I am a nurse of about a year on a medical-surgical ward. Many of my co-workers are also new nurses. They are great nurses and often get many compliments from our patients. Our manager will print the compliments and had them in the break room.
I never get compliments or remembered by my patients. I have not heard anything bad about my clinical practice, which my manager says is at or above her expectations. My manager says I'm a calming presence for my patients. I think what I'm lacking though is a good bedside manner. I believe that I may be on the autism or Aspergers spectrum, as I have always had difficulty with social skills and have been described as awkward or "weird" more times then I can count. My speech patterns are often weird, too.
I am friendly, introduce myself to patients and families, make sure they are comfortable, fill their water pitcher, round on them, and update them with any changes to their care. I manage pain and nausea. I am wondering what you as nurses do to go the extra mile for your patients and make them feel truly cared for?
For example, I had a patient who got tearful while we were discussing his plan of care. I sit in the chair next to him and ask him if he's having a hard time now right. He tells me he's afraid of what his test results will show. I tell him that he's in the right place, I'm glad he's here, and the doctors will do their best to figure out what is going on with him. I offer him a warm blanket or to go for a walk with me. I also offer our chaplain service. He declines, and remains tearful. I sit for a few more minutes and then my phone rings and I have to excuse myself. When I return, he is not so tearful, and says he doesn't need anything more.
I am left feeling that I didn't do enough to comfort him. I have trouble finding the right things to say, as well as I don't feel comfortable touching people or offering hugs. What else can I do?