Quote from Mary0000
When I took this job as a new grad, I was hoping to focus on patient care and just being there for my patients as well as a positive welcoming atmosphere but it has been drama and backstabbing.
I think in order to make a good decision, you need to evaluate this ^ carefully.
Leaving the drama/backstabbing aside for a moment, the main anchoring point to what you're saying isn't completely different than what innumerable other new nurses have said to themselves, which is that nursing IRL isn't playing out exactly as expected/imagined. I think working through that is part of the new-grad process for many, many people.
By default, those in direct care are often forced into "get 'er done" mode due to staffing that usually rides a fine line between being adequate and inadequate; it certainly is not adequate enough anywhere I've ever been that I would be able to do things exactly as taught in school. There are ways to make the best of it, but first you have to understand (or "accept", though I hate to say that) the situation.
I suspect you're a bit off-base with some of this, and I say that due to your reported offense at being told that your preceptor is the leader. Everything else aside, I would fully expect someone more senior (experience-wise) to be the leader. There is no offense to be taken in a new grad being told that someone else is the team/unit leader. The fact that you are both LPNs doesn't matter right now, and your grades also don't matter except to the extent that they may represent your hard work and learning. But experience and nursing wisdom are different matters and no one comes out of school with adequate knowledge and wisdom to operate without guidance.
FWIW, here's how I'd handle it. I would give it a good try. If you suspect you are being toyed with, put your head up, put a smile on your face, be pleasant. Move briskly. Ask questions. Make your plan and then ask to run it by your preceptor ["Here's what I'm thinking - does this look good to you?" or "Anything you would change?"]. This serves three purposes: It shows your thinking and your initiative, it encourages a rapport, and in the scenario where she is overheard publicly critiquing you to others, you will look her in the eye and say something to the effect, "This is what we discussed when I asked for your input into my plan. If you feel I need to reprioritize at any point, please let me know so I'm not wasting time." In other words, get buy-in from her early-on, keep in close contact with her, and carefully [carefully!] keep things "real."
Ask her, in her estimation, what kind of a time-frame goal you should have for doing a full patient assessment. When you're with a patient and that amount of time is approaching, go to her and update her if you're not done, and tell her you're wrapping things up. If she again mentions your speed (or any other critique) in front of patients, excuse yourself from the patient and leave the room. When she follows you, say, "Please call me to the doorway if you have a message for me." Use this same process of inquiring about her expectations each time you set out to accomplish something (change a dressing, do an assessment, get vitals on all your patients, whatever).
Don't expect contention. Give 100% to try to prevent it. Be open and use excellent, pleasant communication. That will include making genuine attempts to develop the rapport between you and those whom you believe she is poisoning. Be pleasant/kind and perhaps they'll make their own decision even if your preceptor is
Then you will be able to decide whether they plan to give you a chance. And if, after all this, it doesn't work out, you'll be in a better position to know that it was them, not you.