:crying2: Yesterday, I asked a classmate to help me out during our clinicals. I needed help turning a patient because he could not move at all in bed. Then the next thing I know, my classmate turned me in saying to the instructor that I did not know what I was doing. :crying2: :crying2: I know what I was doing, I just needed help on positioning a patient. It is my first semester and I am learning. If I knew she was going to do that, I would not asked her for help. I thought I could trust her. I did not know that I was going to get told on. :crying2: :crying2: Then the instructor acted really mean to me and said that I did not know what I was doing and was put on probation. :crying2: Why do classmates do this? Don't classmates suppose to help each other out or is it all back stabbing and war going on. Why did she do it? The patient was not in danger...Just to warn you, there are a lot of evil people out in the world, who would just back stab a person to get ahead. I do not know what her intentions were, but she was out to get me... :crying2: :crying2: :crying2:Anyway, I dared not to confront her, because she would tell on me again for asking the question on why I was turned in, then I would be out of the nursing program for sure..People are so cruel...I do not trust any of my classmates now, they will tell on a student... :crying2: I dare not to ask questions from students, because they will tell that I am incompetent.... :crying2: :crying2: :crying2: :crying2:
Any Psych Nurses reading this thread? Is this person paranoid?
From her last post she sounds like she's a danger to herself and or others.
This student needs to get to a Counsellor fast. She seems unstable, seeks a lot of help from her classmates, thinks the world is out to get her.
One last question, I know everybody's typing affects how they sound on here. But English definitely appears to be a second language with this student. Is her command of written/spoken English meeting her programs needs?
I noticed that as well. It went beyond the usual spelling errors/typos. This would also pose as a real problem if such errors were charted on legal documents.
Reading your last comment Sad made me see that perhaps a trip to your Dr. is in order for some meds, and then maybe some weekly counseling. If you think all of your fellow classmates are out to get you, there's something seriously wrong with you, and it's not fair to them. And why on earth would you go into a healtchcare facility clinicals or not, thinking this is "WAR"? Excuse me, it takes more than one person to provide good healthcare....you have got to learn to trust ppl a little, they're not all bad. :) TEAMWORK:)
"I think the cultural issue is the problem here" I think weetziebat is right. Lots of cultural differences that are causing things to be taken differently than they are intended? Maybe......
You said in another post that you chose the name "sad" because nursing school is sad. Why is it so sad? Nursing school shouldn't be sad. Like another poster said, nursingi school is frustrating and stressful, but it shouldn't be a completely sad time.
From your other posts, everything is so sad and negative. Why? Why all the :crying2: :crying2: ?
In the first post you just state that the classmate told on you because you asked help with turning a patient. You left out the part about the wound. Why did you leave that out? What else are you leaving out? The wound should have been reported not only because it's part of your job as a student but because you should have wanted to! If I had a wound that was bleeding through the dressing I would have wanted someone to tell the nurse about it, therefore as a student, if I would have seen a wound like that I would have reported it.... because it's just the right thing to do FOR the patient. Don't do things just because you'll get in trouble if you don't, do things because these patients are looking up to you, they are sick, and need care.
I don't mean to be mean, I don't think any of us mean to be harsh, we're just trying to understand what's going on.
But why in heaven's name all these people are ganging up on you, telling you that you should quit nursing school, and judging you so harshly ( I found the woman who tried to turn you into a psych nursing case particularly offensive) I can't tell. Especially without even knowing you or experiencing your practice for themselves. YOU ALL SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELVES. And I MEANT that to be capitalized.
I don't think anyone here is going out of their way to be mean. But if you look through sad's previous posts you'll see they are all posts filled with sad stories, lots of s, etc. You can only cry wolf so many times.
Well, I have to say that OK, you probably should have mentioned about the wound thing. But why in heaven's name all these people are ganging up on you, telling you that you should quit nursing school, and judging you so harshly ( I found the woman who tried to turn you into a psych nursing case particularly offensive) I can't tell. Especially without even knowing you or experiencing your practice for themselves. YOU ALL SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELVES. And I MEANT that to be capitalized.
I don't really see anyone ganging up on "sad."
In my experience, people that leave out details, do not take responsibility for their own situation, look to blame others at every turn for their misfortune in an attempt to gain sympathy/support are not the best to work w/ or be around. Granted, the info is limited via this communication format, but looking at "sad"'s other posts, it is a common theme.
