out for having "the wrong hair color". I hope you were being sarcastic
I'm sure your nursing instructor had good reason to "hate you" too. Believe me they don't just "hate people" for no reason.
BTW, don't ever tell someone "not to go to classmates" because they are your support system in nursing school, they will build you up and criticize you when appropriate. That is the worst advice I have EVER heard, and suprising coming from an RN.
:crying2: Yesterday, I asked a classmate to help me out during our clinicals. I needed help turning a patient because he could not move at all in bed. Then the next thing I know, my classmate turned me in saying to the instructor that I did not know what I was doing. 
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Sad,
Very unfortunate, this situation you are in....BUT you have got to start taking ultimate responsibilty when it comes to nursing. Yes, an RN was supposed to take care of wound dressings, but you did not report it. That is ultimately your fault. You got put on probation, that is ultimately your fault; not the schools, not the girl w/a tattoo, not the instructor, YOUR fault. Now that you have cried about it and had a little pity party, what are you going to do to rectify the situation? As another poster stated before and I will state it again, LEARN IT, LIVE IT while you are in nursing school>>>report anything ABNORMAL to your instructor and then to the client's nurse. Doesn't matter what it is...if it's abnormal report it, even if it is just a little bit of blood. Of course your instructor is going to think you don't know what you are doing if you're not reporting abnormalities. My instructor tells us, "Nurses don't look for the things that are normal, we look for the ABnormal." Swallow your pride, your hurt, or whatever it is and request a meeting w/your instructor. Sit down and tell him what you are feeling, and ask him what you can do to improve your performance. 9 times out of 10, if an instructor sees you want to improve they are going to jump through hoops to get you through it. Lack of communication seems to be one of the problems. Not taking personal responsibility seems to be one of the others. Honey, did you think clinicals were going to be easy? They sure aren't, and you better get used to the criticism, constructive or not. Grow some thick skin and LEARN from your mistakes instead of wallowing in this self pity. Get up; dust yourself off; learn; make a plan for improvement; carry that plan out; and move on! Honey child, life is too short to be feeling sorry for yourself all the time.
BTW, I have a couple of tattoos, and most ppl consider me to be one of the most reliable and trustworthy ppl they know.