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  1. amzyRN

    Are We Too PC?

    I think Li Nel might be a troll poster. If they go back and actually read what I wrote, there is not bigotry there. My intention on sharing my personal history was to make a point that not all "white" people come from privaleged backgrounds. I will not share the gruesome experiences my family experienced during the Nazi Holocaust because it is very distrubing.But Li Nel wrote that I am of the majority and that is just not accurate. Many people walk around with a chip on their shoulder without considering that the other people around them might have had some very rough circumstances they grew up with even if they are "white". I guess trolling serves a purpose for them but does not foster any kind of respectful and rational debate. It's really rude though to lecture a Jew on what it means to be Jewish. Unless you had family die in concentration camps (there were non-Jews who died too) please be a little more respectul fo their experience. It will add merrit to your points, if that is what your intention is.
  2. amzyRN

    Are We Too PC?

    I acknowledge there is racism, sexism, and other prejudices. But your reply is presumptious, that I am like "the majority" when in fact I am not. Most of my family came here to escape the Nazi persecution and were sent to concentration camps. I have family who are survivors. My grandmother had to work when she came to this country to support her entire family and died early because she had to work when she had strep throat. She had rhumatic fever and died early from a heart attack. I grew up in a poor neighborhood that was mostly black. I had lots of friends and was for the most part accepted. But I also faced harassment by people because I was white. I had to fight to defend myself, physically from people who thought that they would take their hate out on me from systemic racism that I had no part in. Have you grown up poor or been harassed or called names or got your butt kicked because of your race? If not, then please don't lecture me. Does this mean that I should hate black people or German people (because of what happened to "my people")? I don't think so. I take ownership of my present-day circumstances. I am grateful for my childhood because it built character and I am stronger because of it. Yes, in general people of color, women, especially Native Americans have a harder time getting out of the terrible systemic racism. But, it's possible and that is something to be grateful for. That is something that people with white skin also gave their lives for. In Saudi Arabia, women are overtly oppressed. In Yemen, children are starving to death. Have a little more gratitude for what you have, we have, is what I say. Let's work together to make things better, not get hung up on some "microagression".
  3. amzyRN

    Are We Too PC?

    I don't want to touch your hair, nor do I have a desire to touch a stranger's hair regardless of what race they are. You can make all the assumptions you like about other people's intentions, but that doesn't make you right or some kind of righteous victim that needs to be catered to. If someone touches your hair without your permission tell them not to touch you again, but don't go assuming that just cuz someone is white they want to touch you or are trying to harm you or that they owe you. I don't owe anyone anything. There are rich people of color who have way easier lives than some poor white folks by the way. There were white people who died during the civil rights movement. If you want to see some real suffering, go over to another country and see what kind of conditions they live in. Be a little more grateful for what you do have and drop that victim BS. Not sorry. Also, don't assume because you're black that you know how every other black person thinks, because you don't. That's stereotyping too my friend.
  4. amzyRN

    Are We Too PC?

    It should not be banned. Book banning and the banning of cultural videos is fascism. I did look at the instances differently because statistically, men have been more sexually persistent and in some cases aggressive and forceful. Men and women are different, their experiences have been different. Yes, sexism, misogyny, racism has existed and does exist probably to lesser overt ways in the present. Does that mean we should censor ourselves, ban books and video? No, it does not. The book Lolita is a perfect example. The book Huckleberry Fin and The Diary of Ann Frank depict racism and the latter a very touching story about the Nazi Holocaust. It's good to have these cultural references for exploration. Should we go back to book burning? That's what the PC culture seems to push. In this day and age, consent from both parties engaged in intimate acts is required to be respectful and enjoyable. If a man says no, a woman needs to respect the no and so must a man. If I heard the song without the video, it would not be provocative. I do not believe in censorship. That is not an aspect of democracy. PC is not the same as being democratic. Real equality and justice involves respect and learning from the past and trying to understand each other as human beings. That cannot occur if we censor each other. Regarding touching of har. I've had black people touch my hair and was never offended by it. If I felt uncomfortable I would have said something. I'm a pretty easy going person though. My closest friend in high school was black, in fact, I grew up in a mostly black neighborhood and I have 2 sisters who have black fathers. We have the same mom. I love being around a diverse group of people. I don't feel the urge to touch a strangers hair, but if it were my friend I might ask to touch their hair if I were curious about it. Consentual touching is not offensive. Maybe people are curious about each other. If we were kids again without any of the BS prejudices, would asking "I'm curious about you, tell me about your culture, can I touch your hair" be so offensive? We are all human beings with finite lives at the end of the day. Let's live together and get over the past and celebrate our future. We have so many things on our plate as a race of human beings, let us appreciate our differences and allow space to learn and grow. This requires honesty and open conversations and a little humor too.
  5. amzyRN

    Are We Too PC?

