Why are Nurses and CNAs so mean/rude

[guest05/03/16]

From my own experiences and seeing things. I honestly want to know why so many CNAs and nurses are so stuck up and down right mean/rude. Not only to me, and other CNAs/nurses, but to their patients and residents also. Their are a lot of terribly mean CNAs at my facility I work at. A lot of the residents hate them and prefer me to help them with their ADLs and even giving them their meds because they don't like the nurses/med techs and other CNAs. It's hard because you have all these people wanting you to care for them and you can't. Why are some of you so mean/rude? I'm not attacking anyone to targeting anyone. I'm just genuinely curious to why some of you nurses and CNAs are so mean.

Do do you agree?

[Jensmom7, BSN, RN]

First of all, I didn't say ALL AND EVERY SINGLE Nurse, CNA, etc are "mean, rude." I said most/some. I used to not take confrontation and assertiveness well but since I started working altogether I've gotten over it and make sure to do better the next time.

Second. I am not 16, I'm 17 almost 18 (in 3 months) and a junior in high school. I barely have ANY of the life experiences any of you have so get off your damn high horse and give it a rest. This isn't "trolling" but a genuine question to why some CNAs/nurses/etc are so mean and *******s to people that are stuck in a place they don't want to be in., and I do not hand out meds. The med techs at our facilities do. I said that the residents WANT me too, but since it's outside my scopes of practice I don't go near meds until it's an ointment for a pressure ulcer or for a hemrroid.

Third of all. Most the CNAs at my facility are stuck up mean people, naturally. We all come across people like that in our lives. I did for sure my junior high years. It's what triggered so much mental/emotional health problems for me. I'm not even graduated from high school yet but I'm doing far more than any highschooler is these days. I'm a part time college student, work two jobs, maintain a healthy relationship between me and my family, my boyfriend and the few friends I have. I paid for my own car instead of having **** handed to me I worked my butt off for it. I'm working my butt off to get to where I want to be. I'm planning to go to nursing school next June. An 18 almost 19 year old getting her prerequisites for nursing school. Get off your high horses and try and look back at your own adolescent years. I'm starting to regret making an account on this stupid forum.

Well, I was going to say something about youthful exuberance and passion, until I read this post from you.

Several things jump right out, where to start, where to start?

#1. Tone of "voice". If the way you come across here is anyway indicative of how you comport yourself around your co-workers, I'm frankly surprised you live to tell the tale. Ain't nobody got time to be looked down on by a still-wet-behind-the-ears high schooler.

#2. The fact that you DON'T have any of the life experiences that most of us her have pretty much means that you should sit down, get off YOUR high horse and actually pay attention. You're mad because you didn't get the responses you wanted to hear? We're grown ups here (for the most part) and you are going to get the plain unvarnished truth. It might chafe, it might make you mad, but much of it is worth listening to.

#3. This is actually a corollary of #2. When you start a topic in an anonymous public forum, you don't get to dictate what is an acceptable response and what isn't. You need to learn to take the critical/negative with the positive/rainbows and kittens comments.

#4. Don't take yourself so seriously; you are NOT doing more than any other high schooler these days. I know plenty of juniors and seniors doing the same things you say you're doing.

#5. So you're going to be 18 when you start college and will be working on your nursing pre-reqs? Big deal. So was I. So are a lot of people. Get back to me when you graduate from college, take AND pass Boards on the first try, and get some real work/life experience under your belt. Oh, and by the way, starting on those pre-reqs does NOT mean you are a student nurse. You would have to actually be accepted into a program to claim that.

#6. I could go on, but it would probably fall on deaf ears, and as most of the regulars have heard me say before, I don't argue with children.

#7. I do have to say, you did a pretty impressive flounce. Haven't seen one of that caliber in awhile.

[Rose_Queen, BSN, MSN, RN]

#7. I do have to say, you did a pretty impressive flounce. Haven't seen one of that caliber in awhile.

For somebody who flounced and said they were going to have their account deleted, they sure do hang out around here- only a mere 1.5 hours ago.

I have a feeling that should OP continue on to nursing school, he/she will one day be embarrassed by this thread. At least, they should be.

[Jensmom7, BSN, RN]

For somebody who flounced and said they were going to have their account deleted, they sure do hang out around here- only a mere 1.5 hours ago.

I have a feeling that should OP continue on to nursing school, he/she will one day be embarrassed by this thread. At least, they should be.

I really need to start accessing AN on my laptop. I can't get this on my phone.

[pixierose, BSN, RN]

I'm disappointed, OP -- you seem to be trying to illustrate the case in point. The pp's responded pretty darn appropriately and you were pretty darn rude in your response.

Seems to me like you're the mean/rude CNA in question here. That's unfortunate.

This board is a gold mine of advice. Here I am, almost 40 years old, and I'm always going to be learning from the guys and gals here. So take a deep breathe and stop taking yourself so seriously. You have a great deal to learn, not only about nursing but about life.

[Kellorn, ASN, RN]

Yeah, because every nurse/ CNA has never had to make their own way in life like you, op. You certainly are annoying and talk like a little girl. Time to put your big girl pants on and talk like an adult if you want to treated as one.

[BuckyBadgerRN, ASN, RN]

Except OP ISNT an adult. I guess that's why we're supposed to be tolerant of her hissy fit?

Yeah, because every nurse/ CNA has never had to make their own way in life like you, op. You certainly are annoying and talk like a little girl. Time to put your big girl pants on and talk like an adult if you want to treated as one.

[bryony1988]

*slow clap

Congratulations on being one of many people who go in and do their job correctly every day.

[Cultmember]

I think nurses are mean because they not properly managed.

I have witnessed a nurse abuse a patient and she is still employed.

I have always witnessed CNAs throw patients onto beds, and are still employed.

In health care, it is not how you do your job, it is more 'how much the managers like you'. If you are a brown-nosing schmoozer, then anything you do will be overlooked.

Tell me, how it is NOT a conflict of an interest for a manager to attend the weddings and other parties held by her nursing staff? How is the manager supposed to maintain objectivity if the manager is socializing with the nurses that end up abusing patients? I'll tell you how-- things get swept under the rug and things go on as usual.

[pitt81]

Um not really around 90% of the nurses and cna's I worked with are the most compassionate people I know. Nurses and techs are overworked underpaid and unrecognized posts like this just put the nursing profession in a bad light. I think it is were you work as opposed to the nursing profession ad a whole.

[Horseshoe, BSN, RN]

I honestly don't think I've heard anyone use the term "stuck up" since high school. As ancient as I am, I'm surprised it's still in the lexicon.

[Ruby Vee, BSN]

I honestly don't think I've heard anyone use the term "stuck up" since high school. As ancient as I am, I'm surprised it's still in the lexicon.

Lady Mary on "Downton Abbey" has been called "stuck up" several times. That might be where they're hearing it.

[GrizzlyBearJas]

I've had a couple issues like this but I just kinda learned to roll with it