:crying2: Yesterday, I asked a classmate to help me out during our clinicals. I needed help turning a patient because he could not move at all in bed. Then the next thing I know, my classmate turned me in saying to the instructor that I did not know what I was doing. :crying2: :crying2: I know what I was doing, I just needed help on positioning a patient. It is my first semester and I am learning. If I knew she was going to do that, I would not asked her for help. I thought I could trust her. I did not know that I was going to get told on. :crying2: :crying2: Then the instructor acted really mean to me and said that I did not know what I was doing and was put on probation. :crying2: Why do classmates do this? Don't classmates suppose to help each other out or is it all back stabbing and war going on. Why did she do it? The patient was not in danger...Just to warn you, there are a lot of evil people out in the world, who would just back stab a person to get ahead. I do not know what her intentions were, but she was out to get me... :crying2: :crying2: :crying2:Anyway, I dared not to confront her, because she would tell on me again for asking the question on why I was turned in, then I would be out of the nursing program for sure..People are so cruel...I do not trust any of my classmates now, they will tell on a student... :crying2: I dare not to ask questions from students, because they will tell that I am incompetent.... :crying2: :crying2: :crying2: :crying2:
The error I made was asking the wrong classmate for help and letting my classmate look at my patient. The action I have to take is that I should not trust anyone.
Well, it's obvious that you haven't learned a thing from the responses in this thread and that's unfortunate.
I also feel that Sad should seek professional help, personally I know that when you're thoughts are always so negative and tending towards paranoia there is in fact a problem! Medication and counselling are not bad things, they can make you a much happier person, and someone who is able to deal with being a student and in the future an RN
As you are presently I would definately not want you working with me, you would be dangerous! Asking questions is absolutely vital, and nothing scares me more than a Student or New Grad that doesn't ask questions.
I work in an environment where we support each other and are continually asking each other and discussing courses of action, and then going further when needed. You cannot practice in isolation in the hospital environment, and to try to do otherwise when you haven't had the education and experience is foolhardy. The area in which I work is not unique, it occurs in many, many places the world over, we are not all backstabbing and out to get others, life is way, way too short for that.
Thanks for the support...I think I should not post here anymore since everyone is against me.
Once again, "everyone" is out to get her...
I need to clear something up. I have gotten quite a few notifications from this site in regard to this poor soul. This is not addressed to SAD or to any of the obviously intelligent folks who have listened to her revolting pity party. This is to the Web site. I am respectfully asking that you not send me EMails addressing me as if I am this pitiful soul. I assure you, I am not SAD, I am not a nursing student. I am a retired Army nurse, and if there is something I said besides Thank you to this poor soul for saying she would not post again, that in any way led people to think that I am this person, I assure you I am not. Apologies for taking up your time. Have a good day.
GreenGables, when you set up your profile did you request email notification of posts?? That's probably what is happening....when anyone posts AFTER your post you get notification at your email address.
You need to change your profile if you don't want to get notification.
Thanks for the support...I think I should not post here anymore since everyone is against me.
We are NOT all against you. We care enough to post in response to your problems. A lot of people have given suggestions and advice to your situation. What more do you want us to say?
The reality of it is, you're on probation. Now learn from being on probation. You keep saying that this experience has taught you to not trust classmates in the future. That shouldn't be what you take away from this experience. You need to talk with the instructors and show that you understand what your mistake was and that in the future you'll know what to do differently so you won't be put on probation again.
What else do you want us to tell you?
I truly do wish you the best in the future. We are not all against you, why do you think that?
We are NOT all against you. We care enough to post in response to your problems. A lot of people have given suggestions and advice to your situation. What more do you want us to say?
The reality of it is, you're on probation. Now learn from being on probation. You keep saying that this experience has taught you to not trust classmates in the future. That shouldn't be what you take away from this experience. You need to talk with the instructors and show that you understand what your mistake was and that in the future you'll know what to do differently so you won't be put on probation again.
What else do you want us to tell you?
I truly do wish you the best in the future. We are not all against you, why do you think that?
:crying2: You see I was right, the people who posted negative things about me, would probably do some evil things in real life....The world is very cold...This post reflects that and I should not trust my classmates...A lot of people told me to quit school because I am not competetent. Some people said that they want to do me in because I am not the same race and so on..Other people told me that I am just crazy:crying2: :crying2: These people who said those things, are nursing students also....So yes, I am right...I should watch my back at all times and not trust people..If you think I should not do that, look at this whole thread and see what you think about human interactions.... :crying2: I am very bummed out now...There is an exam and a long term paper due on Monday..My focus is very shot... :crying2: The girl who told on me, acted like nothing happened on that day and she was laughing and smiling and talking to people... :crying2: Now look at me? Who is right and who is wrong..You can say that she did the right thing and I was wrong...Well, so everytime I talk to people now, I have to watch what I say and do..Because classmates will inform the instructor...Like for example, suppose I had a conversation with a student on how I disliked the hospital and then that conversation would be reported to the instructor...Do you see my thinking?? :crying2:
:crying2: You see I was right, the people who posted negative things about me, would probably do some evil things in real life....The world is very cold...This post reflects that and I should not trust my classmates
Do you see my thinking?? :crying2:
My post reflects that the world is very cold and that you should not trust your classmates?!?!?! Are you serious?! That's like a slap in the face.
The "she told on me" thing is getting old. My kids "tell" on each other. Adults don't "tell".
Do you not understand that your classmates saw a reason to be concerned with the care you were giving, and notified the instructor of what they saw? What is wrong with that? That is how we learn. We're not dealing with overcharging someone for a jacket or sandwich, or selling the wrong size shoes to a lady - we're dealing with LIVES, and our actions can and do have very serious consequences. The schools only want to graduate students that KNOW what they are doing, that UNDERSTAND the how's and why's of what they are doing, not students who want to pick the best person to help them because that person won't "tell" when the student does something wrong or misses something. It's not a race to see who finishes first and best.
Is this person for real, or we all being duped? The sheer number of those makes me wonder.
I can tell you that if the attitude exhibited here by the OP is an on-going thing, there is little possibility for success in anything. That kind of "poor me" and "everybody is out to get me" stuff will make others suspicious and in short time, cause them to avoid you at all costs. They will learn that you are not to be trusted, not the other way around.
As was noted in another post, in nursing as well as in many other professions, you must be able to question each other and ask questions of each other. I know we sure do on my unit. We're always picking each others' brains, sometimes just to better delineate our own thoughts on a problem.
:crying2: Yesterday, I asked a classmate to help me out during our clinicals. I needed help turning a patient because he could not move at all in bed. Then the next thing I know, my classmate turned me in saying to the instructor that I did not know what I was doing. 
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Well, it's obvious that you haven't learned a thing from the responses in this thread and that's unfortunate.