Classmate told on me on clinical about what I was doing, I was put on probation *sob*

[sad]

:crying2: Yesterday, I asked a classmate to help me out during our clinicals. I needed help turning a patient because he could not move at all in bed. Then the next thing I know, my classmate turned me in saying to the instructor that I did not know what I was doing. :crying2: :crying2: I know what I was doing, I just needed help on positioning a patient. It is my first semester and I am learning. If I knew she was going to do that, I would not asked her for help. I thought I could trust her. I did not know that I was going to get told on. :crying2: :crying2: Then the instructor acted really mean to me and said that I did not know what I was doing and was put on probation. :crying2: Why do classmates do this? Don't classmates suppose to help each other out or is it all back stabbing and war going on. Why did she do it? The patient was not in danger...Just to warn you, there are a lot of evil people out in the world, who would just back stab a person to get ahead. I do not know what her intentions were, but she was out to get me... :crying2: :crying2: :crying2:Anyway, I dared not to confront her, because she would tell on me again for asking the question on why I was turned in, then I would be out of the nursing program for sure..People are so cruel...I do not trust any of my classmates now, they will tell on a student... :crying2: I dare not to ask questions from students, because they will tell that I am incompetent.... :crying2: :crying2: :crying2: :crying2:

[kahumai, RN]

In my opinion, students aren't out to "get" one another; they're there to help. I would think that if you were turning a patient and got put on probation for something a fellow student said you did/did not do, it would be because that student had the patient's best interest at heart and there may have been something you did to put that patient in jeopardy. I know that I would never tell the instructor if I saw a student do something unless I legitimately felt that the patient was at risk for injury. Like someone else (or several people) have said: Own up to your mistakes. Yes, you're in clinicals, and yes you're a student. But you're supposed to be the "real deal" in what, 2 years??? That's right around the corner and when that title comes THERE'S NO ROOM FOR MISTAKES!!!!!!! I also suggest talking to a counselor to deal with your apparent issues with coping as well. School is supposed to be hard, but since we love what we do, we're not supposed to be "sad" all the time. It's supposed to be challenging, but fun. Hopefully next semester we'll see some smiley faces in your posts!!! Good Luck. :) :) :) :) :)

[michelleicu]

a tatoo is just a permanent body decoration it doesn't change the person.i've been wanting to get a tatoo for a while now just have'nt got time to do it.my tatoo is going to say"nurses do it better" .ha ha

[VizslaMom]

Good Grief Sad!

If nursing school is this miserable for you then PLEASE find another major.

This totally reminds me of a student that "was" in my ADN class. She never could accept responsibility for any mistakes that she made...and was VERY manipulative. To make a very long story short, she ended up making a horse's orifice out of herself one day in front of the entire class. This student had the nerve to approach our OB instructor while she was lecturing and literally YELLED at the instructor that she (instructor) and some of the class was out to get her (the student), etc... She was very aggressive. I almost thought she was going to attack our instructor.

This student never made it through the program BTW. :)

[Monica RN,BSN]

well I too have spent the last non-productive hour reading this pity party, and if sad is for real.. she is one scary creature for sure. I have been a nurse for 16 yrs, and we know the diversity of those we care for. Nurses must be caring, compassionate, and nonjudgemental for the world is made up of all types. I get concerned in regards to a previous post from sad expressing suicidal ideation. SAD you need professional help and you need help FAST! A woman of 37 should have enough common knowledge to understand life well enough that everyone is not evil. and if this is a hoax.... you are really a true basket case. So either way, real story... disaster witing to happen.. if you are a fake... serious instability.... I am an instructor, and I own a school for healthcare education. We love opur students, they are our leaders for the future.. students will only be successful if they have the will to be sucessful, otherwise.... you should not be a nurse... maybe TV acting? maybe a Jerry Springer interview? I don't know.... be anything...just not a nurse..

OK... I will say sorry now... but the point is, you have serious .. I mean very serious problems with being unhappy with YOU. You hate you, life and everything around you... until you can find happiness in yourself, you will never find peace in this competative world of today... If you were 18, I could identify better... but 37? If you have kids, what would you say to them for tattle tailing... they all do it... (kids I mean) what kind of a role model would you be acting like a kid yourself?

Just a thought..... sorry your world is in such a mess. Only you can change it...ONLY YOU!

[NurseFirst]

Good Grief Sad!

If nursing school is this miserable for you then PLEASE find another major.

Time to take stock.

Sad, you need to find someone you can trust. If you cannot find someone you can trust, you have serious, serious emotional problems.

Actually, when it comes to clinical, I'm more afraid for my patients than I am about passing nursing school. I do not want to pass nursing school if I will not be a safe practitioner! I've been written up, too. And guess what? I deserved it. I've learned from it. And I've carried on. Being written up, or being on probation, is not the worst thing in the world. Killing someone, harming someone...is far, far worse.

