Last night at 0300 in the morning, my best friend was called to her daughters aide who was in the bathroom. By the tone of her voice..something was seriously wrong! She ran to her side to see blood all over the floor, and a barely conscious 18 year old daughter! White as a sheet and begging her mother not to let her die....
You see, this 18 year old precious baby girl of my best friend got pregant...and was so ashamed and scared that she went to an abortion clinic that was less that reputable under advisement of a friend of hers. The friends dropped her off and came to pick her up later...even then she didn't feel things were going right and felt very weak! The friends told her to never tell her parents what happened "they just won't understand..this is best!"....So of course...the parents...my best friend who would give her own life for her childrens safety...were not told....
She was rushed to the ER to find that she barely had enough blood to live, and in about another 2 hours would be dead for sure. The MD's were shocked that she was still alive! They told my friend what caused this...and my poor friend (who has lost 3 of her most loved residents at our work this week!) could only weep and say "why didn't she just come to me, I believe in choice...even though it may not be my choice and never was...but I would have taken her somewhere safe!". By this time her daughter was unresponsive so the answers were not there...she was so out of it that she couldn't get a hug, a kiss, anything from this daughter she loves...this daughter that means the world to her! This daughter who was dying in front of her eyes!
Lucky, and by only the Grace of a higher power, she did regain consciousness and was doing a little better...but then the second probelm...INSURANCE! They actually told my friend to take her home and bring her back every 6 hours for a blood transfusion!!!! WHAT!?!?!?! How can this happen!!!!! She almost died, and you are sending her home to only be brought back every 6 hours for a transfusion!?!?! Isn't there some sort of aid they can get to have her daughter there??????
So as it stands, my friend is going to have to take her every 6 hours to the ER which is quite a ways from home till further notice!
The nurse and mother in me is so sad and angry! Angry because I know exactly what she feels..the "why didn't you confide in me..I love you!" part...the sorrow over "why didn't I see this comming, I failed as a mother to protect my child!"...and the ultimate suffering...about watching your own child fade in front of your eyes and there is nothing NOTHING you can do!
Please..no matter your stance of right to live/right to choose, be there for these young scared girls...to guide them into getting real medical help...with their own DOCTOR first and foremost who knows them..it can save a life...sometimes more than that....It kind of scares me that nobody stops to think that before you go into a clinic, or woman's crisis facility, or any other place that deals with family planning or what not...no one THINKS to have them visit their own personal MD for answers and advise???
We will be lucky if she will ever have children...it is looking bad..a hysterectomy may be done soon due to too much damage...18 and the ability to have children...lost...over a mistake that was kept secret! Instill this in your own kids too....if it wasn't for those girls that stupidly took her in...this may NOT have happened! They need to be seen by their MD before any choice is made....
Please don't make this into a debate guys, please...I just want us all to think of how to prevent all this before it gets started...before pregancy or what to do just after for these terrified young ladies...your thoughts are appreciated!
I thought this was bad enough when I read about this poor woman finding her daughter on the bathroom floor bleeding out, and then discovering why, but the lack of admission and 'treatment plan'... Words fail me.
I'm so sorry - my thoughts are with you, your friend and her daughter.
I hope they took her to a different hospital. If not there must be a nearby hotel to stay at instead of the commute back and forth. STILL, SHE BELONGS IN A HOSPITAL.
open communication with parents who are loving & non-judgemental, and who effectively help their children problem-solve. that's the solution. young girls need to feel safe/comfortable to approach their parents about these issues.
oh my God triage- it doesn't get more tragic than this.
and then for the hospital not to admit her because of her insurance!!!!
when the dtr is stabilized, the mom should call the ins co and threaten them w/abandonment (or whatever the appropriate allegation would be)
then i would notify the dept of public health and get this butcher put out of business, nevermind a huge medical malpractice suit waiting to happen.
and of course as parents, we need to ensure in every way possilbe, that in the best and worst of circumstances, our kids feel safe in coming to us. i try to instill that in my kids every single day, in some way, shape or manner.
my prayers shall continue for healing, recovery and resolution.
open communication with parents who are loving & non-judgemental, and who effectively help their children problem-solve. that's the solution. young girls need to feel safe/comfortable to approach their parents about these issues.
Duh! Just who do you think you are helping with a post like that?
Thoughts and prayers are with the girl, her family and the OP.
Duh! Just who do you think you are helping with a post like that?
Thoughts and prayers are with the girl, her family and the OP.
Gods Blessings,
Christine
I was replying to her statement in bold! Give me a break:
"Please don't make this into a debate guys, please...I just want us all to think of how to prevent all this before it gets started...before pregancy or what to do just after for these terrified young ladies...your thoughts are appreciated!"
I was replying to her statement in bold! Give me a break:
"Please don't make this into a debate guys, please...I just want us all to think of how to prevent all this before it gets started...before pregancy or what to do just after for these terrified young ladies...your thoughts are appreciated!"
Sorry! I thought you were being a smidge judemental...didn't mean to turn this into a debate, really! My thoughts and prayers are with the young girl and the folks who love her.
Again, sorry if it sounded like I was being confrontational :uhoh21:
Last night at 0300 in the morning, my best friend was called to her daughters aide who was in the bathroom. By the tone of her voice..something was seriously wrong! She ran to her side to see blood all over the floor, and a barely conscious 18 year old daughter! White as a sheet and begging her mother not to let her die....
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I thought this was bad enough when I read about this poor woman finding her daughter on the bathroom floor bleeding out, and then discovering why, but the lack of admission and 'treatment plan'... Words fail me.
I'm so sorry - my thoughts are with you, your friend and her daughter.