Last night at 0300 in the morning, my best friend was called to her daughters aide who was in the bathroom. By the tone of her voice..something was seriously wrong! She ran to her side to see blood all over the floor, and a barely conscious 18 year old daughter! White as a sheet and begging her mother not to let her die....
You see, this 18 year old precious baby girl of my best friend got pregant...and was so ashamed and scared that she went to an abortion clinic that was less that reputable under advisement of a friend of hers. The friends dropped her off and came to pick her up later...even then she didn't feel things were going right and felt very weak! The friends told her to never tell her parents what happened "they just won't understand..this is best!"....So of course...the parents...my best friend who would give her own life for her childrens safety...were not told....
She was rushed to the ER to find that she barely had enough blood to live, and in about another 2 hours would be dead for sure. The MD's were shocked that she was still alive! They told my friend what caused this...and my poor friend (who has lost 3 of her most loved residents at our work this week!) could only weep and say "why didn't she just come to me, I believe in choice...even though it may not be my choice and never was...but I would have taken her somewhere safe!". By this time her daughter was unresponsive so the answers were not there...she was so out of it that she couldn't get a hug, a kiss, anything from this daughter she loves...this daughter that means the world to her! This daughter who was dying in front of her eyes!
Lucky, and by only the Grace of a higher power, she did regain consciousness and was doing a little better...but then the second probelm...INSURANCE! They actually told my friend to take her home and bring her back every 6 hours for a blood transfusion!!!! WHAT!?!?!?! How can this happen!!!!! She almost died, and you are sending her home to only be brought back every 6 hours for a transfusion!?!?! Isn't there some sort of aid they can get to have her daughter there??????
So as it stands, my friend is going to have to take her every 6 hours to the ER which is quite a ways from home till further notice!
The nurse and mother in me is so sad and angry! Angry because I know exactly what she feels..the "why didn't you confide in me..I love you!" part...the sorrow over "why didn't I see this comming, I failed as a mother to protect my child!"...and the ultimate suffering...about watching your own child fade in front of your eyes and there is nothing NOTHING you can do!
Please..no matter your stance of right to live/right to choose, be there for these young scared girls...to guide them into getting real medical help...with their own DOCTOR first and foremost who knows them..it can save a life...sometimes more than that....It kind of scares me that nobody stops to think that before you go into a clinic, or woman's crisis facility, or any other place that deals with family planning or what not...no one THINKS to have them visit their own personal MD for answers and advise???
We will be lucky if she will ever have children...it is looking bad..a hysterectomy may be done soon due to too much damage...18 and the ability to have children...lost...over a mistake that was kept secret! Instill this in your own kids too....if it wasn't for those girls that stupidly took her in...this may NOT have happened! They need to be seen by their MD before any choice is made....
Please don't make this into a debate guys, please...I just want us all to think of how to prevent all this before it gets started...before pregancy or what to do just after for these terrified young ladies...your thoughts are appreciated!
I would be heading for the nearest university or teaching hospital with my kid!! This is awful. Nobody should be treated like this. I will pray for them. I will also let my 11 year old know everyday that she can come to me for anything. Tell them to go to another hospital. She may find a doc that can save her future for children. God bless!!
Last night at 0300 in the morning, my best friend was called to her daughters aide who was in the bathroom. By the tone of her voice..something was seriously wrong! She ran to her side to see blood all over the floor, and a barely conscious 18 year old daughter! White as a sheet and begging her mother not to let her die....
You see, this 18 year old precious baby girl of my best friend got pregant...and was so ashamed and scared that she went to an abortion clinic that was less that reputable under advisement of a friend of hers. The friends dropped her off and came to pick her up later...even then she didn't feel things were going right and felt very weak! The friends told her to never tell her parents what happened "they just won't understand..this is best!"....So of course...the parents...my best friend who would give her own life for her childrens safety...were not told....
She was rushed to the ER to find that she barely had enough blood to live, and in about another 2 hours would be dead for sure. The MD's were shocked that she was still alive! They told my friend what caused this...and my poor friend (who has lost 3 of her most loved residents at our work this week!) could only weep and say "why didn't she just come to me, I believe in choice...even though it may not be my choice and never was...but I would have taken her somewhere safe!". By this time her daughter was unresponsive so the answers were not there...she was so out of it that she couldn't get a hug, a kiss, anything from this daughter she loves...this daughter that means the world to her! This daughter who was dying in front of her eyes!
