Thank you to the ones who gave advice and words of encouragement on my first post. I wanted to individually message each and every one of you, but I'm not active on here so I couldn't. Thank you all from the bottom of my heart. Thank you for being so encouraging and supportive through a forum. I just wanted to give you all a quick update.
So I wrote the post back in April when I was ~6 weeks pregnant. We had decided we were going to go through with the pregnancy. We told his parents and they were very supportive. I think that made my significant other feel more confident about our choice. We were planning on telling my parents today that we were expecting, but I actually ended up miscarrying. I had it confirmed yesterday. I was exactly 8 weeks yesterday. To say I'm devestated is an understatement. I told my parents yesterday that we were planning on telling them the pregnancy news today, but I miscarried so I'm telling them that instead. They were very supportive and non-judgmental. (My parents also went through a loss when my mom was 5 months pregnant with the baby before me.) My mom held me and I just cried. My dad gave me words of encouragement and prayed over me. Every year for Mother's Day, he sends a text message to me and my sisters telling us we will be great mothers one day and he is so proud to have us as his daughters. He told me yesterday I would have been a great mom to the baby because I am hard-working and I have a good head on my shoulders. It seems as though they also would have been supportive of the pregnancy if it lasted
It hurts a lot and it just sucks because even though I wasn't ready, I was willing to be ready and so was my significant other. And we would have had a great support system. We don't plan (not like we planned the first one hah) on getting pregnant any time soon. Our goal is to graduate next fall and travel.
In this dark time I'm happy to have him by my side.
Your story reminds me so much of Shawn Johnson (the Olympic gymnast) and her husband, who posted a video on their Youtube channel about their experience going through an unexpected pregnancy and miscarriage. I found myself tearing up as they went through the emotional rollercoaster of realizing they were pregnant, being totally overwhelmed and shell-shocked, starting to feel hope and excitement about the pregnancy, and then feeling heartbroken when they miscarried. (Also, their OB was kind of an a** when he told them, IMO). It's such a common experience, but it's also something that so few people talk about. I don't know if watching her video would help you or make you feel worse, but I found it very relatable, reassuring, and cathartic.
Big hugs, and please remember that you are so strong, you are not alone, and you have people around you who love and support you!
adventure_rn, MSN, NP
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Your story reminds me so much of Shawn Johnson (the Olympic gymnast) and her husband, who posted a video on their Youtube channel about their experience going through an unexpected pregnancy and miscarriage. I found myself tearing up as they went through the emotional rollercoaster of realizing they were pregnant, being totally overwhelmed and shell-shocked, starting to feel hope and excitement about the pregnancy, and then feeling heartbroken when they miscarried. (Also, their OB was kind of an a** when he told them, IMO). It's such a common experience, but it's also something that so few people talk about. I don't know if watching her video would help you or make you feel worse, but I found it very relatable, reassuring, and cathartic.
Big hugs, and please remember that you are so strong, you are not alone, and you have people around you who love and support you!