Accidental Pregnancy Update

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Hi all,

Thank you to the ones who gave advice and words of encouragement on my first post. I wanted to individually message each and every one of you, but I'm not active on here so I couldn't. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for being so encouraging and supportive through a forum. I just wanted to give you all a quick update.

So I wrote the post back in April when I was ~6 weeks pregnant. We had decided we were going to go through with the pregnancy. We told his parents and they were very supportive. I think that made my significant other feel more confident about our choice. We were planning on telling my parents today that we were expecting, but I actually ended up miscarrying. I had it confirmed yesterday. I was exactly 8 weeks yesterday. To say I'm devestated is an understatement. I told my parents yesterday that we were planning on telling them the pregnancy news today, but I miscarried so I'm telling them that instead. They were very supportive and non-judgmental. (My parents also went through a loss when my mom was 5 months pregnant with the baby before me.) My mom held me and I just cried. My dad gave me words of encouragement and prayed over me. Every year for Mother's Day, he sends a text message to me and my sisters telling us we will be great mothers one day and he is so proud to have us as his daughters. He told me yesterday I would have been a great mom to the baby because I am hard-working and I have a good head on my shoulders. It seems as though they also would have been supportive of the pregnancy if it lasted :(

It hurts a lot and it just sucks because even though I wasn't ready, I was willing to be ready and so was my significant other. And we would have had a great support system. We don't plan (not like we planned the first one hah) on getting pregnant any time soon. Our goal is to graduate next fall and travel.

In this dark time I'm happy to have him by my side.

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I'm so sorry. You're in my thoughts. Take care of yourself.

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That is so hard. Please take the time you need to grieve. I'm so glad your parents were supportive; continue to lean on them over the coming weeks. You're in my thoughts.

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Specializes in Adult Primary Care.

I'm so sorry for your loss. As others have said, I'm happy that your parents were supportive. Take the time to heal and grieve

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Specializes in EMS, ED, Trauma, CEN, CPEN, TCRN.

Oh girl. I am so sorry! I think you will find that more people than you know have gone through this. Work through your grief as you see fit, in your time. *hugs*

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Specializes in SICU, trauma, neuro.

((((hugs)))) I'm so sorry for your loss.

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Specializes in Palliative, Onc, Med-Surg, Home Hospice.

I am so sorry. Take care of yourself.

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Specializes in ICU/community health/school nursing.

I love your parents! Please know that your pregnancy hormones started up and it will take a while for your body to get "back to normal," if there is such a thing as normal. Be easy on yourself, seek help if you need it, and hang in there.

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From another mother of an angel, (((HUGS)))

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Specializes in Emergency Department.

Hugs to you, OP! Coming from the other half of a family that's been through this 3 times, it's not just hard on the "mom" it's also hard on the "dad" too. While you are getting ready to be a mom, he's also getting ready to be a dad. When you have a miscarriage, the dreams that dad has of hanging out with his kid are also suddenly dashed. It's not your fault and it's not his either. Miscarriages happen more frequently than people probably realize. It's not the end of the world and life does go on. Trust me, I know. My kid just turned 15... and I was very cautiously optimistic until after we'd gotten to about 24-26 weeks in that I stopped worrying much and that pregnancy was absolutely nearly textbook perfect. Just remember that this one wasn't meant to meet you. The next one very well could end up in your arms!

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I am sorry for your loss. Having a miscarriage can be devastating, I have had several, take care of yourself. You will heal, this will make you stronger.

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So sorry for your loss. I am glad you had supportive families. Be good to your self and you SO.

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