Lucky, and by only the Grace of a higher power, she did regain consciousness and was doing a little better...but then the second probelm...INSURANCE! They actually told my friend to take her home and bring her back every 6 hours for a blood transfusion!!!! WHAT!?!?!?! How can this happen!!!!! She almost died, and you are sending her home to only be brought back every 6 hours for a transfusion!?!?! Isn't there some sort of aid they can get to have her daughter there??????
So as it stands, my friend is going to have to take her every 6 hours to the ER which is quite a ways from home till further notice!
The nurse and mother in me is so sad and angry! Angry because I know exactly what she feels..the "why didn't you confide in me..I love you!" part...the sorrow over "why didn't I see this comming, I failed as a mother to protect my child!"...and the ultimate suffering...about watching your own child fade in front of your eyes and there is nothing NOTHING you can do!
Please..no matter your stance of right to live/right to choose, be there for these young scared girls...to guide them into getting real medical help...with their own DOCTOR first and foremost who knows them..it can save a life...sometimes more than that....It kind of scares me that nobody stops to think that before you go into a clinic, or woman's crisis facility, or any other place that deals with family planning or what not...no one THINKS to have them visit their own personal MD for answers and advise???
We will be lucky if she will ever have children...it is looking bad..a hysterectomy may be done soon due to too much damage...18 and the ability to have children...lost...over a mistake that was kept secret! Instill this in your own kids too....if it wasn't for those girls that stupidly took her in...this may NOT have happened! They need to be seen by their MD before any choice is made....
Please don't make this into a debate guys, please...I just want us all to think of how to prevent all this before it gets started...before pregancy or what to do just after for these terrified young ladies...your thoughts are appreciated!
Oh man I am heart broken. Just reciently my 4 year old daughter came to me and told me that her 12 year old cousin molested her. I am so proud that she was able to tell me at such a young age. One of my great wishes is that she and her sisters will be able to keep up that trust and tell me about situations like this in the future. As much as it would hurt me to hear they were dealing with a situation like that it is nothing to the horror of a situation like your friends. I can't quite imagine.
Has anyone gone back to the hospital or the butcher to press charges?
P.S.- I would like to copy your story and post it on another message board for parenting if I could. I think lots of people should be able to hear this story and talk with their daughters and sons. Lets not forget the boys either.
Last night at 0300 in the morning, my best friend was called to her daughters aide who was in the bathroom. By the tone of her voice..something was seriously wrong! She ran to her side to see blood all over the floor, and a barely conscious 18 year old daughter! White as a sheet and begging her mother not to let her die....
You see, this 18 year old precious baby girl of my best friend got pregant...and was so ashamed and scared that she went to an abortion clinic that was less that reputable under advisement of a friend of hers. The friends dropped her off and came to pick her up later...even then she didn't feel things were going right and felt very weak! The friends told her to never tell her parents what happened "they just won't understand..this is best!"....So of course...the parents...my best friend who would give her own life for her childrens safety...were not told....
She was rushed to the ER to find that she barely had enough blood to live, and in about another 2 hours would be dead for sure. The MD's were shocked that she was still alive! They told my friend what caused this...and my poor friend (who has lost 3 of her most loved residents at our work this week!) could only weep and say "why didn't she just come to me, I believe in choice...even though it may not be my choice and never was...but I would have taken her somewhere safe!". By this time her daughter was unresponsive so the answers were not there...she was so out of it that she couldn't get a hug, a kiss, anything from this daughter she loves...this daughter that means the world to her! This daughter who was dying in front of her eyes!
Lucky, and by only the Grace of a higher power, she did regain consciousness and was doing a little better...but then the second probelm...INSURANCE! They actually told my friend to take her home and bring her back every 6 hours for a blood transfusion!!!! WHAT!?!?!?! How can this happen!!!!! She almost died, and you are sending her home to only be brought back every 6 hours for a transfusion!?!?! Isn't there some sort of aid they can get to have her daughter there??????
So as it stands, my friend is going to have to take her every 6 hours to the ER which is quite a ways from home till further notice!
