Why are Nurses and CNAs so mean/rude

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  1. Do you think a lot of Nurses/CNAs mean?

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      Yes
    • 37
      No
    • 5
      Eh

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From my own experiences and seeing things. I honestly want to know why so many CNAs and nurses are so stuck up and down right mean/rude. Not only to me, and other CNAs/nurses, but to their patients and residents also. Their are a lot of terribly mean CNAs at my facility I work at. A lot of the residents hate them and prefer me to help them with their ADLs and even giving them their meds because they don't like the nurses/med techs and other CNAs. It's hard because you have all these people wanting you to care for them and you can't. Why are some of you so mean/rude? I'm not attacking anyone to targeting anyone. I'm just genuinely curious to why some of you nurses and CNAs are so mean.

Do do you agree?

Specializes in Oncology; medical specialty website.

I've read some of your other posts. Honestly, no one should be making work his/her life, nor thinking about patients all the time during "off time." You mentioned that you were having problems with depression recurring. If you don't have work:life balance, you are going to continue to have issues with mental health.

I remember reading that you were a junior in high school; that's very young to be working with people who have serious health problems. It's a stressful job for adults, let alone someone your age. Hopefully if you continue to work there you'll begin to understand your co-workers and patients, and you'll be able to learn how to balance your responsibilities with work and your personal life.

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Specializes in MDS/ UR.

Likely because they aren't getting enough through NETY!

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Ortho, ASC.
This is a joke, right??????

I think OP did not get the tongue-in-cheek.

OP is in junior high school, apparently.

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Billswife, I feel bad for everyone when I'm not there to help. I feel bad for my manager because of what he deals with daily. I feel bad for the residents sometimes because of the neglect and abuse I see from other CNAs to them. And I feel bad for the CNAs. I understnad some get upset and fustrated and can get mean, everyone can. But some of them are the downright mean people in the world that are just mean people naturally.

just so everyone knows, I'm still new to this job field and I'm younger than almost all the people on this forum. Just so you know, I don't know everything and have as much knowledge as you do. ;)

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Specializes in Registered Nurse.

As you get older, you''ll understand that there are places that do seem to have more concentrations of "bad" personalities and for various reasons. Other places will have less bad and more good. We try to find a job that has less bad. If you truly see bad treatment of patients, report this to your supervisor.

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Billswife, I feel bad for everyone when I'm not there to help. I feel bad for my manager because of what he deals with daily. I feel bad for the residents sometimes because of the neglect and abuse I see from other CNAs to them. And I feel bad for the CNAs. I understnad some get upset and fustrated and can get mean, everyone can. But some of them are the downright mean people in the world that are just mean people naturally.

just so everyone knows, I'm still new to this job field and I'm younger than almost all the people on this forum. Just so you know, I don't know everything and have as much knowledge as you do. ;)

Welcome new CNA. I appreciate your heart felt sentiments towards this thing known as patient care.

I have a feeling you will be a credit to the field.:yes:

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I do not put up with that at the hospital I work at. I have already told an Aide to go and apologize to my patient. I told her that I did not care what was said just to go and apologize. When she did, I then told the patient that sometimes the staff gets busy and sometimes will loose their cool. But I have also been where I almost told the patient to apologize to the staff. She treated all the staff with such disrespect that I had a hard time not saying anything to her. When she was finally discharged is when I found out really how bad she was. There is a point when you need to start being a patient advocate.

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Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.

There are mean/rude doctors, bellhops, teachers, taxi drivers, attorneys, cashiers, engineers, fry cooks, historians, shoe shiners, dentists, waiters, and so forth.

Rudeness can be found in many parts of society. Mean/rude behaviors are not exclusive to nurses and CNAs.

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Billswife, I feel bad for everyone when I'm not there to help. I feel bad for my manager because of what he deals with daily. I feel bad for the residents sometimes because of the neglect and abuse I see from other CNAs to them. And I feel bad for the CNAs. I understnad some get upset and fustrated and can get mean, everyone can. But some of them are the downright mean people in the world that are just mean people naturally.

just so everyone knows, I'm still new to this job field and I'm younger than almost all the people on this forum. Just so you know, I don't know everything and have as much knowledge as you do. ;)

I get where you're coming from. I do! I'm 56, so I've been in a lot more situations and seen more than you have, just as you said. In my life, the very worst, most cruel bullying I experienced was in high school from other students. It was so intense and hurtful that it truly changed who I am. It has taken years to even partially move on from what I experienced. There are a lot of things I still (at 56) don't participate in because I remember how awful the ridicule was. I don't have an answer for you, except that you will find meanness and cruelty in a lot of situations as you progress in life. I think some nurses and CNAs do get totally burned out. Maybe that's what you are seeing. At any rate, I wish you the best. Make a difference for someone, maybe even at your school. Stand up for someone who is being mistreated or bullied. God bless you for caring!

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OP, this is the ideal time to learn about boundaries and how to set and adhere to them. Getting overly emotionally invested in your job is not a good thing. And can contribute to your feelings of sadness. You can only do you. What everyone else does is on them.

I understand that circumstances are such that you need to hold a part time job to make some money. With that being said, you also need to be sure that school is also a priority for you. No one can take away your education. As soon as you find yourself getting caught up in perseverating on the difficult parts of your job, immediately stop and pick up a book.

As a junior in high school, now is the time to start thinking about continuing education beyond high school. If you look online, now is the time to start applying for scholarships that are applicable to those in their junior year. It will soon be time to choose classes for your senior year. That is where you need to focus right now, not that mean adults exist in every area of employment in one fashion or another.

You have an entire life ahead of you, so make good choices. Best wishes, and remember, you do you.

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Most nurses (and maybe CNA's, med techs) most likely have had their efforts and cares exausted by the interests of administration, DON and administrator. They have nothing left to show after enduring betrayal (either direct or indirect).

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Sounds like the place you're working. At the hospital I work at everyone is nice. Obviously there are always a few bad apples but I wouldn't generalize all CNAs and nurses as being mean. Maybe you should try finding another job. I know I wouldn't want to be surrounded by negativity all the time.

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