Last night at 0300 in the morning, my best friend was called to her daughters aide who was in the bathroom. By the tone of her voice..something was seriously wrong! She ran to her side to see blood all over the floor, and a barely conscious 18 year old daughter! White as a sheet and begging her mother not to let her die....
You see, this 18 year old precious baby girl of my best friend got pregant...and was so ashamed and scared that she went to an abortion clinic that was less that reputable under advisement of a friend of hers. The friends dropped her off and came to pick her up later...even then she didn't feel things were going right and felt very weak! The friends told her to never tell her parents what happened "they just won't understand..this is best!"....So of course...the parents...my best friend who would give her own life for her childrens safety...were not told....
She was rushed to the ER to find that she barely had enough blood to live, and in about another 2 hours would be dead for sure. The MD's were shocked that she was still alive! They told my friend what caused this...and my poor friend (who has lost 3 of her most loved residents at our work this week!) could only weep and say "why didn't she just come to me, I believe in choice...even though it may not be my choice and never was...but I would have taken her somewhere safe!". By this time her daughter was unresponsive so the answers were not there...she was so out of it that she couldn't get a hug, a kiss, anything from this daughter she loves...this daughter that means the world to her! This daughter who was dying in front of her eyes!
Lucky, and by only the Grace of a higher power, she did regain consciousness and was doing a little better...but then the second probelm...INSURANCE! They actually told my friend to take her home and bring her back every 6 hours for a blood transfusion!!!! WHAT!?!?!?! How can this happen!!!!! She almost died, and you are sending her home to only be brought back every 6 hours for a transfusion!?!?! Isn't there some sort of aid they can get to have her daughter there??????
So as it stands, my friend is going to have to take her every 6 hours to the ER which is quite a ways from home till further notice!
The nurse and mother in me is so sad and angry! Angry because I know exactly what she feels..the "why didn't you confide in me..I love you!" part...the sorrow over "why didn't I see this comming, I failed as a mother to protect my child!"...and the ultimate suffering...about watching your own child fade in front of your eyes and there is nothing NOTHING you can do!
Please..no matter your stance of right to live/right to choose, be there for these young scared girls...to guide them into getting real medical help...with their own DOCTOR first and foremost who knows them..it can save a life...sometimes more than that....It kind of scares me that nobody stops to think that before you go into a clinic, or woman's crisis facility, or any other place that deals with family planning or what not...no one THINKS to have them visit their own personal MD for answers and advise???
We will be lucky if she will ever have children...it is looking bad..a hysterectomy may be done soon due to too much damage...18 and the ability to have children...lost...over a mistake that was kept secret! Instill this in your own kids too....if it wasn't for those girls that stupidly took her in...this may NOT have happened! They need to be seen by their MD before any choice is made....
Please don't make this into a debate guys, please...I just want us all to think of how to prevent all this before it gets started...before pregancy or what to do just after for these terrified young ladies...your thoughts are appreciated!
My sister is going through a similar situation. She has been unemployed for the past four years, cannot find work ANYWHERE and cannot afford the premiums for health insurance. To make matters worse, she is 58, and is starting to have health problems (hypertension, lumbar stenosis, gallstones and UTI's). For the past two months, she has been plagued by flank pain which has become increasingly worse over the past week or two. She was advised by her PCP last week to make an appointment with a urologist. She called his office yesterday. The woman taking her call asked her if she needed to see the Dr.yesterday. When my sister replied yes, she was told to bring her insurance card. Well, everything changed, including this woman's attitude, when she found out my sister didn't have one, and she became very rude and informed my sister that she "couldn't be seen until Wednesday afternoon". Outraged, my brother-in-law put her in the car and took her to the E.R. Now she has a $1600.00 hospital bill that she has NO idea as how she is going to pay.
It is just a shame that the health care system in this country has taken on the attitude of "your money or your life". :angryfire
Update: I just returned from a visit with my sister. She received a phone call from her PCP this afternoon, who stated that the IVP which was done in the ER yesterday shows a mass in her bladder. She has an appointment with another Urologist this Thursday, who is going to perform a cysto and biopsy. Of course she is very upset, thinking she has cancer and is going to die. All this..on top of being uninsured. Please keep her and my family in your prayers.
