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  1. leslie :-D

    Why are people uncomfortable talking about mental health?

    the above (my meds) is one of the major reasons i haven't returned to nsg... don't trust myself because a lot of my memory is shot and my mind is often discombobulated. be careful, sweetie. leslie
  2. ok, we are clearly not communicating, or, i am thick as poop... because for the life of me, i am not understanding how you can definitively deny a contradiction. again, a pt is in spiritual crisis, i.e., they are UNSURE if they are truly Christian or not. and so, the aforementioned would fit your first criteria of "the dying patient was a non-believer"... because even if they had been a practicing Christian their entire lives, lots of beliefs can and do change when dying. to quote 2 thessalonians 1:7-10 to a distressed, dying pt would be devastating. if you cannot understand that, there is nothing more i can say. and yes, you are probably correct in that majority of Christians believe Jesus is son of God. i'm not sure what your point is, but i will concede to that. i have cared for several Christians who were at peace. they talked about going home to Jesus, they had the 'glow' and were clearly firm in their faith. it is when there is absolutely no spiritual confusion and when the pt openly talks about their religion with joy, then that would be the only time when a nurse could respond in same. but even then, i personally do not believe in that. i feel it crosses professional boundaries but everyone feels differently. i do believe i've said all i can on this matter. if you still believe there is nothing wrong with sharing thessalonian's passage to a pt in spiritual crisis, then i will pray you don't devastate them. it is out of my hands. take care. leslie
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    End stage Alzheimer's

    how does anyone live 6+ months without eating and without a feeding tube? leslie
  4. leslie :-D

    Why are people uncomfortable talking about mental health?

    i *think* those well-meaning friends (who suggested ssdi) weren't/aren't aware of your capabilties at the time you spoke about it. that maybe (and only YOU could answer that) you wouldn't be able to return to nursing. speaking for myself, that is the only reason i suggested ssdi...in hopes of its thought bringing you a piece of comfort, knowing that you didn't have to try and return to the very environment that has created incredible stress for you. iow, i suggested it only as a consideration...and not as an absolute and only option. :) leslie
  5. how come you're quoting "motives", inferring that i must have used this word? (i didn't.) to answer your question, i believe in God...a divine source, supreme spirit, all that is...however one chooses to address this being. i don't believe in Jesus as the son of Him. my therapist seems to think that perhaps Jesus was created as a more credible and accessible source, since realistically, many would struggle in believing in someone/something they couldn't see. *shrugs*...i don't know. i do believe there was a Jesus...maybe a prophetic sage. whatever His role, it is just not resonating with me that He was the Son of God. and it further raises my hackles when i am told i MUST believe that or i'm going to hell. nah. God doesn't work like that. He gave us free will. it is up to us to decide and trust in a divine, supreme energy that has indirect but total control over our lives. IF there is some sort of ramification for not believing, i believe it is inflicted by ourselves, not God. and only when we see the 'light', will be ascend in our spirituality. i could write a book on this, lol, but these are my most basic of beliefs. i don't know paul or anyone else in the bible. so to reference different scripture to me, falls on deaf ears. nothing personal...and God understands. leslie
  6. before i continue, why do you presume we may get "mad" at your selected scripture? i ask that most sincerely. speaking for myself, i do not get the least bit upset because the words are meaningless to me. i am quite secure in my beliefs, so there is absolutely no reason for me to get "mad". as you can see, you indeed contradicted yourself... between the words you initially stated you would share with a dying pt and your subsequent post, citing its insensitivity. do you not remember what you wrote? leslie
  7. leslie :-D

    Why are people uncomfortable talking about mental health?

    i believe people fear what they don't know or understand. and so, mental illness and death are 2 concepts that remain intimidating to most people. of course there are resultant offsprings of such a basic theory, but at its core, we fear what we do not understand. a lot more education and support would do wonders in ameliorating the stigma that frequently accompanies the aversions that we create in ignorance. leslie
  8. i would guesstimate that 99.9% of your posts have included scripture. and so respectfully, i remain skeptical of the bolded (by me). i *think* it's an exclusive type of language that devout Christians share amongst each other, re the light of the holy spirit or Jesus. still, i fully agree with your perspective...that religion has nothing to do with the glow...the light. rather, i've seen so many people that are joyous... that they have the glow/light of love, of peace, of contentment within their souls. this is why that type of Christian banter doesn't offend me... as i replace the religious concept with a more universal one, and they are one and the same. it is important to me, not to get hung up on labels. :) leslie eta: fwiw, i DESPISE that smiley face. he just looks so darned smug.
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    What to do if you disagree with the care of another nurse's pt?