The nurse and mother in me is so sad and angry! Angry because I know exactly what she feels..the "why didn't you confide in me..I love you!" part...the sorrow over "why didn't I see this comming, I failed as a mother to protect my child!"...and the ultimate suffering...about watching your own child fade in front of your eyes and there is nothing NOTHING you can do!
Please..no matter your stance of right to live/right to choose, be there for these young scared girls...to guide them into getting real medical help...with their own DOCTOR first and foremost who knows them..it can save a life...sometimes more than that....It kind of scares me that nobody stops to think that before you go into a clinic, or woman's crisis facility, or any other place that deals with family planning or what not...no one THINKS to have them visit their own personal MD for answers and advise???
We will be lucky if she will ever have children...it is looking bad..a hysterectomy may be done soon due to too much damage...18 and the ability to have children...lost...over a mistake that was kept secret! Instill this in your own kids too....if it wasn't for those girls that stupidly took her in...this may NOT have happened! They need to be seen by their MD before any choice is made....
Please don't make this into a debate guys, please...I just want us all to think of how to prevent all this before it gets started...before pregancy or what to do just after for these terrified young ladies...your thoughts are appreciated!
...what a nightmare for the whole family!! I knew of an abortionist who would drive to our city to his clinic twice a week for abortion days. He butchered 5 women I personnally knew, had law suits in other cities at other clinics. This was when Michigan had medicaid abortions. This guy was so bad neither one of our 2 large non-catholic hospitals would allow him privileges...but they would do what they could for the women he butchered.
...if your friend's family has the strength, they should sue the clinic,and the doctor. AND I would call the hospital board, my congress man/woman about the hospital and go to the press about having to travel every 6 hours for a blood transfusion. It need not be disclosed why the pt. needs the transfusions...confidentiality.
...my prayers are with your friend and her daughter. When the time is right, she may benefit from post-abortion counseling, non-judgmental, loving and confidential, which could be by appt. or phone counseling or even internet counseling.
Last night at 0300 in the morning, my best friend was called to her daughters aide who was in the bathroom. By the tone of her voice..something was seriously wrong! She ran to her side to see blood all over the floor, and a barely conscious 18 year old daughter! White as a sheet and begging her mother not to let her die....
You see, this 18 year old precious baby girl of my best friend got pregant...and was so ashamed and scared that she went to an abortion clinic that was less that reputable under advisement of a friend of hers. The friends dropped her off and came to pick her up later...even then she didn't feel things were going right and felt very weak! The friends told her to never tell her parents what happened "they just won't understand..this is best!"....So of course...the parents...my best friend who would give her own life for her childrens safety...were not told....
She was rushed to the ER to find that she barely had enough blood to live, and in about another 2 hours would be dead for sure. The MD's were shocked that she was still alive! They told my friend what caused this...and my poor friend (who has lost 3 of her most loved residents at our work this week!) could only weep and say "why didn't she just come to me, I believe in choice...even though it may not be my choice and never was...but I would have taken her somewhere safe!". By this time her daughter was unresponsive so the answers were not there...she was so out of it that she couldn't get a hug, a kiss, anything from this daughter she loves...this daughter that means the world to her! This daughter who was dying in front of her eyes!
Lucky, and by only the Grace of a higher power, she did regain consciousness and was doing a little better...but then the second probelm...INSURANCE! They actually told my friend to take her home and bring her back every 6 hours for a blood transfusion!!!! WHAT!?!?!?! How can this happen!!!!! She almost died, and you are sending her home to only be brought back every 6 hours for a transfusion!?!?! Isn't there some sort of aid they can get to have her daughter there??????
So as it stands, my friend is going to have to take her every 6 hours to the ER which is quite a ways from home till further notice!
The nurse and mother in me is so sad and angry! Angry because I know exactly what she feels..the "why didn't you confide in me..I love you!" part...the sorrow over "why didn't I see this comming, I failed as a mother to protect my child!"...and the ultimate suffering...about watching your own child fade in front of your eyes and there is nothing NOTHING you can do!
Please..no matter your stance of right to live/right to choose, be there for these young scared girls...to guide them into getting real medical help...with their own DOCTOR first and foremost who knows them..it can save a life...sometimes more than that....It kind of scares me that nobody stops to think that before you go into a clinic, or woman's crisis facility, or any other place that deals with family planning or what not...no one THINKS to have them visit their own personal MD for answers and advise???
