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Telling your kids, "Just try. If you really don't feel good I'll come get you." Just stop. Guarantee they really won't feel good and there will be no magic words I can string together to talk little darling out of it!

Specializes in Telemetry, Gastroenterology, School Nrs.
21 hours ago, 100kids said:

I always call this the "Get Out of Jail Free Card", and I'm not shy about telling parents they gave it to their kid and there's almost no way they ever stay in school when they get it. Waste of everyone's time.

I say the exact same thing and will also not shy away from telling the parents.

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Specializes in NCSN.
20 hours ago, KidsRNstill said:

Me: therapeutic silence

I spend so much time using this intervention and I never gave it a name!

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18 hours ago, tining said:

Exactly. Had a LD come Friday - congested - called mom told her she could pick up, however I was not sending home sick. Mom asked for clarification and then said "what harm does it do for you to just excuse this?" Well, the 15 other kids that I denied the get out of jail card would feel slighted.

I cannot stand this!! I'm in a HS so everyone has a cell phone, and so often they'll call their parents to pick them up either without seeing me or while I let them rest for 5-10 minutes. If I wasn't already going to send them home sick, I tell parent, "you're more than welcome to sign them out, but it won't be a health related excuse from my office." Some take that well but most do not.

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Specializes in Med-Surg, Oncology, School Nursing, OB.

I agree, so annoying. It depends on the kid and the day. Sometimes I also tell the kids, your mom/dad meant for you to try and since you don't have a fever I'm not sending you home. Have a good day! Other times, I call the parent right away because I know their child will just come back over and over and I don't have time for that. I love when they say, well tell them to try a while longer. Ok we're just delaying the inevitable here! Either come now or tell them you aren't at all but not this "let's try" stuff!

However, this has bit me in the rear a couple times. As I'm telling the kid my speech as I check their temp and then realize they do in fact have a fever I feel bad for the kid. Mom didn't believe them and I'm getting on to them for coming in right away and they are in fact sick. This leads to a whole other set of questions and it usually boils down to the parents didn't want to be bothered to take care of their child that day and then takes an hour to get a hold of and then another hour to get here on top of it. ?

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Specializes in IMC, school nursing.

I call it the golden ticket, and I ALWAYS tell parents that offering this to your child is no bargaining chip, they will always try to go home. Let's face it, as adults we would take advantage of it, am I right? I am very uncompassionate towards these parents. I will assess and if criteria is not met, I will tell them they are free to pick up, but it will be unexcused and work can not be made up, and, most importantly, my administrators back me up. I get irritated with ED and hospitalists who tell patients who obviously have a 4 day admit that we are going to "watch them overnight".

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On 2/25/2019 at 12:39 PM, Glitternurse said:

When they show up early, (sometimes before school starts), I Tell the student he/she hasn't really tried, and to go to class, and no I'm not going to call mom until there has been a real effort made. I will call the teacher with the situation and ask them to let me know if the child really does not seem to be him/herself and I'll be happy to call home.

That's when LD whips out their cell phone and calls Mom and says Pick me up.

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On 2/26/2019 at 10:32 AM, Mavnurse17 said:

I cannot stand this!! I'm in a HS so everyone has a cell phone, and so often they'll call their parents to pick them up either without seeing me or while I let them rest for 5-10 minutes. If I wasn't already going to send them home sick, I tell parent, "you're more than welcome to sign them out, but it won't be a health related excuse from my office." Some take that well but most do not.

I'm not encouraged to do this. The parents rule the school.

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Specializes in ICU/community health/school nursing.

Y'all- it just happened. A mom walked her kid in here. "He's had a stomach ache but I think it's because of his sinus drainage. But if he comes in today just call me."

Who's got the over/under for 0930?

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Specializes in Psych, Addictions, SOL (Student of Life).

I have to admit that when my son was younger and I was facing a write up and possible termination at work due to excessive call -offs, I was guilty of this. I never sent my child to school with a fever or active vomiting - but he had anxiety and asthma and was dealing with a bully in 3rd and 4th grade. I would tell him just stick it out till noon if you don't feel good after that I'll come get you. Our school didn't have a nurse but I did let the office know the plan and he was never sent home on those days. I think I taught him a valuable lesson on perseverance. Once he started learning martial arts the bully problem solved itself.

Hppy

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Specializes in School Nursing, Ambulatory Care, etc..

On the other side of the spectrum, you have my kids. They are all grown(ish) now, but when they were in school, I would tell them to go to the nurse if they didn't feel well. My youngest one came off the bus one day from Jr High with a temp of 103F. When I asked him why he didn't go to the nurse, he said, "I didn't want to be a baby about not feeling good". Sigh....

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Ok, sooooo guilty. Sorry. I give my kids the "just try" speech. And your right, half the time i get a call two hours after drop off.

I faked being sick so much in school, i tend to always be skeptical when my kids say they dont feel good. A few times i have basically told them to suck it up and then they turn out to really be sick. So then i spend the rest of the day feeling like the worst parent in the world.

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36 minutes ago, rachelalexis23 said:

Ok, sooooo guilty. Sorry. I give my kids the "just try" speech. And your right, half the time i get a call two hours after drop off.

I faked being sick so much in school, i tend to always be skeptical when my kids say they dont feel good. A few times i have basically told them to suck it up and then they turn out to really be sick. So then i spend the rest of the day feeling like the worst parent in the world.

I think all of us parents have been there and done this.....I know I have. ?

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