About three months ago, our family hold a big celebration gathering in our house. One of the invited guests asked to bring with him his daughter who is a senior in the same high school as my daughter. By him, his daughter was sleeping and breathing nursing at all times and wanted to speak with me. Ok? - sure, of course.
Three days before the party, the daughter called me and requested that, since she is a vegan and "abhorred" by anything which can be even remotely related to "disrespect of life", all food must be strictly vegan for everyone. I pretty much signed it off and asked her to bring whatever she would enjoy except for mushrooms, nuts and chocolate, to which I am so allergic that anything of that kind is banned from my house, period. She argued for a while about "organic and GMO-free food cannot cause allergy" and some pseudo-scientific stuff she read somewhere on Internet, but we kind of settled down at the above. I thought she understood what it was all about as I told her everything in very plain and unequivocal terms.
At the day of the party, everything began cool and the girl was chatting with me to no end about her love to nursing, making change, etc., that she volunteered everywhere, got her science grades on top, the stuff. She told me where she wanted to apply - in two local community colleges ADN programs, both of them highly ranked and graduating excellent nurses. Asked for a letter, I said ok, will write you one, huney. Everything went smooth till I asked her to help me to bring dessert. She wanted to cut the cake and serve it individually, I agreed and she brought pieces to the table. The cake I baked myself. I started to eat... next thing I know, I was in ICU hooked to the vent, with two chest tubes, and it was over 3 days later. I went into anaphylaxy right then and there, had a full arrest. The girl, who, of course, never saw what a "code" really was with its inherent violence, was so terrified that she started to cry hysterically and admitted to paramedics that she added powdered mix of nuts and dried mushrooms to my slice of cake in order to prove that "organic" stuff was safe. She and her dad pretty much run away right after.
Spent 2 weeks in hospital, 3 months after still needing oxygen at times, still in pain from multiple ribs fractures, all the shabang plus, of course, large bills to pay and a new job I signed on right before it all happened is getting nearer. The girl or her dad did not call even once.
Quick ahead, a few days ago the high school my daughter and the girl in question both attend, made a show of the best college admission essays class 2020. They do it every year. My daughter spotted the essay written by that girl. She described in great colors how she "by a touch of luck" was exposed to a "real life-saving situation" in the form of CPR in the field, how she "found the name of the injured person" and helped all along (outright lie), how it influenced her wish to save humankind and fueled her dream to became a nurse which she first experienced right after she got out of diapers, and so forth. It was excellently written with large number of details. By these details, I know she meant my code. I have a copy of the essay and, by other details and her previous talk, I know where she applied.
Now, I am torn. On the one hand, she is just a silly idealist teenager, as we all were at some point. Life will teach her stuff, and soon enough, as it taught us all. On the other side, I cannot live with the idea that someone so careless regarding others' lives and so convinced in her personal world being the only one truthful and real should be allowed near sick, dependent and helpless. What if she realizes that the flu vaccine is made from innocent, intelligent chicken embrios and starts to inject patients with saline instead of vaccine so not to compromise her vegan worldview? What if she again feeds or injects another person with a known allergen? I know both program directors of two places she can potentially apply to in person; if I call, her nursing dreams will have to wait at least for a while.
I had my dreams killed by others more than once. I hate to do it with another human being. But the girl already proved herself to be unsafe for others.
I am so sorry for what you had to go through. I would most definitely make those calls. Her behavior goes way beyond being just a silly idealist teenager. We were all teenagers at one point but not all of us would argue with a party host and purposefully put something in someone's food that she was already told would be harmful. This girl has a big problem and obviously so do the parents. It is also very disturbing that neither the girl nor the parents showed any remorse after the fact, and the girl would spin the facts to benefit her. I would call the directors with a warning and I would also request (and sue prn) for monetary damages.
Wishing you well and hope the new job still works out!
The thoughts in my head as I read that violate AN’s TOS!!! That girl learned NOTHING from this!! She almost KILLED YOU... or you could have been ANOXIC..... this girl who claims to have such a high regard for life HAD NO REGARD FOR YOURS. And then she USED THIS NEAR TRAGEDY to benefit herself. I will repeat SHE LEARNED NOTHING!!! My goodness... she should be wracked with guilt over this. There is a word for people with no conscience—and these people need to be kept away from the public.
And don’t get me started on this little snowflake’s dad. Unreal.
KathyMI, I am so sorry you had to go through this life threatening situation and that you are on the way to a complete recovery.
Who did this cute little demonic chick fess up to? I hope it was someone in the medical field who were attempting to save your life. The reason I asked, if so, I believe that person could testify to the event. IMHO, I feel she should be charged with attempted murder. That would keep her away from so many unsuspecting, vulnerable patients. I implore you to talk to an attorney.
I know you are in a precarious position with your DH working with this clod of a father. There must be some way to get this girl banned from at least the nursing profession, What is your DH saying about this event? Is he aware that he almost lost you? Perhaps it is time for you to weigh the circumstances and decide what is more important.
Please keep us informed on your recovery and the outcome of this travesty. I wish for the best for you and DH in this untenable travesty.
I cannot believe what I just read. I agree with everyone above and I truly hope you press charges. If she tried to prove a point once, who is to say she won't do it again while in school? NOBODY should be subject to her behavior. I am so sorry and I am glad that you are ok.
OMG! So sorry to hear all you have been through! Please let us know how this all turns out. She is a whack job and has no business being in the medical field!
No doubt! Not only does she not ever belong in the medical field she really belongs in jail. While she might be young, 17 is still old enough to have better sense than to at the best commit assault and at the worse attempted homicide. Especially since she obviously has no remorse for her actions and is trying to capitalize on the very real danger she put you in to make herself appear like a hero. That kind of recklessness goes well beyond what a normal entitled teen would do.
Turn her in, she is a menace to society. She is totally off the charts as to being acceptable into the nursing profession. She has deep moral and psychological deficits that are most likely insurmountable.
Its psychotic to think that it was ok to give you nuts when you are allergic. And then even more psychotic to not have any sense of accountability for what happened. Press charges, and make sure she never ever ever ever even has a chance of applying to a nursing school.
Please sue the pants off of her and her father. I would have even contacted the school and made them aware of what went down in her “essay” so they could see her true colors and not put it on display.
She tried to murder you.
Then use it to her benefit.
I would ruin her and her fathers life. Lawyer up immediately.
Please sue the pants off of her and her father. I would have even contacted the school and made them aware of what went down in her “essay” so they could see her true colors and not put it on display.
She tried to murder you.
Then use it to her benefit.
I would ruin her and her fathers life. Lawyer up immediately.
YES PLEASE. Contact the school. She needs to learn a big lesson that obviously her father isnt going to teach her.
She almost killed you- then she turned that into an essay. Very disturbing. I'm sorry about your situation. Like everyone said, a lawyer seems like a good idea.
I have to agree. She was told you had severe allergies and she purposefully exposed you to them. She could have killed you, and, by her school paper, has not learned any lesson nor accepted any responsibility for her action. Nor has her father. You need to speak with a lawyer, and to the schools of nursing.
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I am so sorry for what you had to go through. I would most definitely make those calls. Her behavior goes way beyond being just a silly idealist teenager. We were all teenagers at one point but not all of us would argue with a party host and purposefully put something in someone's food that she was already told would be harmful. This girl has a big problem and obviously so do the parents. It is also very disturbing that neither the girl nor the parents showed any remorse after the fact, and the girl would spin the facts to benefit her. I would call the directors with a warning and I would also request (and sue prn) for monetary damages.
Wishing you well and hope the new job still works out!