Why are Nurses and CNAs so mean/rude

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  1. Do you think a lot of Nurses/CNAs mean?

    • 10
      Yes
    • 37
      No
    • 5
      Eh

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From my own experiences and seeing things. I honestly want to know why so many CNAs and nurses are so stuck up and down right mean/rude. Not only to me, and other CNAs/nurses, but to their patients and residents also. Their are a lot of terribly mean CNAs at my facility I work at. A lot of the residents hate them and prefer me to help them with their ADLs and even giving them their meds because they don't like the nurses/med techs and other CNAs. It's hard because you have all these people wanting you to care for them and you can't. Why are some of you so mean/rude? I'm not attacking anyone to targeting anyone. I'm just genuinely curious to why some of you nurses and CNAs are so mean.

Do do you agree?

First of all, I didn't say ALL AND EVERY SINGLE Nurse, CNA, etc are "mean, rude." I said most/some. I used to not take confrontation and assertiveness well but since I started working altogether I've gotten over it and make sure to do better the next time.

Second. I am not 16, I'm 17 almost 18 (in 3 months) and a junior in high school. I barely have ANY of the life experiences any of you have so get off your damn high horse and give it a rest. This isn't "trolling" but a genuine question to why some CNAs/nurses/etc are so mean and *******s to people that are stuck in a place they don't want to be in., and I do not hand out meds. The med techs at our facilities do. I said that the residents WANT me too, but since it's outside my scopes of practice I don't go near meds until it's an ointment for a pressure ulcer or for a hemrroid.

Third of all. Most the CNAs at my facility are stuck up mean people, naturally. We all come across people like that in our lives. I did for sure my junior high years. It's what triggered so much mental/emotional health problems for me. I'm not even graduated from high school yet but I'm doing far more than any highschooler is these days. I'm a part time college student, work two jobs, maintain a healthy relationship between me and my family, my boyfriend and the few friends I have. I paid for my own car instead of having **** handed to me I worked my butt off for it. I'm working my butt off to get to where I want to be. I'm planning to go to nursing school next June. An 18 almost 19 year old getting her prerequisites for nursing school. Get off your high horses and try and look back at your own adolescent years. I'm starting to regret making an account on this stupid forum.

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Specializes in Telemetry.
First of all, I didn't say ALL AND EVERY SINGLE Nurse, CNA, etc are "mean, rude." I said most/some. I used to not take confrontation and assertiveness well but since I started working altogether I've gotten over it and make sure to do better the next time.

Second. I am not 16, I'm 17 almost 18 (in 3 months) and a junior in high school. I barely have ANY of the life experiences any of you have so get off your damn high horse and give it a rest. This isn't "trolling" but a genuine question to why some CNAs/nurses/etc are so mean and *******s to people that are stuck in a place they don't want to be in., and I do not hand out meds. The med techs at our facilities do. I said that the residents WANT me too, but since it's outside my scopes of practice I don't go near meds until it's an ointment for a pressure ulcer or for a hemrroid.

Third of all. Most the CNAs at my facility are stuck up mean people, naturally. We all come across people like that in our lives. I did for sure my junior high years. It's what triggered so much mental/emotional health problems for me. I'm not even graduated from high school yet but I'm doing far more than any highschooler is these days. I'm a part time college student, work two jobs, maintain a healthy relationship between me and my family, my boyfriend and the few friends I have. I paid for my own car instead of having **** handed to me I worked my butt off for it. I'm working my butt off to get to where I want to be. I'm planning to go to nursing school next June. An 18 almost 19 year old getting her prerequisites for nursing school. Get off your high horses and try and look back at your own adolescent years. I'm starting to regret making an account on this stupid forum.

You came here looking for advice from those who have more experience than you do and after reading our thoughts, you seem to be responding in an awfully rude way.

Just because you may not like our advice or the questions and concerns your posts have prompted doesn't mean you can't learn from them. The CNAs and nurses who take the time to respond know what they are talking about and it could serve you well to think about what has been said instead of being rude and using coorifice language towards us.

If you aren't clear enough in a post we can only respond to this information you gave us - it did sound like you were administering meds at first. And it is surprising you can work in that capacity while a minor but without know your state of residence we can only make generalizations.

Coming here and saying you are a great NA and care more than anyone else really doesn't reflect well on you - especially as you only have a couple months experience. Good luck in the future.

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
Thank you, and I feel so bad for them on days that I'm not there..

Whoosh! Right over your head. This post should have had a beverage alert!

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Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.

