"ASKholes"

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Specializes in Psych, Addictions, SOL (Student of Life).

In light of a couple of recent threads where someone has asked a question or asked if their opinion might be wrong - only to return with ugly responses to well- intentioned advice or experience - I did some research into the question why do people ask for advice they have no intention of following. What I discovered was a new term called Askholes.

In essence when someone asks for advice/opinions from others they are doing one of three things. !: they are genuinely seeking input, advice or an objective opinion. 2. They are looking for approval for a course of action they have already embarked on. 3. They are seeking validation for an opinion they have that they have no intention of changing.

In the millennial age where feelings are more important than facts and opinions are always right if they make the person who has them happy we see way to much of this.

When someone asks "Am I wrong? when they clearly think they are right and have no intention of hearing out responses I believe all answers should be qualified with the proviso: "Do you really want an answer?"

I am a person of strong conviction and opinion - and yet I have often times learned a lot from people when I ask for an opinion/advice and am open to all answers.

So I guess what I am saying is don't ask if you don't want answers.

Hppy

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Specializes in ER.

Shouldn't it be illegal to discriminate against male nursing students who want to place foleys in female patients?

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Specializes in Psych, Corrections, Med-Surg, Ambulatory.

Yes, by all means tell your preceptor about all the things she is doing wrong. Because of course she begged to be able to precept, because she wants to learn the new and correct way of doing things. And you would certainly be doing her a favour to let her know when she is triggering you because she would want to work on her sensitivity.

You graduated 2 years ago and you want to quit your fifth job? Absolutely do not stay one more minute where they don't appreciate your specialness.

Yes, there are times when I'm tempted to just play along.

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Specializes in Med/Surge, Psych, LTC, Home Health.

My preceptor rolled her eyes at me. Don't y'all think I'm being bullied? I'ma quit.

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Specializes in Psych (25 years), Medical (15 years).
3 hours ago, hppygr8ful said:

When someone asks "Am I wrong? when they clearly think they are right and have no intention of hearing out responses...

...which is a tact used by those who are passive-aggressive.

And as everyone knows, being passive-aggression is bad for your health.

"Great post, Hppy!", he said, being honest and forthright, which was good for his health.

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Specializes in LTC, assisted living, med-surg, psych.

Obese people and smokers should not be nurses, because role models. And the fact that they get SOB when they run down the hall to the ICU with a fully-loaded bed.

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Specializes in Psych (25 years), Medical (15 years).
6 minutes ago, VivaLasViejas said:

Obese people and smokers should not be nurses...

Neither should men become nurses.

Unless they know that they're sissies.

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Specializes in school nurse.

"I'm like, a high school sophomore, and I've been, like, a member on AN for about three minutes. I have a question that I can't be bothered to search out the answer for, but none of you meanies best be responding with your nursing 'tudes. Negative people best step off!!"

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Specializes in ED, med-surg, peri op.

Oh my favourite is always, im nursing student and I failed. But it’s not my fault. It’s everyone else’s. It was only one point. I’m going to sue the school.

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Specializes in Pediatrics Retired.
5 hours ago, Davey Do said:

Neither should men become nurses.

Unless they know that they're sissies.

TRIGGER WARNING!

So true!!!! I struggled most of my adult life knowing there was a sissie trapped in my body. I sought many ways to suppress it and when I became an industrial pipefitter, laying pipe up in the "big iron" and working in similar masculine environments I thought that would "fix" it...but alas - NO. It wasn't until I became a nurse that I was able to embrace my sissieness and live life to the fullest...? Now...where did I put that Barbie doll.

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I love this term. I've got to say, as a millennial, I've encountered a lot of real-life ASKholes. Nothing is their fault, they have no control over their destiny, things happen to them not because of them, people are actively plotting against them at every moment, and everyone is jealous of them. They'll ask "why me" then get upset when anyone gives them a legitimate reason (i.e. because of something YOU did).

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9 hours ago, Emergent said:

Shouldn't it be illegal to discriminate against male nursing students who want to place foleys in (unwilling) female patients?

A tad bit more accurate. ?

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