I would work a certain floor and my buddy nurse would make side comments like, "Oh you're working today? She must be on vacation." Making side comments asking me why I'm working on that certain floor.
They are all nosy asking me how I managed to get the job there. Then I hear them commenting saying that how I get more shifts than nurses who are more senior than I am. To me I would not know. Am I the staffing clerk? Am I the Director of Care?
Not sure why they do not mind their own business. Literally, its like I did not know you were the boss and decided where I work.
I don't want to be mean, but I feel offended and not wanted when they ask me those questions. Questioning me as if I am a nobody. Now I'm not sure if its the way they were brought up. Most of those workers like that were not born in Canada they all went to nursing school outside Canada and just wrote their exam in Canada and were granted a license, cause I know most of the people I went to school with were disciplined and did not behave like that.
I think you all need to be supportive. Healthcare workers are the number one profession that bullies in the workplace! There are anti bullying policies in place and anti harassment polices for all employees. If you cannot talk with your coworkers directly go to HR.start documenting. This is legal reason to sue. Come on people you are all better than this! You take care of patients well! Start treating each other better otherwise you may be surprised when your served with a lawsuit.... trust me! I’ve sued and won
2 hours ago, DrrRachelDNPAPRNCNP said:
I don’t need to show you anything. Grow up and accept each other’s differences.
Yes you do need to show. YOU made an assertion so back it up or...
You joined 15 hours ago and made 2 posts, both of which are on the nasty side. Actually your second post is downright abusive.
So, here's the thing, you have made an assertion, I live in the UK so I want to see your proof.
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I do find it ironic that the person talking about how healthcare is full of bullies and that we are all better than this and should treat each other better has, in fact, had the nastiest replies to this discussion.
"Presume good will" I like that. Thanks for sharing!
To the OP:
We all have a default level of expectations for others that we meet. Optimistic people tend to give people the benefit of the doubt more easily and not be as easily offended. Different periods of my life when I was younger, less secure and anxious about how I was perceived I was quick to worry that people thought I was inadequate. As I got older and more comfortable in my own skin I realized that by owning my mistakes and learning from them, I simultaneously was becoming less sensitive about them.
Being defensive is a mal adaptive coping mechanism for fear of criticism. The solution is to embrace feedback. Good or bad, assess that feedback. Is it valid ie. Is there evidence to support it?
If someone is being rude or bullying you can still take back the power in the dynamic by owning the situation. Ie. Yes, I did xyz incorrectly. I'm unfamiliar with it, and I'm going to learn more about it. If you really want to drive them crazy smile when you say that and walk away.
Then you go your own way and learn everything there is to know about whatever it is you struggled with. People will notice this about you, and the right people will respect it.
I would work a certain floor and my buddy nurse would make side comments like, "Oh you're working today? She must be on vacation." Making side comments asking me why I'm working on that certain floor.
They are all nosy asking me how I managed to get the job there. Then I hear them commenting saying that how I get more shifts than nurses who are more senior than I am. To me I would not know. Am I the staffing clerk? Am I the Director of Care?
Not sure why they do not mind their own business. Literally, its like I did not know you were the boss and decided where I work.
I don't want to be mean, but I feel offended and not wanted when they ask me those questions. Questioning me as if I am a nobody. Now I'm not sure if its the way they were brought up. Most of those workers like that were not born in Canada they all went to nursing school outside Canada and just wrote their exam in Canada and were granted a license, cause I know most of the people I went to school with were disciplined and did not behave like that.
Where are these non-Canadian nurses from? I really need to know that because I’m thinking that your message is xenophobia masquerading as self-pity. Look in the mirror; the reflection is what needs to change.
In law and to a greater extent reasoning, there are concepts such as deductive/inductive logic that are used to establish, verify, or dismiss assertions through questioning. Once OP answers, hopefully, I can demonstrate the aforementioned concept/s. It’s the Socratic method.
I am just not sure why they behave lik that. thats why
It doesn't make Any Difference why they are behaving that way because one can never know. When they are pleasant with you, respond accordingly. When people are rude to you, just shake your head and walk away. This method works with cats and dogs too. Remember, we are just monkeys with attitude....nothing particularly attractive or special in the animal kingdom. Some monkeys make great support animals and some will bite you in the nose after they ate the banana you gave them.
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On 1/6/2021 at 12:18 AM, DribbleKing97 said:
I would work a certain floor and my buddy nurse would make side comments like, "Oh you're working today? She must be on vacation." Making side comments asking me why I'm working on that certain floor.
They are all nosy asking me how I managed to get the job there. Then I hear them commenting saying that how I get more shifts than nurses who are more senior than I am. To me I would not know. Am I the staffing clerk? Am I the Director of Care?
Not sure why they do not mind their own business. Literally, its like I did not know you were the boss and decided where I work.
I don't want to be mean, but I feel offended and not wanted when they ask me those questions. Questioning me as if I am a nobody. Now I'm not sure if its the way they were brought up. Most of those workers like that were not born in Canada they all went to nursing school outside Canada and just wrote their exam in Canada and were granted a license, cause I know most of the people I went to school with were disciplined and did not behave like that.
Sounds like you don't like them.
So you're even. Just do your job and don't sweat it. If you don't want to answer a personal question, then don't. If they ask you why got that shift just shrug your shoulders. You don't have to attend to this stuff.
It doesn't make Any Difference why they are behaving that way because one can never know. When they are pleasant with you, respond accordingly. When people are rude to you, just shake your head and walk away. This method works with cats and dogs too. Remember, we are just monkeys with attitude....nothing particularly attractive or special in the animal kingdom. Some monkeys make great support animals and some will bite you in the nose after they ate the banana you gave them.
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Yes you do need to show. YOU made an assertion so back it up or...
You joined 15 hours ago and made 2 posts, both of which are on the nasty side. Actually your second post is downright abusive.
So, here's the thing, you have made an assertion, I live in the UK so I want to see your proof.