Okay, perhaps you weren't in the wrong in this situation. But then why did the instructor go along with the student? Do you mean that the instructor did not check out situation for himself? Did he not check with the other student in the room?

The way I see it, one of two things is true: 1) either this school is truly messed up, in which case you should run as far away from it as possible; or 2) you are not sharing the reality of the other people in the program. This is a problem. It is clearly a huge problem for you. You need to find a way to resolve this: either figure out the school is messed up and leave, or decide that you need to approach the situation in a different way.

If you think the world is cold...well, I have yet to hear you say anything good about anyone. Do you not have a support system? You cannot get through nursing school without a support system. It just ain't gonna happen. And the support system that is going to be most valuable to you will be your fellow nursing students and your nursing instructors. If you cannot find support in these people--GET OUT! Find a place where you can...and if you can't, then you need to take a long, long hard look at yourself.

You also need some form of stress relief. Clearly, you are not gaining stress relief through a support system. You need to be able to laugh, and joke and kick back. Some of the experiences in nursing school are so unique that the only way you can make sense out of them without losing your sanity is by getting feedback from your fellow students and instructors. You WILL NOT be able to survive nursing or nursing school "on your own." The patients are amazing; I am constantly amazed and humbled by them, and by the privilege and honor to be put in a situation to be of such profound service to others.

Who are you, sad? Why do you want to be a nurse? Why are you willing to put up with such pain?

Please find places and times where you can smile and love and laugh; find people that you can smile at and with, love and laugh with.

Good luck to you, and God bless. I hope you find a way to resolve your pain...

NurseFirst

[weetziebat]

Sad, after reading your last few posts, I too have to wonder if you are for real. You sound so very miserable, turn to the bb for help, and then completely ignore the excellent advice given you. How can you not see the fact that it is not the program's fault, it is not instructors "beating" you, and it is not about other students, with tattoos, out to "get" you.......it is about you not taking responsibility for your own actions and inactions.

I don't know how long you have been in the U.S. - as I recall you said you are Chinese. I am very aware of how difficult it is to live in another culture, but you don't even seem to be aware of the differences in cultures. I've never been to China, but do you think maybe you are feeling and acting in a way that would be appropriate for a Chinese nursing student and not realizing how differently things are done here?

Also your thinking that you should not trust anyone is pretty skewed. How can you hope to be a nurse and not trust your peers? It is the same thing. I think everyone here is trying to help you and I only hope you will open your mind enough to read the answers to you carefully and think about them. We want to help you but there is a limit to how much others can do when you won't help yourself.

[mattsmom81]

When a person is extremely stressed and hurt they can easily fall into a depression...where everything is exagerated and the world seems a very hostile place.

I don't understand, but it seems in the nature of some people to 'pile on' hurt when someone reaches out for help or shows a weakness. Do not take to heart the negative things you may hear from acquaintances right now....take what helps you and then reach out to someone who you trust to try and iron out what is happening in your life, what you need to do about it, and then where you go from there.

In time you may gain insight but it sounds like you are very stressed right now and need to decompress before that can happen. Get some hugs from those who love you today.

[crb613, BSN, RN]

I am also thinking this person is not for real. Just think about it if this type of person WAS in a nursing program couldn't her instructors see the same thing we do??? I doubt very seriously if she would be allowed to continue in this state of mind.I think its pretty crappy of anyone to do this so as far as i'm concerned i'm through with it. Oh well live & learn.

[Maggie in NC]

I am probably going to get flamed for this but oh well. I don't feel sorry for you. You are letting yourself be a victim. As Dr. Phil would say, "Why should we help you if you won't help yourself?" Are you seriously going to tell me that there is such a lack of professionalism at your school that A STUDENT can "tell" an instructor you did something wrong and that's all it takes to be put on probation? I find that extremely hard to believe. Moreover, IF that did happen, you're going to "LET" it stick without a fight/or questioning it? What exactly do you think? Things are just going to get better if you don't do anything, you know-TAKE SOME ACTION, to FIX it?

Wake up and smell some reality. YOU OWN YOUR ACTIONS, YOU OWN YOUR FUTURE, YOU OWN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHERS. You are predestined to fail with remarks like, "You guys don't understand, being on probation means I have to do everything perfect." So, are you saying you're not trying to do them perfect NOW? Are you seeing my point yet? Cuz I could go on...

I don't want anyone to think I don't have compassion for people, I do, but, I'm not about to give it away for free. YOU EARN COMPASSION FROM PEOPLE. What have YOU done to earn it? As Third Shift Guy Said, (which I loved and laughed at-by the way) "Stop whining." I'm not heartless, I'm sure you're stunned by the actions of others in your class but, their actions should not determine your future, YOURS SHOULD.

I'm going to get some new color ink in my tatoo now, then I think I'll go to church. Because, you know, I need to pray to be more conservative. I LOVE SNUGGY. HA HA HA:rotfl:

[canoehead, BSN, RN]

Pity party's over....