What's your opinion on nurses dating doctors?

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Good or bad? I've seen it from CNAs to RNs. One RN told me that some doctors are known to date and then quickly dump naïve nurses.

Specializes in Geriatrics.

Review your company’s policy/procedure or handbook. Many places of employment have anti-fraternization policies. 

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10 hours ago, amoLucia said:

Another weird question for you Desi.

Thank You. You can't say that I'm boring. I was just reflecting on how a new nurse was constantly asked out by doctors. I asked her why she rebuffed all of them, and she basically said that doctors who date nurses are all dogs. Just a general question in a general question section.  

Give me credit now, I do post some good WEIRD questions. 

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It's a dumb move.  Yes, it's fun while it lasts, but once things go south you have to still work with that person.  Let's say you are the one that got dumped?  How would you feel if you had to show back up to work and not only work with that person, but watch them flirt or be with others?  

Yes, a FEW get married, but far more don't.  If you are OK with a very uncomfortable work environment, go for it...but once you get some life experience behind you, you realize that it's always a bad move.

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1 hour ago, Jory said:

It's a dumb move.  Yes, it's fun while it lasts, but once things go south you have to still work with that person.  Let's say you are the one that got dumped?  How would you feel if you had to show back up to work and not only work with that person, but watch them flirt or be with others?  

Yes, a FEW get married, but far more don't.  If you are OK with a very uncomfortable work environment, go for it...but once you get some life experience behind you, you realize that it's always a bad move.

I know of one who hid when the interns were doing their morning rounds, they didn't want to be seen by their ex.

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Specializes in Cardiology.

Meh, I don't think it matters today. Usually its female nurses dating/marrying male doctors but I have seen a few instances where it was reversed. Like someone said I don't think its any different than any other field marrying another field. It's best to not work for the same employer or at least in the same department though. 

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Specializes in Community health.

It’s such a bad idea to date someone you work with. On the other hand, work is where you spend the most time and are likeliest to meet people. So I see how it happens. As to the specifics of Doctor/Nurse, I don’t think it’s any worse  idea than nurse/nurse. 

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Specializes in retired LTC.

Community - good point! BUT ...

FTR - Twice, I left jobs I liked to move on. I started 'an office thing' twice. I felt I overstepped the boundaries. Would have been too distracting and possibly interefering to have stayed on. Some minor regrets, but 30 years later, I still SMILE thinking of those 2 guys (coworkers)!

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I think the same of nurses dating doctors as I think of them engineers, teachers, accountants, car salesmen, architects, or whatever else. I think it's silly to date someone, or rule out dating someone, because of their chosen career path.  Nurses and doctors have a good understanding of each other's professions and common ground, so that's a plus.

Now, do I think it's wise to date a doctor you're going to personally work with for the foreseeable future? Nope.

Do I think it's right for nurses to date someone specifically *because* they are a doctor? Nope. That's called gold digging.

If two people who are coincidentally a nurse and a doctor like each other, I see no problem. 

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Specializes in Dialysis.
On 10/9/2020 at 12:25 AM, vintagegal said:

Review your company’s policy/procedure or handbook. Many places of employment have anti-fraternization policies. 

Country Bumpkin General (my local hospital) has a policy regarding this. Instant termination. Except Drs, who aren't direct employees. They get a slap on the wrists ?

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Specializes in nursing ethics.

It is not the same as dating men in other professions. Doctors are usually very busy working (as you may be) and will have less time for you. It will become an arrangement, so to speak, and that's okay if that's what the couple wants. Make sure he is single. Also, and this is important. It is best if the doctor and nurse do not work together, or have reasons to work in the same unit or floor. So if you stop dating or have issues, then you won't be seeing each other in awkward ways. You don't want to be together after it is over. This is true in all workplaces, and especially if one party can cause trouble for the other.

 

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Specializes in LTC.

If the doctors I’ve met on the dating apps I’ve used are anything to go by then I seriously would never want to be in a relationship with one. I’ll never forget one of them sending me a dick pic from inside the freaking OR with the hospital name printed all over his scrubs and his name tag showing (the stupidity of some people...) ?

In all honesty I personally don’t want to date anyone that’s in the medical industry. 

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Specializes in Surgical Intensive Care.

Haha.. This post exemplifies a major problem with nursing. DRAMA. Why can't people just got to work, do their job, and go home? Who cares about who is dating who in the hospital. Lmao, it just seems so trivial. 

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