Why are Nurses and CNAs so mean/rude

[guest05/03/16]

From my own experiences and seeing things. I honestly want to know why so many CNAs and nurses are so stuck up and down right mean/rude. Not only to me, and other CNAs/nurses, but to their patients and residents also. Their are a lot of terribly mean CNAs at my facility I work at. A lot of the residents hate them and prefer me to help them with their ADLs and even giving them their meds because they don't like the nurses/med techs and other CNAs. It's hard because you have all these people wanting you to care for them and you can't. Why are some of you so mean/rude? I'm not attacking anyone to targeting anyone. I'm just genuinely curious to why some of you nurses and CNAs are so mean.

Do do you agree?

[theRPN2b]

When there is a lack of positivity and support from admin staff, it will rub off on the bedside staff. They feel over worked, stressed and like no one cares. Keep up your caring attitude ... it may rub off on some of the other staff!

[canigraduate]

From my own experiences and seeing things. I honestly want to know why so many CNAs and nurses are so stuck up and down right mean/rude. Not only to me, and other CNAs/nurses, but to their patients and residents also. Their are a lot of terribly mean CNAs at my facility I work at. A lot of the residents hate them and prefer me to help them with their ADLs and even giving them their meds because they don't like the nurses/med techs and other CNAs. It's hard because you have all these people wanting you to care for them and you can't. Why are some of you so mean/rude? I'm not attacking anyone to targeting anyone. I'm just genuinely curious to why some of you nurses and CNAs are so mean.

Do do you agree?

I'm pretty offended that you lump all nurses/CNAs together because you work at a crappy facility. Or at one where you don't like the people you work with, at least.

No, I don't agree with you, at all. I've worked with some of the nicest nurses/CNAs in the world. I've also worked with some really nasty people who aren't in healthcare at all.

I think you need some life experience before you judge everybody you come into contact with. And you should probably learn the difference between mean and unencouraging. Two totally different things. If the people you work with are actually verbally and/or physically abusive, you need to report them. Otherwise, you need to learn how to get along with people who are different from you.

[elkpark]

After reading the OP's other thread and, at the risk of sounding "mean," I wonder whether part of the problem may be coworkers picking up on the OP's sense that she does the job much better and cares much more about the clients than her coworkers. An attitude of superiority (esp. self-righteous superiority) doesn't usually go over well. I'm not saying I believe that's the case here; I'm just wondering if it may be.

[canigraduate]

After reading the OP's other thread and, at the risk of sounding "mean," I wonder whether part of the problem may be coworkers picking up on the OP's sense that she does the job much better and cares much more about the clients than her coworkers. An attitude of superiority (esp. self-righteous superiority) doesn't usually go over well. I'm not saying I believe that's the case here; I'm just wondering if it may be.

I think you're probably right. I sense an incipient martyr syndrome.

[kalevra, BSN, RN]

LOL is the Original Poster serious?!?!

Another, "Everyone else except me is a crappy nurse/cna". How many of these threads do we come across on a daily basis.

OMG, hahahahahah

You honestly cannot be serious? Watching this thread devolve into trolling is going to be funny.

[sammiesmom]

I think being rude and mean is something personal. Sometimes, it can be brought on by culture but ultimately, it is the person. Right now, I am dealing with a very condescending charge nurse who enjoys flaunting her power and exercises a my-way or the highway type of philosophy. She is also very high strung and will not talk to anybody with respect and make other nurses feel that she is the only one who had nursing education. She also embarrasses people in front of other authorities such as doctors. It is very annoying to say the least but I think she needed a prozac or ativan to chill. I don't know the story of her life but it must be a sad one. One said that nursing attracts narcissistic people but I do not agree because personality tests done during nursing orientations show most nurses have a dove personality. You have to want to serve people to be a nurse! Anyway, from a religious perspective, God will reward your heart so keep it pure and clean and live to God's standard. From a humanistic perspective, give everyone the respect and honor you want to receive. Managers should pay attention and try not to put people like this in charge instead look for those who demonstrate leadership while being respectable about it.

[Hoosier_RN, MSN]

Since you are in high school yet, I am going to make the assumption that the hours you work are limited. That may have something to do with how you are perceiving things. Also, why are you giving meds? That is not usually in the scope of CNA duties.

My thoughts exactly. And if you're caught doing something outside of your scope, you may lose the privilege of working in healthcare, permanently. Be careful of what you say and do. Also, be aware that sometimes things go on before you get there and after you leave that can give the full time caregivers a whole different perspective

[wowbea]

I have to say this is very TRUE ! (depending where you work & your state) The 1 st nursing job I had at a nursing home was horrible ... CNA and LPN, RN,DON all rude !!! I am talking not helping ,when your obliviously a new nurse you need help. Talking down to you .... etc ! Thank God I got a better job and the nurse I work with now is a sweet heart and very helpful !!! Why do we eat our young !!!!!!!!!!

[BuckyBadgerRN, ASN, RN]

I really hope that a 16 year old kid is NOT giving anyone meds in a facility. Even more than REALLY

From my own experiences and seeing things. I honestly want to know why so many CNAs and nurses are so stuck up and down right mean/rude. Not only to me, and other CNAs/nurses, but to their patients and residents also. Their are a lot of terribly mean CNAs at my facility I work at. A lot of the residents hate them and prefer me to help them with their ADLs and even giving them their meds because they don't like the nurses/med techs and other CNAs. It's hard because you have all these people wanting you to care for them and you can't. Why are some of you so mean/rude? I'm not attacking anyone to targeting anyone. I'm just genuinely curious to why some of you nurses and CNAs are so mean.

Do do you agree?

[Nurse Leigh]

I really hope that a 16 year old kid is NOT giving anyone meds in a facility. Even more than REALLY

Heck, the OP seems to still be taking her CNA courses and is working as a NA since she won't even take the exam until May. Altogether strange.

And the idea that she's the only one who cares is old. Lots of people in LTC do care but are swimming against the tide to give good care. Many CNAs make terrible wages but keep showing up to work in awful facilities because they care. They are also at high risk for burnout because nothing seems to improve for them.

I bet the well run facilities have a lot less turnover and more loyalty. We just have to learn how to build good solid boundaries.

[Simon C]

you are making a very vague statement really as I'm sure not everyone is "mean". A lot depends on your own perception. It can be a very stressful environment to work in so perhaps some nurses are a little distracted or short tempered if they are stressed out. Of course burnout is another possibility. You cannot take on everyone else's work though and if their attitude is affecting their work (or lack of it!) then you must have a quiet word with them, or their immediate supervisor. There is no excuse to treat patients badly.

[NOADLS]

OP, does being assertive count as being mean?