How do I break up with my study buddy?

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This is probably going to sound conceeded but, I have this study buddy who is really starting to get on my nerves. Me and her are both going into the nurses program at our college and it seems like she basically wants me to hold her hand and walk her through college. Constantly trying to mooch answers off of me because she knows I am a straight A student. I'm the kind of person who studies better on my own. I have kids and a very busy life and I do not have time to tutor anyone. This is my personnal challenge and I do not have room for academic moochers. Did any of you have this problem? How can I break up with my study buddy? She is in some of my classes next semester. Help! what do I do?:banghead:

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I would just be unavailable. With your other responsibilities, being unavailable is probably true anyway.

I'm all for study buddies when everyone brings something to the table.....but if I'm consistently the only one bringing something to the table, the other should be bringing money....that's called tutoring.

Peace,

CuriousMe

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This is probably going to sound conceeded but, I have this study buddy who is really starting to get on my nerves. Me and her are both going into the nurses program at our college and it seems like she basically wants me to hold her hand and walk her through college. Constantly trying to mooch answers off of me because she knows I am a straight A student. I'm the kind of person who studies better on my own. I have kids and a very busy life and I do not have time to tutor anyone. This is my personnal challenge and I do not have room for academic moochers. Did any of you have this problem? How can I break up with my study buddy? She is in some of my classes next semester. Help! what do I do?:banghead:

To quote yourself: Just tell her, "I'm the kind of person who studies better on my own. I have kids and a very busy life and I do not have time to tutor anyone. "

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Just politely decline, say you're aren't able to get together,

and clear your mind. You don't have to explain your reasons.

Even suggest to her that maybe she could find someone else - like maybe a tutor?

Tell her that you've tried studying together with others (that includes her), and it just doesn't work for you.

Tell her that you have too many other demands.

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To quote yourself: Just tell her, "I'm the kind of person who studies better on my own. I have kids and a very busy life and I do not have time to tutor anyone. "

Honesty is the best policy...I could not have said it better....

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I agee with the other posts. Sit this person down in a private location and be honest. It can be brutal at first but it will prevent you from resenting her and save you from going crazy. Honesty is always the best policy. Tell her that you have a busy lifestyle and you study best on your own. There's nothing wrong with that.

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Specializes in Home Health.

Or, you could just tell her you have TB and cough a few times in her general direction...she'll get the point.

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Specializes in Psychiatry.

This is going to sound really selfish.. but...

Nursing school is all about YOU.. it has to be. You have worked long and hard to get to where you are. You will find there is not much time to worry about anyone or anything else else but yourself anyway.

Best,

Diane

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Specializes in ED.

I have lost acquaintances whom I really liked, but I could not study with them. I didnt mind because the ultimate goal is to graduate and be a nurse. If you are completely honest with her she should understand. You'll see that nursing school is no joke and you'll get good at eliminating the unnecessary mess, if possible. JUST BE HONEST.

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Finding someone you can PRODUCTIVELY study with while in nursing school can be hard. Sometimes it requires letting people go because they're not a good fit.

In fact, one of my close friends that I met in nursing school was one of them. We had different learning styles and she just wasn't grasping the concepts. I felt like I was always pulling her along and finally got to the point where I couldn't continue.

I ended up having to just explain to her that we didn't click as far as studying was concerned. I told her I'd help her when I could and academically, we went our separate ways.

Some of us study better alone, while others like big groups. Personally, I have ONE fellow classmate I can study with and if I don't work with her, I go it alone.

By the way, I'm still close with the girl I couldn't study with.

Good luck to you.

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To quote yourself: Just tell her, "I'm the kind of person who studies better on my own. I have kids and a very busy life and I do not have time to tutor anyone. "

I was going to suggest the same thing...just be honest. It's not wrong that you do better on your own...I usually do too! Just tell her.

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Specializes in Critical Care.

I would totally agree with the many that have suggested telling her the truth. It will make you feel better and she will get the hint witout getting defensive.

I have been a tutor and I agree it is hard to work with some individulas when they can't see things the same way.

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