Re the "psych" poster, I sensed genuine concern, not bashing or an attempt to put "sad" down.
Yes, only "sad" knows how much this goal means, but school is meant to train us for what is coming after graduation...
WOW!! I was afraid at first to post my thoughts when I first read this post from SAD because I felt maybe I was going to be too harsh on the student but I have to comment.If SAD is finding nursing school and fellow students this stressful, the real world of nursing will scare the ***** out of her.Her use of English and the jumbled way she expresses herself is deplorable...how do you get to clinicals when you can not put 2 thoughts together? If she is going to judge others on outward apperances heaven help her future patients...there is way more to this picture that what SAD has painted and I feel perhaps a career change might be in order...as a nurse manager I have challenged those that work with me..do not come to me with a problem unless you have a solution in mind..this means, have accountability for your actions,ask for direction from the proper source and use your resources you have avaiable to you...as a student you are accountable to your instructor and the nurse you are working with,the only stupid question is the one that is not asked. Seriously rethink your options as far as careers go..do what you love, not what you think someone thinks you ought to do, or you think the money will be fantanstic..do what you feeel in your heart you will be good at.Administrators,nurse managers,fellow nurses and patients do not have time for people that do not hold their own and go crying everytime something does not go the way they think it should..be truthful with yourself ( if not us) and admit the real reason you are on probation and examine what really got you there.....good luck and search your heart for the truth...
Well, I have to say that OK, you probably should have mentioned about the wound thing. But why in heaven's name all these people are ganging up on you, telling you that you should quit nursing school, and judging you so harshly ( I found the woman who tried to turn you into a psych nursing case particularly offensive) I can't tell. Especially without even knowing you or experiencing your practice for themselves. YOU ALL SHOULD BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELVES. And I MEANT that to be capitalized.
It may help to talk to someone who is a little better trained in listening to your problems extensively. It's very easy to feel the way you do when someone DOES betray you like that. If she was a friend, she would have mentioned, in passing, that you might want to tell the instructor about the soaked dressing.
I've got 3 tatoos myself and wasn't too offended by your statement, I just got the feeling that perhaps you haven't met enough people with tatoos yet but you will. I have known conservatives who wear tatoos too. It's really not a big deal. And then, out of nowhere, people started talking about you're being from a different culture. You will find that, unfortunately, many Americans aren't very receptive to foreigners in nursing. It's a shame too, because we need you and there are times when having foreign nurses makes for better care of foreign patients whom American nurses can't always relate to appropriately. I am very sorry about the reaction you've received.
I also suggest taking responsibility for your boo-boo and move on. Remember the people on this board are making judgements based on just a very small amount of information that they receive from your posts. They don't know you, your genuine desire to be a nurse or your dedication. Only you know, deep down.
Well, I hope things work out.
Thanks for the support...I think I should not post here anymore since everyone is against me. You see there was another classmate with me during the time I was turning the patient. He saw the exact wound with the patch on it and he did not think anything about it like I did. I told him about it and he said that the classmate who told on me was a snitch b itch (informant). Also, the classmate who told on me, was on the other side of the bed and she just saw a little blood on the bed and she did not have a clear view on what was exactly there. She thought it was an open wound with blood coming out.. Anyway, I cannot trust my classmates anymore because it is like in a work environment where people back stab each other to get ahead..
Thanks for the support...I think I should not post here anymore since everyone is against me. You see there was another classmate with me during the time I was turning the patient. He saw the exact wound with the patch on it and he did not think anything about it like I did. I told him about it and he said that the classmate who told on me was a snitch b itch (informant). Also, the classmate who told on me, was on the other side of the bed and she just saw a little blood on the bed and she did not have a clear view on what was exactly there. She thought it was an open wound with blood coming out.. Anyway, I cannot trust my classmates anymore because it is like in a work environment where people back stab each other to get ahead..
Thanks for the support...I think I should not post here anymore since everyone is against me. You see there was another classmate with me during the time I was turning the patient. He saw the exact wound with the patch on it and he did not think anything about it like I did. I told him about it and he said that the classmate who told on me was a snitch b itch (informant). Also, the classmate who told on me, was on the other side of the bed and she just saw a little blood on the bed and she did not have a clear view on what was exactly there. She thought it was an open wound with blood coming out.. Anyway, I cannot trust my classmates anymore because it is like in a work environment where people back stab each other to get ahead..
