In light of a couple of recent threads where someone has asked a question or asked if their opinion might be wrong - only to return with ugly responses to well- intentioned advice or experience - I did some research into the question why do people ask for advice they have no intention of following. What I discovered was a new term called Askholes.
In essence when someone asks for advice/opinions from others they are doing one of three things. !: they are genuinely seeking input, advice or an objective opinion. 2. They are looking for approval for a course of action they have already embarked on. 3. They are seeking validation for an opinion they have that they have no intention of changing.
In the millennial age where feelings are more important than facts and opinions are always right if they make the person who has them happy we see way to much of this.
When someone asks "Am I wrong? when they clearly think they are right and have no intention of hearing out responses I believe all answers should be qualified with the proviso: "Do you really want an answer?"
I am a person of strong conviction and opinion - and yet I have often times learned a lot from people when I ask for an opinion/advice and am open to all answers.
So I guess what I am saying is don't ask if you don't want answers.
Somewhat related noted, I have gotten repeated phone calls from a concerned mother in the community calling me at the local health department to help her strategize how to avoid recommended school vaccines. My inner sarcastic being struggles to reply with snark. Is there a counterpart to an Askhole?
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3 hours ago, nursej22 said:
Somewhat related noted, I have gotten repeated phone calls from a concerned mother in the community calling me at the local health department to help her strategize how to avoid recommended school vaccines. My inner sarcastic being struggles to reply with snark. Is there a counterpart to an Askhole?
Check out NICUGuy's post on the thread Vaccines for Clinical. It sounds exactly what you're looking for.
Also, I once bought 1-ply toilet paper and my husband banned me from toilet paper shopping. ?♀️
This made me laugh out loud!! I am only allowed to buy one specific type of toilet paper for my hubby’s delicate tush! If I buy another plush brand on sale he will promptly go out and purchase “his brand” ?
This made me laugh out loud!! I am only allowed to buy one specific type of toilet paper for my hubby’s delicate tush! If I buy another plush brand on sale he will promptly go out and purchase “his brand” ?
Glad I'm not the only one. God forbid I bring anything home but Northern 3 ply. There's a bit of free advertising for them.
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