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I'm not sure if a 'safe space' is a place to not hear other points of view? The OP seems to be handling this conversation in a classy, respectful way in my opinion. I don't think she's a fragile snowflake. Yes, you're going varying responses, especially with a hot topic such as race. Various types of people see these issues in different ways.

I've worked with people who I thought were too aggressive. I don't know how you're coming across. Sometimes people get stressed and a little bossy, and it does irritate other people. It took a while for me to learn to nicely ask someone to rephrase things when I felt they were coming on too strong. I think it's better to do it in the moment. It's better than being a passive aggressive and backbiting, or silently fuming.

I'm not Black, but I have experienced being on the outside of a workplace clique. It's very uncomfortable. Having supportive coworkers is really vital. I always have voted with my feet. Nursing units all have their own culture. Some are toxic and can be dominated by the mean girls club. Others are friendly, supportive, and inclusive of all personalities and types of people. I prefer the later.

Was this a specific incident where coworkers thought you were coming on too strong? You aren't being very specific. Did you get reprimanded by management for this so-called aggressive behavior? Obviously, you feel that you were targeted because you are a Black person. Did people say something specific to make you suspect a racial bias? Are there other Black people at your workplace? If so, what are their experiences?

@Davey Do ?

Now this is supremely amusing... Somebody actually gave me a thumbs down on the advice that I think is the most important!??

Quit eating junk food.

They stood you up? These people sound so inconsiderate and unprofessional!

How did that go?

If you have a union, bring your union person into the meeting.

You're welcome. Things that worked for me were as follows: The triage nurse had a habit of getting flustered, bossy, rude to me when bringing up patients to my rooms. In the moment (at the nurses station in front of others) I calmly said 'I don't like the way you are talking to me, please rephrase that in a polite way'. She did, and after that she treated me much more respectfully. An ER tech had a bad habit of getting bossy, and embarrassing me in front of the patients. At first I was tongue tied, not wanting to make a scene. Finally, I put her in her place, in front of the patient. I told her to not talk to me like that, reminding her that I'm the RN and will make these decisions. She never repeated this behavior and we went on to have a good working relationship.

In my experience, calling out unprofessional behavior in the moment it happens is the most effective way to address it. If there's an audience to witness it, all the better. Don't hesitate to do it in front of a patient. People like this bank on you keeping your mouth shut to avoid a scene. They are bullies. Practice scenarios in your head ahead of time so you won't be caught off guard. If you're like a lot of us, you think of just the right response the next day. Running to management should be avoided if possible. But, keep a careful record of dates, times, and descriptions of these incidents in the event that you do resort to that.

That doesn't sound very kind or understanding of other people with different opinions.

What's wrong with blue collar occupations or staying home to raise your children? My most successful son is an HVAC technician, owns a house, has a wife who stays home with my granddaughters, and they are the most intelligent and well-adjusted children I've seen for a long time.

Well, I wasn't planning on leaving all nurses except if they required me to even remember the password that I used or the email. Google remember my password even when my phone died and I changed carriers, so if that's good enough I'll visit now and then.