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What's your opinion on nurses dating doctors?

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Good or bad? I've seen it from CNAs to RNs. One RN told me that some doctors are known to date and then quickly dump naïve nurses.

Chickenlady, ADN

Specializes in ER, GI, Occ Health. Has 7 years experience.

Don't poop where you eat

Still in school when I learned that our advisor, a recently graduated nurse from our program, was divorced from the doctor who worked in the clinic where the nursing students went for care.  She was not his first, or second, selection from the pool of available nursing students at my school.  He was of the date, marry, then dump variety.

4 hours ago, Chickenlady said:

Don't poop where you eat

LOL.....this ^^^^^^.  Otherwise who cares? 🙂 

RNperdiem, RN

Has 14 years experience.

Is this any different from nurses dating respiratory therapists, CNAs, unit clerks or anyone else from work? 

I know.. I know.. Once upon a time, the vast majority of doctors were men and nurses were almost always women. Doctors often came from a higher socioeconomic strata while the nurses were working to middle-class. Marriage was thought to be the ultimate goal for women and doctors were viewed as a good catch and a step up the socioeconomic ladder. A doctor, as a man could get away with a lot of bad behavior and a nurse was liable to get fired.

These days, about half the doctors are women, we don't assume any dating is strictly along heterosexual lines, and both populations are a lot more diverse. Dating someone from work is up to the individual's best judgement. 

EDNURSE20, BSN

Specializes in ED, med-surg, peri op. Has 4 years experience.

A lot of people meet there partners at work. What’s the big deal? If it was a physio or dietician or any other health professional, people wouldnt say a thing! 

Sour Lemon

Has 11 years experience.

Everyone should date everyone, otherwise what is there to gossip about? It doesn't even have to be a date, really ...they can just "walk you to your car".

WestCoastSunRN, MSN, CNS

Specializes in CVICU, MICU, Burn ICU. Has 25 years experience.

11 hours ago, Sour Lemon said:

Everyone should date everyone, otherwise what is there to gossip about? It doesn't even have to be a date, really ...they can just "walk you to your car".

This wins post of the week.  

macawake, MSN

Has 13 years experience.

On 10/7/2020 at 5:04 PM, DesiDani said:

Good or bad? I've seen it from CNAs to RNs. One RN told me that some doctors are known to date and then quickly dump naïve nurses.

To answer your question, I don’t have an opinion. 

There are some people who will take advantage of naive persons in different ways. It’s not a particularly appealing trait, but it’s hardly unique to physicians. 

I tend not to spend much, or any really, thought and energy on who dates whom. The only time that would become an issue for me, is if that relationship for some reason had an obviously harmful effect on either a person I care about or someone I’m morally or legally responsible for. But 99.99% of the time peoples’ relationships are really none of my business. 

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amoLucia

Specializes in LTC.

Another weird question for you Desi.

Inter-staff relationships are NOTHING new. And I have seen all kinds of combos, not just physician/nurse ones. As long as there is nothing affecting pt care or any supervisory issues. Also any activity SHOULD NOT be interfering with the regular ongoing activities of the unit.

Sad thing, some relationships become gossip fodder for the place. And sometimes people do get hurt. And things can become  quite awkward with breakups, esp when other staff may take sides.

 

DavidFR, BSN, MSN, RN

Specializes in Oncology, ID, Hepatology, Occy Health. Has 35 years experience.

It constantly amazes me how many people put doctors on a pedestal and will date even the ugliest specimens, especially the male ones, gay or straight. Have you noticed a male doctor is rarely single? Even when he's a dog.