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  1. imenid37

    SRNAs demeaning other DNP specialties

    I guess it is a bunch of generic CRNA students who think they know it all and are better than others. I am a CNS in a DNP program. We have a lot of practicing CRNAs. They are smart, articulate, and well mannered people. We have been in groups together. As pre-APRN students, some people are very cocky about their ability. Humility is coming. It always does. Some people are -$$holes for life. Most, when kicked in -$$ realize we all need each other.
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    Can We Talk About Nurse Suicide?

    I have been so low, I have thought about it for months at a time. Right now, I am doing pretty well. I had a person who was my boss who was a liar and a narcissist. She violated our HR policy and interviewed and hired another outside person for a position, I had formerly held with outstanding evaluations. The CNO backed her up. She was “sure” that the policy was not violated. Where on Earth did I get that idea? Maybe from the back of the employment app and the policy manual? It said that any and all qualified current employees will be interviewed prior to accepting outside applications. This woman, my direct manager, was a total narcissist who made my life miserable. I quit because I could not stand her. She stabbed her BFF in the back who she had hired. Two of her multiple children have profound mental health issues. One committed suicide. I encountered her at another facility almost ten years later and quit when I had heard she was hired. I have never ever felt the same way about nursing after this experience. I keep to myself at work sharing few details. I am not a FB friend of any coworkers. I enjoy patient care and the work, but keep a self imposed isolation because I cannot bear this again. Being forced to provide elder care for my verbally abusive and distant mother has not helped me either. Sometimes, as a nurse, family and coworkers are very quick to dump on you with no thought of ever reciprocating even to the slightest degree. I enjoy activities such as traveling and caring for animals. I have a few close friends who are not nurses. I let nursing mean everything to me earlier in my life and it was a huge mistake.
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    I hate fake call outs.

    So really why do you need to work an extra weekend when you take vacation? It is a 24/7/365 operation. I worked at a place where we got no weekend diff. We always had to cover our weekend off, even though we were paid on Sat like it was Tuesday! I get fake call outs. They are annoying. Truly you don’t always know why a person calls off. Do they have a sick kid and not get excused for that? Did their spouse beat them up? You really just don’t know. Many times a nurse gets no lunch or bathroom break while at work. That type of situation makes it easy to justify wanting off for some people. If the hospital and the coworkers are always just and considerate, you are right to be angry. Otherwise maybe you have to realize this is life and it happens in every job/ industry. For some nursing is a magnificent profession and for others it is simply a job. Most people fall somewhere in between. If people are consistently treated like professionals , then most will act that way. Does your unit not have prn people who can be scheduled to work on a weekend so regular staff can be off without having to make up time off that they have earned?
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    RN school while in High School?

    There used to be a lot of vo-tech high schools with an LPN track. I think accreditation rules pushed most of the LPN programs into trade schools and colleges. I just tried to look this up and I see Fairfax County VA still offers an LPN program for HS seniors and adult learners. https://www.fcps.edu/academics/high-school-academics-9-12/career-and-technical-education-cte/practical-nursing In my area, nursing homes and some hospitals are now hiring LPNs due to the shortage and salary cost of RNs. I don't know about the ASN for HS students. A lot of adults struggle with balancing their other life activities with nursing school. The responsibility of being an RN is pretty heavy for an 18 year old in my opinion. I say this as a person who became a nurse at 22. Bringing back the LPN to more high schools may be a better step. There again, it would take some time for many 18 year olds to be able to be responsible for a unit full of nursing home patients as LPNs often are.
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    Old nurse won't retire

    Tell her you are concerned about her. You want her to get some enjoyment out of her retirement. You would hate to see her get hurt on the job or driving to work in the winter. Does she have any former coworker/friends who are retired who she could get connect with? Could she volunteer to help with health screenings or something which is social, but not as demanding as the ED? Lots of people who were former nurses and other workers in the hospital volunteer at the reception desk or helping patients check in for routine testing or procedures. It's a lower stakes chance to see everyone they want to stay in touch with while winding down fro the working world. What about a mission trip? it doesn't have to be international, it could be helping with a disadvantaged area or Habitat for Humanity?
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    Thinking of quitting my new job.

    As someone who has been a preceptor, clinical educator and a college instructor you might want to rethink being an educator. Being brash and headstrong won't be an advantage as an educator. You gotta be firm, but flexible. Your orientation may not have been great, but you should have tactfully spoken up. You have experience and you know what you need out of orientation. There is a way to ask for what you that is thoughtful and appropriate. Good luck, but it doesn't sound like a good fit for you.
  7. Also you need to erect a sign... Poop free zone or No s##t Sherlock...at least not in this bathroom. Well I needed a laugh, so please thank your poop monitor manager for me.
  8. My mother is in her mid 80's and has dementia. I took a break from my job and am doing very part-time teaching. My mother has caregivers part-time and I also watch her. She can be very unpleasant sometimes. Mostly she is confused but ok. I have been helping to care for her for about 9 months now. She had a full time caregiver who stole from her in another state. I moved her closer and so I am better able to see what is going on with her. I feel like I was was once very engaged at work and top of my game. Now I feel disjointed and miserable professionally. By the time I do what she needs, I am drained. I still read journals and do CE, but I feel disconnected. I like teaching, but I woud like to do a little more. Today I went on a job interview after my mother had me up all night. I had no time to eat. I couldn't focus and I know I flubbed the interview questions. One easy question I was asked, just woud not come to me. My sister is not physically helpful or even verbally supportive. She is just pretty much absent from the situation. I know a lot of nurses care for aging relatives, will I ever be professionally normal again? I feel like trying to help my mother is a career killer. We do not have the $ for full time caregivers, so I do have to help her at least 50 hours/week. I would love to know what is at the other end of this from others who have "lived to tell" the tale. It is very hard right now. Any insights or suggestions greatly appreciated.
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    BSN is a joke

    " I have to memorize all the rules of APA." For probably less than $ 50, you can get PERLLA. It will save you the hassle of using the APA manual. My advice is do the BSN now or if it becomes an urgent matter, it will be a real pain.
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    Should I quit? Idk what to do!