    op, i appreciate the angst this situation elicited from you and it sounds like your concerns were plausible. it sounded like a more acute situation, where immediate intervention was warranted. if you don't/didn't feel comfortable suggesting a rr to the nurse, i might consider discussing it (confidentially) with a um/cn/nm... as long as you clarify that you are not trying to criticize the other nurse; only that you are seeking input as to whether there is a protocol in place, or wanting to anticipate prospective actions in the event of a next time. i agree, it is not a matter of receiving "better" care with the rrt; it's a matter of receiving immediate care. to me, you sound rightly concerned... and also respectful of the potential conflict it may cause. it sounds like you're doing well in your new position. keep it going. leslie
  10. ah...i'm glad you've come around and seen the light. good answer. leslie
  11. i do wish this type of course was mandated in nsg school... as we deal with such a diverse population and even if some don't, it can only benefit ourselves in expanding our sensitivities to those we serve. that said, i am mystified by those who have absolutely no desire in learning or understanding anything other than what they personally believe. that type of attitude to me, speaks to the art of nursing or more specific, its lack... and would not result in attaining one's professional best. still...and again, i do think this type of sociological requirement would benefit the student and his/her prospective patients... whether the benefit is voluntary or inadvertent, remains to be seen. :) leslie
  12. it's especially important that all nurses are on the same page re poc, i.e., anticipate attempts of manipulation and/or staff-splitting, or other types of disruptions. bpd IS a tough one to manage...for the pt and caregiver(s). once that truth is acknowledged, it gives more leeway for progress to be made. leslie
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    Making anoymous complaint

    yes i did and yes i was eventually terminated and yes it took its emotional and financial toll on me. but i felt compelled to stand behind my truth and even though i would never want to do it again, i probably would... because that is who i am. you find out who will stand behind you, you find out who your true friends are, and you get to see others true colors. lots of betrayal, lots of backstabbing, lots and lots of lies. but i did it because it was the right thing to do. be prepared for the worst and don't lose sight of why you are doing this. i wish you the very best, and thank you. leslie
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    My heartache and hiatus...

    (((cp))), i am truly sorry for your loss. while our beloveds departure result in profound angst and despair... it is our spirit of love and gratitude that keeps us together and eternal. i seriously don't mean to sound drippy, i fully believe this. heartfelt prayers for healing, faith, and comfort. until you meet again, i know you will nurture his legacy of all he represented here on earth. leslie
  15. yes, i readily admitted i was upset/offended by your post and thought i explained why but you still don't seem to understand. again, when a pt is in crisis (spiritual), they are questioning their faith. they are questioning whether they believe or not. and so, it is not the time to preach gospel. and once again, i took offense by the passage below...that talks of everlasting destruction. all other quotes have been removed as to focus on what it was that you should never share with a pt... yet in your own words, you stated you would. i cannot get into detail but i am recalling one particular patient who had preached the word his entire life. yet on his deathbed, he believed his life to be a bad script, a farce... he was condemning himself for not following his very own thoughts that often conflicted with his faith. (yes, i have heard very similar conversations from other Christians as well.). i stand by my response to you fsu, as i believe at this time, you're not understanding the fragility, confusion, angst, and vulnerability of pts who are dying. you cannot establish anyone as a Christian (or any other religion) unless/until they staunchly identify themselves as such. when pts are in crisis, they are not identifying with their religion at all. it is a very precarious time. and keep in mind, i could/did have conversations with these pts, after being in an ongoing and intimate relationship with them. we spent lots and lots of quality time together. and to clarify, i do not share my faith with my pts. i thought i had said that. to all others, sure, i think many know i'm very spiritual. *shrugs* my point was that i don't share that part of myself with my pts. i do hope you reread what you posted to me (about the words you would share with a pt) and hopefully you will see why i reacted as i did. thanks. leslie
  16. WRONG answer. you would NOT tell a dying patient in spiritual distress/crisis, that they may be doomed to everlasting destruction!!! some of these folks have already spoken with the hospice chaplain, have fervently prayed and are still questioning their faith...their beliefs!! so HELL no, you would never never never insinuate anything remotely terrifying to a pt in crisis. NEVER. yes, i got incredibly upset by your response. please, do not work with the dying. i know you mean well, but that has to be one of the scariest responses i've ever seen. i'm done here. leslie