The title of this thread is "Why are Nurses/CNAs mean?" This pre-supposed that nurses and CNAs ARE mean, something that I have not found to be the case. Nor, according to the results of your poll, have most of the posters in this thread. I suggest that you re-think your premise.

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Specializes in Telemetry.
Whoosh! Right over your head. This post should have had a beverage alert!

I know, right? Guess we need a sarcasm font.

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Specializes in HH, Peds, Rehab, Clinical.

You said they prefer that you give them their meds. Meaning they have had you do it in the past and they PREFER you over a nurse. Maybe this isn't the forum for you. If you use language around your coworkers like you do here, I have no problem in understanding why they are "mean' to you!!!

First of all, I didn't say ALL AND EVERY SINGLE Nurse, CNA, etc are "mean, rude." I said most/some. I used to not take confrontation and assertiveness well but since I started working altogether I've gotten over it and make sure to do better the next time.

Second. I am not 16, I'm 17 almost 18 (in 3 months) and a junior in high school. I barely have ANY of the life experiences any of you have so get off your damn high horse and give it a rest. This isn't "trolling" but a genuine question to why some CNAs/nurses/etc are so mean and *******s to people that are stuck in a place they don't want to be in., and I do not hand out meds. The med techs at our facilities do. I said that the residents WANT me too, but since it's outside my scopes of practice I don't go near meds until it's an ointment for a pressure ulcer or for a hemrroid.

Third of all. Most the CNAs at my facility are stuck up mean people, naturally. We all come across people like that in our lives. I did for sure my junior high years. It's what triggered so much mental/emotional health problems for me. I'm not even graduated from high school yet but I'm doing far more than any highschooler is these days. I'm a part time college student, work two jobs, maintain a healthy relationship between me and my family, my boyfriend and the few friends I have. I paid for my own car instead of having **** handed to me I worked my butt off for it. I'm working my butt off to get to where I want to be. I'm planning to go to nursing school next June. An 18 almost 19 year old getting her prerequisites for nursing school. Get off your high horses and try and look back at your own adolescent years. I'm starting to regret making an account on this stupid forum.

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As I told you in the other thread, I think your attitude shows at work as you are getting negative feedback as a result.

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Well you guys broke me. I lost my patience and snapped. It's hard when you feel attacked for posting a SIMPLE question/opinion. If you don't agree move on. And your right. This probably isn't the forum for me. So I'll delete my account. Good day to all of you.

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Specializes in Telemetry.
Well you guys broke me. I lost my patience and snapped. It's hard when you feel attacked for posting a SIMPLE question/opinion. If you don't agree move on. And your right. This probably isn't the forum for me. So I'll delete my account. Good day to all of you.

I would encourage you to take a breather then come back and reread your posts and our responses. I saw no one "attack" you. We asked questions for clarity and challenged your beliefs. *We* did not break you - you seem to get upset easily, both here and at work.

You are young and you have a lot of difficult lessons to learn - getting salient advice from those who've gone before you could save you a lot of frustration.

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Specializes in nursing education.
Billswife, I feel bad for everyone when I'm not there to help. I feel bad for my manager because of what he deals with daily. I feel bad for the residents sometimes because of the neglect and abuse I see from other CNAs to them. And I feel bad for the CNAs. I understnad some get upset and fustrated and can get mean, everyone can. But some of them are the downright mean people in the world that are just mean people naturally.

just so everyone knows, I'm still new to this job field and I'm younger than almost all the people on this forum. Just so you know, I don't know everything and have as much knowledge as you do. ;)

Hi OP, it sounds like you are working in the same type of lousy LTC that I was working in for awhile as an RN. It was poorly managed and angry CNAs and LPNs ran the show (lots of no call/no show, physical altercations between staff). It took a toll on my physical and mental health until I left.

My advice to you is leave. Don't let this ruin your career before it starts. Find a better facility, a group home, a hospital, anything. (The "Nursing Home Compare" tool is a good place to start). As other PP have stated, work life balance is crucial.

Here's something else to think about: did those angry bitter staff members start out like you? ;)

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Well you guys broke me. I lost my patience and snapped. It's hard when you feel attacked for posting a SIMPLE question/opinion. If you don't agree move on. And your right. This probably isn't the forum for me. So I'll delete my account. Good day to all of you.

BINGO!! (This is not aimed at the OP, but at an old thread. I just won flounce bingo.)

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BINGO!! (This is not aimed at the OP, but at an old thread. I just won flounce bingo.)

Flounce with a hair toss?

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