I just spent a few years working on a surgical team (I was majority post-op, occasionally pre-op, and only intra-op when I was trying to track someone down). It was an excellent experience but I learned over time that I am not the type of NP that really thrives in a surgical setting. I also found that, no matter how nice they could be, surgeons really didn't understand what I do or my scope of practice. Most of the non-docs I worked with were PAs, and they had more exposure to surgery in their training. They seemed more accustomed to the personalities of surgery. I really enjoyed working with the PAs but found my sweet spot was always with nurses, patients, and strangely enough, our medical and specialist consulting services. So, I switched to medicine. Now all is my sweet spot. I couldn't be happier.
I will say that from the beginning of my nursing training I envisioned myself working in a medical setting (I intended outpatient, but now love the hospital). So I feel like I made a move that I had been planning for, and wasn't terribly upset that I never fully clicked in the surgical setting. It sounds like you have an attachment to the OR. Honestly, since you like talking to patients you may be happier in a job like the one I just left--working on a surgical team but focusing on the patients when they are awake. :)
I hope all goes well with the surgeon you are working with. If you don't feel like you reach an adequate resolution, however, I'd recommend putting up a gentle wall between the two of you. Like a pretty picket fence or tapestry--something pleasant that you can peek around occasionally, but that will protect you from the eventuality that you two will never be on the same page.