    Yes, it's awful. It's so fake too because using the "correct" language doesn't mean someone is a good person or gives a damn. People should be able to say the "wrong" thing and take feedback to correct it if it is hurtful. Similarly, someone should be able to not take offense to every small thing that people say. "Microaggressions" for example. I don't want to censor myself for every word that comes out of my mouth. Why assume, if I ask someone where they are from that this means I am saying they are not a real American? Why assume I meant that they were from another country at all. In fact, I never ask that question unless I'm interested in where they grew up and that I'd like to know more about that person regardless of what they look like. I even worry that mentioning this will bring about streams of hate, that I am insensitive and this is on a forum for gosh sake. People need to have a little more tolerance for each other. When we stop having conversations with each other out of fear and censor ourselves that is not helpful and in fact harmful. These are my opinions.
  6. You will probably have to pay your dues as an RN to be competitive as a DNP. Unless you work in a hospital (especially in CA or WA) you won't make that much money as an RN. Maybe there is some other high paying state, not sure. I was really excited by the role for a few years, but over time have come to realize that I could have taken a different path that might have been less hard on the body, mind, and spirit. In fact, after over 6 years I am considering a different masters path, though might stay in the profession for longer until something comes along that is financially sustainable. I may decide to become an NP not sure yet. Work in hospitals in any specialty will be very hard, physically and mentally and changes a person. There are many times I do feel rewarded by helping save a life, but the at least half of the time I see the failings of the health care system, rude obnoxious ungrateful infantile behavior in adults who come to the ER, and sad cases of people who don't value their own lives enough to take care of themselves. It has definitely given me a glimpse of the dark side of humanity. But then there are the positive aspects, the excitement and the ability to touch lives every day. But it is taking a toll on my body mostly and there will be a point where I can't do this anymore and I am relatively young and healthy. I just don't want to be exhausted all the time, I want to be able to have the energy for me and my family, not just strangers. I am not saying nursing is not rewarding, but if you have a career that pays you well, is less taxing on the body and is interesting, I would stay with it. Maybe you can try to open a business that benefits humans or animals, volunteer work, or something else that gives you purpose. I would urge you to shadow a shift as an RN (that's where you'll start) and see what it is like. You will have to clean poo, be exposed to diseased carrying body fluids, risk catching diseases, and smell things that make you want to barf). And you will do this every day as an RN a hospital, day in day out. Most NPs start there because that's where the experience lies, in getting your hands dirty and hard grueling work.
  7. amzyRN

    Extreme nurse burn out need help please

    Stress leave or medical leave might be in order. Security is your friend. Patients are still accountable to the law. Sexual battery is a crime. It was appropriate to put him on BiPap if he's a DNI. I think I would have told her that you feel unsafe with the patient and will need to call the police and file a grievance with HR if she doesn't help alleviate the situation. I'd contact an attorney, no way I would put up with sexual battery by a patient. Either security would be at the bedside or I'd file a police report and contact the compliance hotline with my employer. I have a zero tolerance policy for abuse of that caliber. I'd also be looking for a new job too, while I took my leave.
  8. amzyRN

    I don't do well under pressure. Pls help

    I think becoming comfortable with anxiety will help you. I mean giving yourself permission to feel your feelings and know that it is okay. Try to notice it in your body where you feel it and breathe into it and it will pass. Perhaps do this when you are at home, imagine the situation feel the feelings and breathe. It's okay to be human and get nervous, everyone dose. Your face got red, that's okay, it happens to many people and is normal. If you find that this does not relieve some of your worries, perhaps speaking with a professional might help.
  9. amzyRN

    Futile ressusitation

    I get discouraged sometimes when my efforts fail to give the desired result, but the cases presented here have given me a more hopeful approach. Everyone deserves a chance to beat the odds, and that's what we try to do, provide the right circumstances so that our patients might beat the odds. Some of them do and other's do not. I just enjoy feeling like I really helped someone rather than prolong suffering.
  10. amzyRN

    When family fails the patient... it breaks my heart

    That's rough. That's the primary reason I don't think I could work in the ICU. I might accidentally tell the family exactly what was on my mind and get fired.
  11. amzyRN

    Futile ressusitation

    Yes, moments like that do happen, to actually save a life of a person to make a meaningful recovery. There was a patient a few days ago that came through our ED, full arrest, got pulses back EKG showed STEMI. She re arrested twice, we finally got her off to cath lab. She died later (found out last week).
  12. amzyRN

    Safe Nursing a thing of the past?

    The Face tingling and left arm tingling along with HTN and headache warrant an esi 2 in a patient with risk factors (like diabetes or prior stroke or MI). It might be a TIA or CVA or migraine and perhaps the development of neuropathy in a diabetic. I would have made it an esi 2 and put the patient in a room for a quick MSE and on to the CT scanner. If there was no room, perhaps an MSE in the triage area (we have a room where that can be done) then the patient can get their CT and blood work and all the necessary work up to r/o CVA. I work in a primary stroke center, so we tend to get a lot of strokes. Are you complaining that your mom didn't get their CT scan soon enough? I wouldn't do a full neuro exam in the triage area. I might do a full NIHSS if we were thinking this was a real stroke, but not before. The symptoms warrant a quick MSE and CT scan. Glad your mom was okay. I guess that's something to be thankful for right? So much of the assessment can be gathered from just looking at a patient and speaking with them, that I don't do a full head to toe on every patient. If I were the MD that would be a different matter.
  13. amzyRN

    First code blue, hard not to blame myself.

    It's weird the CT wasn't done initially especially with a high d dimer. That's unusual actually. Unless her Hgb is like 4 or 5, the CT angio should have been done as soon as the d dimer was found to be high. Unless the patients bleeding out, I don't get why the CT was delayed. A hgb of 7 isn't critical and might not even need a unit infused in the ED.
  14. Can you talk to her in private and say that the things she says bother you? It will feel really awkward but if you two are in private no one will know and you will feel so much better after speaking with her. Regardless of what she says, you will know that you addressed the situation driectly. Then after that, if it didn't stop, I'd go above her.
  15. amzyRN

    nurse for 15 years and I feel like a fraud

    What about education. With your experience, you'd be an excellent clinical instructor.