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Why Do Nurses Eat Their Own?

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nrsgofold has 20 years experience as a RN and specializes in ER,ICU.

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As current times have shown, we're short staffed. Administration wants to make money. So cuts are made to equipment and man power. Who has your back? Who can you rely on? Your fellow nurses? I'm not so sure anymore. Why do we as nurses eat our own when we should be teaching them and guarding them as our own. The fact is as we age our young nurses are going to be taking care of us, but there are those all too eager beavers who will in fact burn you. This is my experience. You are reading page 2 of Why Do Nurses Eat Their Own?. If you want to start from the beginning Go to First Page.

Julius Seizure specializes in Pediatric Critical Care.

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....who exactly decides which posts should be listed as "featured nurse topics"? What would merit this as being a "featured" part of this site?

Not to discount OPs experience for what it was, but it isn't a unique post. It is just yet another anecdotal post about interpersonal conflict. This is a feature? I guess I don't get it.

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LadyFree28 has 10 years experience as a BSN, RN and specializes in Pediatrics, Rehab, Trauma.

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Professional nurses take at least introductory-level college courses in psychology, sociology, and human development ... and have presumably functioned in group settings (family/school/work/etc) before becoming nurses. But some appear completely dumbfounded by the realities of typical adult interpersonal relations, including power games.

I have never understood this.

:yes:

Me thinks some don't pay attention in those classes, nor they don't pay attention in Mental Health; that education ALONE has helped me master challenging personalities.

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Altra is a BSN, RN and specializes in Emergency & Trauma/Adult ICU.

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....who exactly decides which posts should be listed as "featured nurse topics"? What would merit this as being a "featured" part of this site?

Not to discount OPs experience for what it was, but it isn't a unique post. It is just yet another anecdotal post about interpersonal conflict. This is a feature? I guess I don't get it.

Thank you for this. And if decisions are made to "feature" posts to draw in readers, you would think that particular care would be taken with spelling & grammar of the post.

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Julius Seizure specializes in Pediatric Critical Care.

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Thank you for this. And if decisions are made to "feature" posts to draw in readers, you would think that particular care would be taken with spelling & grammar of the post.

In general, that they would "put our best foot forward", so to speak.

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kbrn2002 has 25 years experience as a ADN, RN and specializes in Geriatrics.

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The title of the post aside, I can see OP's point. It is more than frustrating to train a new nurse, be all nice and welcoming to the new nurse and have that person stab you in the back and then climb over it down the road. Makes you kind of regret being so nice to that person when they were the new nurse doesn't it?

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Because... there are a lot of people out there who are mean and self focused. It isn't confined to nursing. It is in all sorts of other professions. Women may be sniping and personalize their digs into other women, but men also undermine each other at work. It is a sad and unfortunate fact of life. Many people are very insecure. They assume that if you are doing well or not doing well it is a threat or opportunity to them. Everything is a competition to some people. If you are new and weak they can put you down and show you who how superior they are or if you are doing well, they must tear you down to maintain their status. If something is wrong, it is never their fault. You cannot control others or put them in a time machine back to age 3 or 4 to alter their life experience. You can control how YOU react to others. YOU can control how you respond to others. Truly I try to get along with everyone. For the sake of patients, I do reach out to help others. I have found that some people are worth my time and effort to sincerely help. Others are just not nice people and I do not get deeply involved with them. You have to use common sense and not get to personal or share too much with people who are not nice. Don't let others drag you down. It is a hard lesson to learn, but very worthwhile.

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amzyRN specializes in ED, Cardiac-step down, tele, med surg.

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"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent" Elinor Rosevelt.

Nursing is a very challenging and worthy profession and if you are to survive, you will "grow a backbone". take each experience as a learning opportunity; not every person will hold your hand. This is true in everyday life too. If you are in a toxic environment, either move on or learn to stand up for yourself and you will see things change.

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nursel56 has 25+ years experience and specializes in peds//ambulatory care/HH-private duty.

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I guess my problem with the headline situation is that I feel, they contain false premises most often leading to a rousing, rancorous nurse-on-nurse throwdown. We had the "do BSN's save lives?" headline and the "you've been lied to" headline which I would put in that category. I'm sorry, but it really bothers me. Maybe I should voice this someplace else on the site, but there you have it nevertheless.

nrsgofold-- seems you've had a string of jobs not working out, the jockeying for position and betrayals just suck no matter what you call it.

Hope you finally find an employer who values your experience and teaching talents.

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Been there,done that has 33 years experience as a ASN, RN.

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Florence would like me!

There is the occasional nurse that is so frustrated with their situation, that they take it out on the kids. Most of the oldy moldys just want to mentor and guide.

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Do you think there are online discussion boards for other occupations that are full of threads about "Why do realtors eat their own?", "Why do secretaries eat their own?", "Why do personal trainers eat their own?", "Why do advertising executives eat their own?", etc., etc., etc.? Or is this just confined to nursing? (I mean the preoccupation with whether or not you've been mistreated by a colleague, not the actual phenomenon, which, as we should all know, is by no means a special feature of nursing.)

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Steffy44 has 3 years experience.

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This is not unique to nursing. Saw the same people for the 25 years I was in the Air Force. What is scary is that hospital leadership is so willing to let a cheaper, inexperienced hire be involved with who stays and goes. I've only been a nurses for a year. I don't have the experience to make those kinds of decisions.

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Replies like this highlight the ops point....mean spirited and nasty....and reading on through many nasty posts continue....why even bother to reply with a snarky negative post....wait I know.....you are nurses....attempting to make yourselves look like you are all that while trying to minimize the credibility of the OP....Unreal

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