SAD>>>SAD>>SAD......like I said..be truthful with yourself!!!!! Your story keeps taking on new dimensions every time you tell it!! We are not all against you but we are for the TRUTH...there are back stabbers and brown nosers the world over but when we come up against them we take steps to over come them not become one of them OR we fight like hell to steer clear of them..become part of the solution and not more of the problem..be proactive and not reactive....I could go on and on but you wil not hear what you do not want too......
I asked the instructor on what is the main reason about the probation. He told me that it was the report made by the other classmate. :crying2: :crying2: The patient with the wound was already there for two weeks in the hospital and I just seen him for only one day on his last day. The nurses with the licences were well aware of the wound. The patient was discharged the same day I was taking care of him. He did not die and there was no error done by me. A wound with a dressing suppose have blood. I just ran into a horrible student. She could have told me to report it to the instructor.. :crying2: The classmate probably did not like me, she probably said I was incompetent and I did not know what I was doing. :crying2: :crying2: Geez, how harsh is that...I am just a student..I trusted the wrong person...But if I knew she was going to report me for asking for help, I would have stayed away from her. I do ask for assistance from other students about many things. It does not make me incompetent...I am there to learn by having practice. Well I have to take responsibilty for my actions. The error I made was asking the wrong classmate for help and letting my classmate look at my patient. The action I have to take is that I should not trust anyone. :crying2: :crying2: All my classmates are potential backstabbers. :crying2: :crying2: When I go to the clinicals next week, WAR will be on my mind. Everyone out there is out to get me. :crying2: There would be no communication what so ever with my classmates. If i need help turning a patient, I will do it myself or ask a hospital staff member.
I was also put on probabtion in the past, but I made it through that one. This is a new one. The school wants to weed people out because it is an impacted program.. :crying2: :crying2:I am not blaming anyone on why am I on probation..I just trusted the wrong person and it was my fault.
Sad, I am having a hard time trying to decipher your post.Please re-read it for your self can you see how confused & rambling it is? I think this along with blaming everyone but your self is what has everybody so upset.I do however feel sorry for you & dislike seeing anyone in such a shape. Regardless of what you decide to do with your life you & you alone are responsible for it, if you made a mistake then its your mistake & not anyone elses fault own up to it & move on. Maybe it would help you to speak face to face with someone you trust that will give you honest feedback.We have no way of knowing what's going on in your life & why you are reacting the way you are only you know that & if you will be honest with yourself you have the answers.You can wallow in self pity or pull yourself up by the boot straps & go on.You are at a crossroad I hope you pick the right path. Good luck
I have to agree with others. I'm a senior nursing student, and trust me, I've been written up plenty of times. I do not see how someone can write you up for the heck of it. I've managed to LEARN from the errors I made that caused me to be written up, as well should you.
I do not believe you should totally drop out of school. Maybe you should take a year off, work as a CNA to get some experience in a hospital type setting, take some other classes you'll need, and THEN focus solely on nursing.
As far as "everyone out to get you" and this tattoo mess, get over it! Everyone isn't out to get you. And if you set off with this "I'm going to fail" attitude, YOU WILL!!!! Give yourself some credit, learn from it, and do better! As far as tattoos, some do look unprofessional. But, it's there...what can you do to change it? Nothing! Just because someone decided five years ago to put a butterfly or name on their body doesn't make them a bad person.
As far as your clinical experience: You'll be done with this instructor soon enough. You'll get someone new. But, don't EVER stop the IV fluids like you did that feed...I found that out the hard way. And NO, wounds shouldn't be bleeding!!! Even though this was a new patient, you should still know what's going on. Was there drainage before? What was it like? How much was there? And yes, you should have consulted your insrtuctor and primary RN with this info. Even if she did know about it, show some responsiblity. For your actions, OWN THEM! Admit to screwing up, and move on.
:crying2: Yesterday, I asked a classmate to help me out during our clinicals. I needed help turning a patient because he could not move at all in bed. Then the next thing I know, my classmate turned me in saying to the instructor that I did not know what I was doing. 
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I noticed that as well. It went beyond the usual spelling errors/typos. This would also pose as a real problem if such errors were charted on legal documents.