Last night at 0300 in the morning, my best friend was called to her daughters aide who was in the bathroom. By the tone of her voice..something was seriously wrong! She ran to her side to see blood all over the floor, and a barely conscious 18 year old daughter! White as a sheet and begging her mother not to let her die....
You see, this 18 year old precious baby girl of my best friend got pregant...and was so ashamed and scared that she went to an abortion clinic that was less that reputable under advisement of a friend of hers. The friends dropped her off and came to pick her up later...even then she didn't feel things were going right and felt very weak! The friends told her to never tell her parents what happened "they just won't understand..this is best!"....So of course...the parents...my best friend who would give her own life for her childrens safety...were not told....
She was rushed to the ER to find that she barely had enough blood to live, and in about another 2 hours would be dead for sure. The MD's were shocked that she was still alive! They told my friend what caused this...and my poor friend (who has lost 3 of her most loved residents at our work this week!) could only weep and say "why didn't she just come to me, I believe in choice...even though it may not be my choice and never was...but I would have taken her somewhere safe!". By this time her daughter was unresponsive so the answers were not there...she was so out of it that she couldn't get a hug, a kiss, anything from this daughter she loves...this daughter that means the world to her! This daughter who was dying in front of her eyes!
Lucky, and by only the Grace of a higher power, she did regain consciousness and was doing a little better...but then the second probelm...INSURANCE! They actually told my friend to take her home and bring her back every 6 hours for a blood transfusion!!!! WHAT!?!?!?! How can this happen!!!!! She almost died, and you are sending her home to only be brought back every 6 hours for a transfusion!?!?! Isn't there some sort of aid they can get to have her daughter there??????
So as it stands, my friend is going to have to take her every 6 hours to the ER which is quite a ways from home till further notice!
The nurse and mother in me is so sad and angry! Angry because I know exactly what she feels..the "why didn't you confide in me..I love you!" part...the sorrow over "why didn't I see this comming, I failed as a mother to protect my child!"...and the ultimate suffering...about watching your own child fade in front of your eyes and there is nothing NOTHING you can do!
Please..no matter your stance of right to live/right to choose, be there for these young scared girls...to guide them into getting real medical help...with their own DOCTOR first and foremost who knows them..it can save a life...sometimes more than that....It kind of scares me that nobody stops to think that before you go into a clinic, or woman's crisis facility, or any other place that deals with family planning or what not...no one THINKS to have them visit their own personal MD for answers and advise???
We will be lucky if she will ever have children...it is looking bad..a hysterectomy may be done soon due to too much damage...18 and the ability to have children...lost...over a mistake that was kept secret! Instill this in your own kids too....if it wasn't for those girls that stupidly took her in...this may NOT have happened! They need to be seen by their MD before any choice is made....
Please don't make this into a debate guys, please...I just want us all to think of how to prevent all this before it gets started...before pregancy or what to do just after for these terrified young ladies...your thoughts are appreciated!
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The health system I work for wou;ld have admitted her stat to a telemetry bed too. Follow the above advice re different hospital if possible; if no other choice then
1. Call family MD re situation stat. If on staff at facility, can often get patient admitted.
2. Call hospital administration and ombudsman. Threaten EMTLA violation to be reported to state.
3. A call to a local newspaper/TV station to report poor care--they love those stories.
4. Report situation to accrediation, state health department and local state representatives who have purse string control over funding for uninsured in your state.
5. CAn even go to state insurance department or attorney General in PA.
I'm so sorry this happened to your friend's daughter. ((((warm hugs)))) My prayers are with her and her family. :icon_hug:
The hospital and the doc who performed the abortion need to be reported! It's inhuman the way that poor girl was treated. Shame on them!!! :angryfire
It is extremely important for daughters and sons to know that they should be able to come to their parents when tragic things happen to them instead of them trying to fix the problem themselves. As a mother of 3 daughters myself, my girls know that they need not hide anything from me because I will always be by their side without judging them when they need me to be, and help them through whatever they are faced with.
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My heart goes out to this girl and mother. What a tragedy. How could that hospital live with itself? That poor little girl. That poor mother. I'm so sorry this happened.
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Well...no real news yet. I called my friend with the EMTALA information because I too thought this was very wrong and she should go to another hospital. In fact I was going to urge her to do so, and we would discuss what to do about the other facility after her daughter was okay....
BUT...when I called at 7pmish...my friend crying and said "honey I have to go..she is unconscious again and barely breathing...the paramedics are taking her now!", I told her to have them take her to a different hospital if they could (the one she went to is 2 hospials away! Don't understand why she was taken there in the first place unless they had some serious deverts!).
I will try to keep you all posted...and thank you so very much for your kind words and support! You guys helped me to help them...lets hope it works!
My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours. That is one thing I do not understand as a nurse is the insurance stuff - something does not seem right. Again, I will say a prayer for her and for all those she represents.
I wonder if it's the insurance COMPANY - I've heard of ridiculous things that insurance companies will not pay for or consider to be inpatient procedures. I wonder if the company has refused to pay b/c they don't consider this an inpatient necessity, so they won't pay for her to stay in the hospital.
Sick as it sounds, it wouldn't surprise me - and you can bet it would be me, the insurance company, and one h*ll of a lawyer.
It is soooo important for us young girls to be talked to. I was in the same situation about 3 years ago and my school counselor reffered me to a very good place that she personally knew. I would have never taken advice like that from someone my age. I was not planning on telling my parents but luckily for me( i did not think so at the time) my boyfriend's mother went and told my mom. Now I feel lucky that my mom was told because if something would have gone wrong, my mom would have known what it was caused by. My prayers go out to your friend and her daughter. I hope she gets better. Something needs to be done about this hospital. As someone said before, it could have been the insurance co. because I knoe that my insurance co. didnt cover anything. If they dont cover the proceudre I doubt they cover anything that may happen in result to the procedure. Im sure that once your friend's daughter is better, she will concentrate on taking sone serious action! God bless her family
Last night at 0300 in the morning, my best friend was called to her daughters aide who was in the bathroom. By the tone of her voice..something was seriously wrong! She ran to her side to see blood all over the floor, and a barely conscious 18 year old daughter! White as a sheet and begging her mother not to let her die....
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SmilingBluEyes
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oh. my. God.
so. very . sad!!!!