I was at the nurses station when I answered a phone call from a Doctor's Fiancee. She asked if she can speak to Dr. So and So...I told her to wait a few minutes. Well...a few minutes turned into several minutes since he was busy with patients.
His fiancee then proceeded to yell at me profusely saying I'm not doing my job. I've seen her at the hospital before walking around like she's all that.
The kicker is...she's my age 23...and her fiancee is a 35 year old surgeon.
She's a Teacher...if she treats her students as badly as she treats anyone else...I truely feel bad for those kids.
Also, what am I? Your fiancee's secretary? I'm a nurse.
Either that or this post is made up. Some of the other statements from the OP certainly make you think so. There have been a lot of trolls under the bridges of allnurses.com as of late!
I really was trying to ignore this post, but then you went and said something stupid..well you said several stupid things, but I digress. You became a nurse to marry a dr? Wow!!! Basically you are mad at this chick because you are not her!! Your a hater, pure and simple! You need to get over this, and get over yourself. Please, stop watching "Greys" real life doesn't happen that way. I really hope you were joking in your post, I really do. Because if you think that marrying a Dr, is going to guarantee you a life of luxury, you have a lot to learn. First of all, as a woman in the 21st century you should be focused on creating a life for yourself, and not depending on some fantasy Dr. McSteamy to come and sweep you off your feet. Want more for yourself and your future than to lay up under some man because of a title. The question isn't about what a "teacher" or any man for that matter can offer you, but what can you offer that man? Good Luck love, you have a lot of learning to do, and I hope you don't have to learn things the hard way.
This is ridiculous. Why on earth would someone go through school to become a nurse just to marry a doctor?? My 13 year-old niece is more mature than that! I became a nurse because I love the field and to have a secure, decent-paying job, not to chase men. I can take care of myself, thank you very much...don't need any man or his degree to carry me through life. As for who to marry, that's easy. Marry a person for who they are, not for what degree they hold. I married my high school sweetheart 13 years ago...there were times we had to roll pennies to buy groceries. He's a flight mechanic for the Coast Guard now...he gets filthy every day, and he puts his life on the line EVERY DAY to rescue people from his helicopter. Should I consider him not worthy because he doesn't have MD behind his name? He's my best friend, my life partner, my everything...but we ARE equal and I couldn't care LESS what degree he has or doesn't have. Get real, OP. Life's too short.
Specializes in Management, Emergency, Psych, Med Surg.
Next time you see her you take her aside in private and you tell her that you are not his answering service. You will be glad to give him the message but that is it. You tell her that she should expect that if she raises her voice to you again that you WILL hang up on her. You are not his secretary nor hers. And then you turn and walk away. You also might suggest that she just call his cell phone. If she says anything to you, you tell her that this conversation is over and you walk away. Unless she is a total dumb ass, she will get the message.
Became a nurse to marry a doctor....UGH. I became a nurse to feed, clothe, and give my children a decent home and life. I also loved the fact that I could be a difference in someones life. That I had the abilitiy to help someone get better. You couldn't pay me enough to get involved with a doctor, I think the biggest part of them are blatant egomaniacs with an overexagerated sense of self-importance. In 35 yrs I have only met a handful that actually care about their patients. I will keep my cab driving dh for another 23 yrs thanks
IMHO, best let sleeping dogs lie and go on about one's business.
Doctor's wives, and fiancees are often no different than those of CEO's, vice-presidents, stock brokers, and so forth. Have worked for or with enough to know a smart girl never goes toe to toe with Madame, or Madamoiselle. You will always loose one way or the other.
At best one comes across as having a bad attitude towards the woman, or one is seen as spiteful and "rude". Either way the man may take it as personal attack and respond accordingly.
Consider as well the doctor is only working with you for what? Eight or so hours per day if that? OTHO he is with his wife or fiancee a great deal more and she can use that time to do nothing be get at him about that rude nurse who "insulted" her. To do nothing but shut her up, if not to keep in her good graces (face it, the woman in a man's life has more trump cards she can play than any female co-worker). Far eaiser to get shot of you than listen to her complain and or any of the other feminine methods of getting their own back.
Yes, today a nurse cannot be transferred, floated, or sent on vacation simply because a doctor doesn't like the looks of her, but make no mistake about it, doctors run the show and still have quite allot of ways to make a nurse's life hell.
Let it go and learn. Next time anyone calls for anyone else, simply say "I don't see him/her in the nurse's station, I'll put you on hold and page, or should I take a message?..", then get on with your work. Yes, it is not part of your official job title to answer phones and run messages, but sometimes getting on means thinking outside the box.
Specializes in PICU, NICU, L&D, Public Health, Hospice.
Assuming this is a for real post...grow up. Don't pick battles with the love interests of the docs you work with...it will not be good for you. If you answer the phones then just take the message, page him, whatever and move on. And, is this some sort of time warp...is it 1959?...I became a nurse to marry a doctor???? Sounds like something right out of the soap operas. I hope you are successful in at least one of those endeavors...you're not in Michigan are you? My wonderful hubby (RN not MD) will be having surgery soon and would prefer his nurses to actually want to be nurses.
Becoming a nurse to marry a doctor went out with girdles and "til death to us part" marriages.
Back then a man who wanted to trade in (or up) his current wife for an new and younger model, had to pay dearly. More so if the wife was the one who worked her behind off to not only put her husband through med school, but to keep things going through post grad years and while the doctor was building his practice. The last bit was quite common for nurses and other women who married men who were going to be doctors. That is of course unless the girl was the daughter of a doctor, in which case Big Daddy could help out.
Today what between pre-nups and no fault divorce, you'll be lucky to get anything should doctor hubby up and leave for another woman (or these days a man, or a woman who used to be a man, etc).
If this poster's MO in becoming a nurse is to nab a doctor, I should'nt let that license expire, nor burn too many bridges at any hospitals; chances are even to great she'll be back.
The OP joined in Sept 09 and has posted about three topics: nurse/doctor relationships, wanting to marry a doctor/doc's fiancee yelled at me, and complaining about gossiping nurses.
If this is a real person and not just a troll I would be shocked. At the very least the focus seems to be on intentionally provocative topics.
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Either that or this post is made up. Some of the other statements from the OP certainly make you think so. There have been a lot of trolls under the bridges of allnurses.com as of late!