I was at the nurses station when I answered a phone call from a Doctor's Fiancee. She asked if she can speak to Dr. So and So...I told her to wait a few minutes. Well...a few minutes turned into several minutes since he was busy with patients.
His fiancee then proceeded to yell at me profusely saying I'm not doing my job. I've seen her at the hospital before walking around like she's all that.
The kicker is...she's my age 23...and her fiancee is a 35 year old surgeon.
She's a Teacher...if she treats her students as badly as she treats anyone else...I truely feel bad for those kids.
Also, what am I? Your fiancee's secretary? I'm a nurse.
Now that I think about it? Yeah she's got to be a troll..bleh...to think I wasted two seconds of madness on it...*sips coffee and turns on more unrealistic medical dramas*
Specializes in Surgical Trauma Burn ICU, Oncology.
I did try to tell the Doctor nicely...but he absolutely snapped at me.
I pursued Nursing to marry a Doctor...but I feel as if I chose the wrong profession since so many are in relationships, engaged, or married to Teachers.
What is so special about Teachers...that Doctor's prefer them over us...when we're right in front of them.
hmmm....are you secretly a teacher just posting on this board? i mean, you mention the love for teachers that doctors have in more than 1 post (1 is random enough...)
I would just say he's with a patient and tell her to try calling again in a short while. Apologize for not having time to take a message but you have an emergency and must run. Or say you'll tell him IF you see him but can't promise, as you have an emergency.
She needs to get used to the life of a doctor's "wife" and you need to stop worrying about her age, their dating practices, and the like.
Stop answering the phone, if at all possible. That solves a lot.
This is good advice..Most of our surgeons are reasonable and understand that we are not their secretaries..it's more the spouses and SOs that call and expect you to play secretary.
One time, we had a docs girlfriend alpha page him..it was obviously a personal message so I was reluctant to interrupt the surgery and read it out loud. This particular guy can be snippy at times though so he insisted I read it...Ok, Bubba. You asked for it..:imbar
The message began "Hey Sweetcheeks, can't wait until you get home tonight, etc etc etc". I made sure to read this in a loud, clear voice so he was certain that he'd received the message. Evil of me, yes, but fun.
Took him awhile to live down the "Sweetcheeks" thing..
How many doctor-nurse relationships have you seen at your hospital?
None that worked out. I've seen a younger, arrogent doctor or two screw (literally and figuratively) young, stupid, shallow nurses who only are interested in their status or finances... but nothing that worked out.
I'm really hoping you're a troll and not a real person who seriously went into nursing to get an MRS degree.
If you're real and in nursing to meet a doctor... get out now. Go to med school to meet doctors. Please don't continue on with your nursing career with this attitude.
What I've noticed is that most doctors marry other doctors. I guess they spend so much time together in med school and doing rounds, they are bound to hook up with each other at some point in time.
At my hospital, I've noticed more nurse to nurse hook ups and relationships, or more nurse and other staff, like RT, PT, OT, etc.
I did try to tell the Doctor nicely...but he absolutely snapped at me.
I pursued Nursing to marry a Doctor...but I feel as if I chose the wrong profession since so many are in relationships, engaged, or married to Teachers.
What is so special about Teachers...that Doctor's prefer them over us...when we're right in front of them.
Most of them want someone that they don't have to see in front of them constantly....and I really feel sorry for you sad excuse of going into nursing. Maybe now you'll realize that and actually find a decent reason to practice. Your immaturity blows me away. I know you think you're very mature for admitting this as your reason for nursing, but actually, anyone on the outside of nursing and many that are nurses, realize you just dropped the professionalism a few notches....thanks.....
QTpie86 Wrote:" I pursued Nursing to marry a Doctor...but I feel as if I chose the wrong profession since so many are in relationships, engaged, or married to Teachers.
What is so special about Teachers...that Doctor's prefer them over us...when we're right in front of them."
I've seen a younger, arrogent doctor or two screw (literally and figuratively) young, stupid, shallow nurses who only are interested in their status or finances... but nothing that worked out.
First, I have to wonder, given the OP's post history, if they are actually a bored male med student fantasizing about what they wish about nurses.
Second, just because an intern/resident flirts, doesn't mean they are looking for a relationship. More often they are looking for a hookup. And given their schedule (despite the 80 hour rule, most pull much more time), and lack of opportunities to "connect" out of the hospital, young (desperate) nurses can be an opportunity for that.
Third, when an established MD flirts too much w/new , young nurses, this too often is for a hookup. I know plenty of young, and older nurses that fell for the "I want to marry an MD" bit, that have ended up disappointed, jobless, sexually harrassed (got stalked...seriously), pregnant, and/or a drug resistant form of STD.
Two young, rather shallow, women of my acquaintance both became involved with the same hot Ortho. When both of them (I knew them separately - one was a neighbor and the other, a classmate) had to flaunt the same bracelet that they had each gotten for Valentine's - I had to wonder if he got a bulk discount. Then when both of them had to be on the same ABX at the same time....well.
A few years later, he dated another nurse of my acquaintance, she was swearing that it was wedding bells. No dice, but she had an abortion.
I always said that he would marry a thoroughbred (connected family, money, young, breeder, debutant type) rather than a work horse (the rest of us). Fast forward about 10 years. His wife (20 years younger, first family of the city, Daddy a politico) was giving birth but was not housed on PP afterwards. Why, you might ask? Because at least one of the postpartum nurses had had a child by him. Interestingly, she too had a really familiar bracelet.
Another nurse of my acquaintance dated a divorcing MD once or twice. She decided to stop dating him. He then proceeding to call her incessantly, spread rumors about her, harass and stalk her. Charges were filed, but it probably hurt her at work more than anything. She found herself being subtly pushed towards undesirable shifts and different units. She ended up quiting.
And there is at least one MD that was on his second wife when I finished school and is now on his fifth. Several have been nurses....all have been young and just out of school when they married him. And none of them have anything nice to say. he has also had far more "fiancees" than wives.
Third, the ones that do marry MDs, often find that the fantasy does not fit reality. Do you really want to marry someone that will have little time to spend with you, is oncall frequently, heavily stressed, etc? Most of us want a more involved partner.
Fourth, this fiancee may easily be merely the "taste of the month"..just another person looking to marry an MD for the fantasy. If she is as rude as you say, most likely she will be kicked to the curb, because she is hardly likely to be an asset to his career with that behavior.
Next time you see her you take her aside in private and you tell her that you are not his answering service. You will be glad to give him the message but that is it. You tell her that she should expect that if she raises her voice to you again that you WILL hang up on her. You are not his secretary nor hers. And then you turn and walk away. You also might suggest that she just call his cell phone. If she says anything to you, you tell her that this conversation is over and you walk away. Unless she is a total dumb ass, she will get the message.
I agree, shes not only making her self look bad, but shes a poor representation of the doctor, I'm usually pretty good about a few mins I'll pick back up and say he's tied up, can i tell him to call you?, etc, but sometimes you get busy and forget they are on hold, oops. Did you mention to the doctor she was so rude, wonder how he'd react, my husband would be ****** if I disrespected anyone at his workplace.
Evil of me, yes, but fun.
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*sips coffee*
*chuckles*