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I was just wondering how your friend's daughter is doing? With the death of Supreme court Justice W Rehnquist I fear that we will see the reversal of Rowe V Wade and this type of scenario will become all too common...It's like our current administration is turning the clocks back....back to when it was ok to discrimainate against gays,ok to send young women into back alleyways for abortions because there was little or no access to family planning..If you are not middle to upper class Christian and white you just don't matter ......
I was just wondering how your friend's daughter is doing? With the death of Supreme court Justice W Rehnquist I fear that we will see the reversal of Rowe V Wade and this type of scenario will become all too common...It's like our current administration is turning the clocks back....back to when it was ok to discrimainate against gays,ok to send young women into back alleyways for abortions because there was little or no access to family planning..If you are not middle to upper class Christian and white you just don't matter ......
The clinic the OP spoke of was a legal abortion clinic. How would a reversal of Roe v. Wade make this scenario "all too common"? This was no "back alley" abortion; this was one fully acceptable under Roe v. Wade.
Thanks guys...I have no new news yet, I knew that my friend has been on the phone all the time the last two days so I chose to wait so she could get some rest. The daughter had convulsions and was septic and admitted to a hospital.
I talked with my friend and the clinic was shut down, and she already has paperwork for malpractice for the clinic and the hospital that told her to go home! (bwt...no it doesn't start with a K, it is WV that sent her out, but according to my friend she just didn't know enough about the laws to find it odd that she was discharged...the other hospital the girl was taken to told her, I told her...so now she knows).
Thanks again...you kind words of support are much appreciated! I will be gone till 7/6 so I will update when I get back...hopefully all will be well by then...I hope...
wait wait wait...in less than two days they shut the clinic down??? this is sounds so fishy...we all know bad docs. it takes years and years for anything to happen
Lucky, and by only the Grace of a higher power, she did regain consciousness and was doing a little better...but then the second probelm...INSURANCE! They actually told my friend to take her home and bring her back every 6 hours for a blood transfusion!!!! WHAT!?!?!?! How can this happen!!!!! She almost died, and you are sending her home to only be brought back every 6 hours for a transfusion!?!?! Isn't there some sort of aid they can get to have her daughter there??????
Somethings fishy here with the insurance. Does she not have insurance?
If she doesn't have insurance, the ER has to keep her until she is medically stable. If they are refusing, then go elsewhere. Did they hospital actually advise that she HAD to come back for tx or did they present as an option. I do know of patients that choose to come back for tx, because they don't want to be admitted, due to costs.
If she has insurance, is the insurance company refusing to let her be admitted? In this case, her family needs to get a hold of the head person to find out why they are denying her admission. Make sure that everything is documented and get copies of all paperwork.
The other option is for the family to bite the bullet, insists on her being admitted and deal with the bills /costs of the hospital after this is over with.
I wish the best of luck to your friend and her family.
I have been thinking of that woman since I was last here.
So sad that in this day and age that bad doctors continue to work. You'd think that with computers and fast communication they could shut these Doctors down a bit faster.
I can't believe any decent facility would send someone home needing blood; especially someone at risk for septic shock to boot, since it appears she probably was perfed during the procedure. It'd be best to go to another hospital, and file a complaint with whatever state hospital association or organization there is to do so. This facility could be guilty of criminal negligence IMO.
I find it kind of fishy that the OP hasn't returned to update us even though she has been posting quite a bit lately. :chair:
I noticed the same thing. I wondered what has happened, and then I noticed that the OP has still been active on the boards. What happened to the girl???
I noticed the same thing. I wondered what has happened, and then I noticed that the OP has still been active on the boards. What happened to the girl???
Last night at 0300 in the morning, my best friend was called to her daughters aide who was in the bathroom. By the tone of her voice..something was seriously wrong! She ran to her side to see blood all over the floor, and a barely conscious 18 year old daughter! White as a sheet and begging her mother not to let her die....
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Update:
I just returned from a visit with my sister. She received a phone call from her PCP this afternoon, who stated that the IVP which was done in the ER yesterday shows a mass in her bladder. She has an appointment with another Urologist this Thursday, who is going to perform a cysto and biopsy. Of course she is very upset, thinking she has cancer and is going to die. All this..on top of being uninsured. Please keep her and my family in your prayers.