We will be lucky if she will ever have children...it is looking bad..a hysterectomy may be done soon due to too much damage...18 and the ability to have children...lost...over a mistake that was kept secret! Instill this in your own kids too....if it wasn't for those girls that stupidly took her in...this may NOT have happened! They need to be seen by their MD before any choice is made....
Please don't make this into a debate guys, please...I just want us all to think of how to prevent all this before it gets started...before pregancy or what to do just after for these terrified young ladies...your thoughts are appreciated!
I am so sorry that you, your friend and her daughter are going through this. I work at a crisis pregnacy center, and I have heard so many stories like yours. It is truly a night mare and I hope and pray that everything will be ok with her. Please know that at my center, at least, we stress to the young women we work with to #1 TELL YOUR PARENTS, we even will go with them to talk with there parents if they are to scared. The secound thing we do is tell them to go to THEIR doctors first, and if they don't have one we help them find a good doctor to talk with her. Also, even though we are pro-life we tell them that We love them and will support them NO MATTER WHAT THEY CHOOSE!! It is my prayer that no young woman ever go through this alone. Please know that there are groups out there that do truly love these grils and are not just on a mission for what they think is right. We also provide post-abortion consuling. Please incouarge your friend to find someone for herself and her daugther to talk to. Someone that want judge but love them. I have faith that she will be healed in body and soul. Also remeber that there are people out there that care and want to help!!!!
This truly is about access to care and how the uninsured and underinsured are treated...so very sorry for this travesty.
My sister is going through a similar situation. She has been unemployed for the past four years, cannot find work ANYWHERE and cannot afford the premiums for health insurance. To make matters worse, she is 58, and is starting to have health problems (hypertension, lumbar stenosis, gallstones and UTI's). For the past two months, she has been plagued by flank pain which has become increasingly worse over the past week or two. She was advised by her PCP last week to make an appointment with a urologist. She called his office yesterday. The woman taking her call asked her if she needed to see the Dr.yesterday. When my sister replied yes, she was told to bring her insurance card. Well, everything changed, including this woman's attitude, when she found out my sister didn't have one, and she became very rude and informed my sister that she "couldn't be seen until Wednesday afternoon". Outraged, my brother-in-law put her in the car and took her to the E.R. Now she has a $1600.00 hospital bill that she has NO idea as how she is going to pay.
It is just a shame that the health care system in this country has taken on the attitude of "your money or your life". :angryfire
My sister is going through a similar situation. She has been unemployed for the past four years, cannot find work ANYWHERE and cannot afford the premiums for health insurance. To make matters worse, she is 58, and is starting to have health problems (hypertension, lumbar stenosis, gallstones and UTI's). For the past two months, she has been plagued by flank pain which has become increasingly worse over the past week or two. She was advised by her PCP last week to make an appointment with a urologist. She called his office yesterday. The woman taking her call asked her if she needed to see the Dr.yesterday. When my sister replied yes, she was told to bring her insurance card. Well, everything changed, including this woman's attitude, when she found out my sister didn't have one, and she became very rude and informed my sister that she "couldn't be seen until Wednesday afternoon". Outraged, my brother-in-law put her in the car and took her to the E.R. Now she has a $1600.00 hospital bill that she has NO idea as how she is going to pay.
It is just a shame that the health care system in this country has taken on the attitude of "your money or your life". :angryfire
This story, too, is really a shame. When some doctors see "insurance", they run every test imaginable. If the same pt presented at the doctor's office w/o insurance, very few tests will be run. I know this is true, this happened to me this past April. Up until January, I did not have health insurance. But now I have health insurance, the doctor can't wait to run certain tests, tests which were not run a year ago, but should have. :angryfire
I hope that your friend's daughter is doing better. Please let us know how she's doing. She's in my thoughts and prayers. I do hope that she's able to follow through with the legal aspects of this case.
Alert the media. They can investigate the hospitals that take so much of our tax money because they "supposedly" provide unreimbursed care to those without insurance. What a pile of .......
Last night at 0300 in the morning, my best friend was called to her daughters aide who was in the bathroom. By the tone of her voice..something was seriously wrong! She ran to her side to see blood all over the floor, and a barely conscious 18 year old daughter! White as a sheet and begging her mother not to let her die....
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My thoughts and prayers go out for that girl and her family.