    What about taking the small hospital job and remaining prn at the ICU job? They ICU would probably take you back FT, if it doesn't work for you. You would still have your hand in the ICU world.
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    Health Care is Not a Right

    Did you go to public school? Others paid for that too. I know I pay school taxes and have no kids in school. When I did they went to parochial school and... I still paid those darn school taxes! Why is education a right, but healthcare is not? Education enhances one's life. Healthcare sustains it. In the framework of my nursing education program, healthcare would trump (no pun intended) education as a more basic need. There was a time when only the elite went to school to learn reading and writing. Most of my ancestors were illiterate peasants and farmers in England and Ireland. Some time ago, our country found that universal education was valuable to advance society. That was revolutionary! Other first world countries have decided that universal healthcare is valuable to advance society. Indeed they are ahead of the US in healthcare metrics like infant and maternal mortality. To me, the evidence says universal healthcare probably is beneficial. It certainly is if you have had to declare bankruptcy to pay your hospital bills. I disagree with you. I am not insulting you. I am merely telling how I have arrived to a different opinion on this subject.
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    Time to remove the "nurse" in APN?

    I am a CNS. Most of the few of us left do not work in a provider role. Though we are one of the APRN roles, we have less in common with those roles in many cases than we do with the RN role. Mostly, we do not bill separately in my state or prescribe meds, except for PMH CNS's. Though I have seen CNS's as providers in some areas, most of us are in a supportive and consultative role to the nursing staff -from the bedside to the administrative nurses. I think that our role should be revisited. We are experienced nurses, not like the Master's entry Clinical Nurse Leader role, who are generalists and often entry level. (Why the heck did they allow this role to have a name so close to CNS????---CONFUSING to the general public and even nurses). We are the nurses' nurse, as we were once known. I think the role is needed more than ever as we have many people entering practice who need a lot of support. Many nurses want to advance, but do so by leaving the bedside. We need nurse experts more than ever to support nursing, not just to support the "medical" provider role. Keep at least some of our nurses in nursing...please!!!
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    Nursing or USC?

    You are "young" even for your age. It seems you are very indecisive. If a big name school will make you happy, go for it! You may be sorry later when you have big debt and no job or even no degree if it doesn't pan out. I don't think anyone but you can tell you what to do at this point. In time, you will figure out if you made the right or wrong decision. You can always go for an accelerated BSN or Masters entry nursing program if nursing still interests you. It may mean HUGE debt. Maybe if you like math something like Pharmacy would suit you. I have a daughter who is a great student. She has an Ivy League Master's degree in history. Her sister has an ADN. The nurse is making the money for sure. My other daughter LOVED being a student and enjoyed her college experience. Now she is paying big loans on a small salary. I don't think she is entirely sorry, but it isn't easy. Fortunately, she is a thrifty person and so is her husband. Luckily, his IT degree from a state school is helping them to make it. They are in their late twenties and not able to afford to buy a house because of the amount of college debt. They are not unhappy per se BUT this is a stress for them. Good luck to you. Hopefully, you will find your way though it may take awhile.
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    Are For Profit Schools really BAD?

    Can you complete the pre-reqs at the community college to save money and then go to the DCN program for the nursing courses? Here in PA, there are some sign on bonuses right now. It helps the new grads a little for some with their debt. I do not know about the Denver area. My friend's daughter finished all pre-reqs for ADN in FL. She did not get into the local community college. She kept taking gen eds. She had them all done for the BSN, but since she got mostly B's and C's, she still could not get in. Finally, she went to trade school for LPN and did the bridge program at the CC. She just finished her BSN a month or so ago. The waiting lists are crazy. I was a top student thirty years ago. I was lucky to be right out of high school. I went to school with others who struggled for grades, but are excellent nurses. This waiting list for schools is ridiculous. Our local community college in central PA had a point system where an A in their courses were worth the most "points" for admission. You could get an A in micro, for example from Pitt or U of Penn, but it only had the point value of a C at this community college. They had people retaking courses at the community college to get better grades while they languished on the list. This is so wrong and such a waste ofmoney at a time when education is so expensive!
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    Religious accommodation means no Saturdays....ever?

    The employer must have been legally compelled to accommodate the religious obligation. They never do anything like that just to be "nice." You would think they would have had the sense to fill in the hole it created. Of course, an employer having sense is a stretch these days. Is there a party willing to work every Saturday and be off every Sunday? If so, this person or people should go to HR or the union and make this known. Maybe the number of available beds to receive patients has to be reduced on Saturdays? Perhaps having the charge nurses who must deal with this nightmare shift go to the manager and then HR/union. I am sure the manager who allowed this is in line for advancement and has been identified as a "high performer" by their upper level management. Look at how they are supporting this employee's rights for religious expression. Don't piddle with making contingency plans for patient care. It really isn't about the specific employee, as everyone has said it is about patient care needs the accommodation creates.