advice? so depressed.

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Hi everyone!

I am 2 months into my nursing program. I spend literally all of my time studying. As soon as spring break hit, I realized I had lost myself in the madness. I feel like I don't know myself anymore. I'm depressed, haven't felt like reaching out to anyone and I have a tightness in my throat. I've made plans to study, but because I'm so unhappy it takes me twice as long to do the work. I work out 4 times a week before class...but I feel like its not good enough. My biggest issue is I am not my carefree silly, loving self anymore. I've become depressed, meek, a little jealous at times, and a computer and TV whore. Getting out into the real world and having fun seems so difficult because I don't feel free. I feel shackled down, and heavy.

Help.

Nursing school is tough and you can't be carefree about it..not if you want to succeed. Advice is just to focus and remind yourself that it isn't forever. You'll get your free time back. But maybe when you work out, have someone from class come with you. Workout your frustrations together. The best people to lean on during nursinf school are your classmates. They know exactly how u feel: the stress, lack of time for fun, extreme workload, nervousness, etc. Lean on them...they'll lean back and great friendships will form out of this not so great environment. Trust me. Been there. I worked full time, did nursing school full time, and managed to Workout and lose 40lbs..it's doable, just stressful.

This happened to me. Just remember to keep your head up high and do not forget what made you want to become a nurse. Focus on your success and as for the jealousy, (I would feel jealous of other folks with easy majors: partying and carefree and having great jobs at the end of their degree), do not let it get to you. Engaging in feelings of jealousy will only slow you down in your success (time wasted loathing and comparing yourself to others).

It gets better once you get accustomed to the study routine. I promise.

Specializes in NICU, Trauma, Oncology.

Please find someone to talk to. Maybe a counselor or psychiatrist. Nursing school is hard but isolation is not the answer. Sounds like you may have some anxiety issues coming up and you are overwhelmed. Get to the root before the problem gets out of control

Specializes in ICU.

It's hard but realize this isn't forever, just a small part of time. Are you making some time for fun? I always go out and try to have some fun on the weekends and spend my weekdays on school. I make sure I also have a solid support system. My boyfriend is wonderful, as are my parents. Just go out, let loose, and have some fun.

Specializes in Neurosciences, stepdown, acute rehab, LTC.

Make sure you're staying in the current day. I find that when I'm very anxious and depressed I'm thinking too far ahead . If you remember you need to do a task write it down for when it needs to be done but otherwise focus on the day you're in... I know its hard to make time to do things you love , it's hard to even love them anymore with all the stuff on your plate. Just make sure you're getting away from the screens somehow though.. The Internet and TV will clutter your mind even worse. and try to get a good system with studying.. I used to get overwhelmed and was ineffective but then I would try to set study in 15 or 20 min bursts because I figured they were attainable and better than no studying at all . Of course , you would have to find a system that works for you .

Reward yourself every week in some kind of way, remember that movie you want to see ? go see it.

Do something every week that makes you look forward and keeps the hopes up.

I know its hard, I am right in the middle of a fire of Final year while working and doing a Thesis. You got into nursing school, you can make it through it, just remember to take breaks and find like minded people, or do something mad and different. Sometimes the scariest thing is often the most fun :p Next week Im going to see a movie called Cinderalla all bymyself in the morning.. why? well because why the hell not. :D Besides I dont have to share my popicorn or argue over what movie we are going to see. I get it all to myself :D I relax in those moments and block out my nursing studies. Me time. FInd yours, you could be surprised. Hang in there. x

This is normal for nursing school. It is stressful and draining but it does not last forever. I would definitely seek some counseling though if your feeling really down and unable to get motivated (probably because of the ever building stress level). If you don't have adequate health insurance some schools offer counseling. The one that I'm going to right now(nursing education part 3) has a clinical psychologist that is on campus for students to make appointments if they feel overwhelmed with school. It really is that common, that a nursing school takes the initiative to have professional help available onsite.

The best people to lean on during nursinf school are your classmates. They know exactly how u feel: the stress, lack of time for fun, extreme workload, nervousness, etc. Lean on them...they'll lean back and great friendships will form out of this not so great environment.

This!

Specializes in Med/Surg/Onc, Peds, Tele, LTC, Hospice...

It is stressful, demanding, and will continue to be. Just keep in mind of your end goal. My classmates/friends were my strength. Some of my classmates seem to slide by without even trying, but it was more difficult for me.

I started LPN school 2 weeks after Hurricane Andrew. We started because 38 out of 40 showed up to class on 1st scheduled day. I had to study from dawn to dusk (no electric), travel 5 days a week, almost 20 miles from Homestead to the school through Miami without traffic lights first few months....

Kinda sounds like "walking to school in the snow, when I was a boy, going uphill both ways"......

Take it one day at a time. If you have time to watch TV and be on computer, you have time. Use it wisely and do anything not school related

Specializes in LTC, Med-surg.

I feel the same way. I tried visualization today actually because I was having a hard time motivating myself for the past

3 days. You just kind of have to visualize why you're doing this. When I close my eyes and visualize myself

walking for my graduation and paying my quick results to get my NCLEX-RN exam results that says PASS. All of

a sudden, I can perk up and study again.

Visualization is a powerful way for you to get your groove back. That's how athletes keep their motivation

because they visualize themselves crossing the finish line.

How can you be a computer and TV whore if you're spending all your time studying?

But anyway, you'll make it. Seems like the majority of people get hit by the first semester stressors, and it effects everyone differently. I'm nervous about how I might react when I start in Aug.

Good luck.

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