Some parents absoulutely amaze me. Not really, just how stupid and petty and vindictive can they be. Case in point.
Parents of a 3 yo child. Bring that cute little child in for swallowing a quarter. Xray shows the quarter in the stomach. GI and the Endo lab come in. Off to endo lab. Sedated child, scoped and removed quarter. No big deal ehh. All is well. They put the quarter in a specimen jar and give it back to the parents. A souvenir I guess.
The parents in their alledged wisdom discuss with the child about swallowing foriegn objects. Wasnt foriegn though, it was an American Quarter.
The parents show the child the quarter, and let the child handle it. Yes it happened. The child immediately put it back in the mouth and promptly swallowed it.
After reading this thread I am so glad I realized at a young age (ok, I was 19.. *LOL*) that I could never be a good parent and I was not parent material, so I didn't have kids. I've never regretted that decision but I sure get a lot of flack from people who have kids and make it their business to let me know I missed out on so much. I probably did, but I knew my limits. I knew I couldn't provide for a child or children financially, and I could never be as good of a Mom as my Mom is. Maybe I am being selfish, but there's no child or children being neglected because I gave birth to children I didn't want.
I have seen selfishness in parents and heard of it. How about the divorcing parents where the mother took her kid around to all the doctors, trying to drum up evidence that her ex-husband was sexually abusing the kid. He was not, it was proven he wasn't, and the mother ended up losing custody of her kid.:angryfire
How about the divorcing parents who drag their kid into the mess by using the kids to get back at the other parent.
The mother who slapped her kid when having stitches should not be a parent if crying bothered her that much.:angryfire
Ugh. I get angry when I hear parents curse at their kids or tell them to shut up. Makes me so dang mad.
Once I was helping a PA suture a big nasty gash on a little girl's big toe - she was about 7 years old - and she was really trying to be still, but it hurt, you know? So she was wiggling and hollering a little, and I'm trying to hold her and reassure her. She was doing about as well as could be expected, and out of nowhere, her mother slapped her across the face for crying. It was all I could do to not slap Mom back. :angryfire
How long ago did this happen? Wouldn't CPS get involved on something like that?
As a pediatric nurse, I too have seen SO many BAD parents who have absolutely NO clue how to handle the seven or more children they have brought into this world. I came into contact with one mother who had her newborn baby admitted for hyperbilirubinemia while she had a one year old on her hip & three more kiddos under the age of five at home!...the best for last...3 of the five have different "baby daddies"!! So I guess that's four different fathers! How ignorant can people be?!?! Do we need to explain the birds & the bees to these people again or what? They say ignorance is bliss...I for one have NO patience for ignorant people...especially ignorant baby making machines!!:trout:
When my mom worked at a family practice, she saw this all the time. Some even admitted to having more kids because welfare would pay them more. :smackingf
I really hate it that people think just because they've produced children they deserve special and preferential treatment. I hate those "Mommy spaces" that give you reseved parking. Handicapped spaces are a necessity and a different story, so don't go bashing me. I don't see why just because people have given birth they "deserve" a reserved parking space. Get off your butt and walk like everyone else.
And you're a nurse? Whatever happened to compassion? All this talk here about how parents do not value their children and mistreat them, but such low value expressed for the role of parenting. First, society must value parenting and parents. I live where the wind chill gets below zero and stays there for months. When you've got to drag a little one along with you, a closer parking space is much appreciated- by the little one. I remember carrying a baby in her carrier and holding a busy toddler by the hand and trying to navigate across a busy parking lot without the little guy getting run over. And then when you unload your cart, you've got to go put that cart away, then haul the kids back to the car with you, again without anyone getting run over. If we want a society that values children, then we must value families and the role of parenting.
I wish I wouldn't have started reading this thread...at first, I was chuckling, thinking about some of the stuff my 4 daughters have done over the years (figuring out how to unlock the back door and running outside in the snow in a diaper while I was on the toilet, drawing on my new wallpaper with permanent marker, grabbing my wedding set off the table while I washed dishes and going through the ensuing x-rays only to find the rings hidden under the couch days later, playing "beauty shop" and cutting bald spots in each others hair...), I could go on and on. And I absolutely CRINGE in horror when I recall smoking while I sat and breastfeed my first child...what can I say, I was raised by wolves and honestly thought I was being a "good mom" by holding the cigarette away from her...I was an IDIOT! I grew up a bit, went out into the world, got an education, and by using my deep yearning to raise my own children without the horrors and abuse I was raised with, I learned how to be a good mom (I hope). Not all of us are raised in an environment conducive to good parenting. My poor "guinea pig" daughter survived my early years of parenting disasters, and she has grown to be an amazing 16 year old...each successive child got a much better version of me as a mom; as my teen has pointed out more than once, SHE got the single, welfare mom who didn't know crap, my 21 month old is getting Mom 5.1, the version that comes equipped with an education, a paycheck, a spouse, and a laid back sense of humor concerning raising kids.
I don't know about all of you, but my kids didn't come with a manual. I wasn't raised in an environment that nurtured parenting skills; I was raised by the drugged out drunk who let her boyfriends/husbands/dudes from the bar abuse/molest/terrorize her children. I knew that I didn't want to be that person, but figuring out how to get where I am took some time and was challenging. And figuring out how to be a good parent without damaging my kids during my learning process was especially tough.
My point is, please don't be so quick to judge. Abuse is NEVER ok, and I totally agree that too often we see parents whose capabilities are seriously lacking. But God forbid someone had looked at my family tree, or at my young dumbass self, and decided that I shouldn't be allowed to have kids. And I am that person who used the Mommy Parking...it was especially useful when my hubby was deployed and I was still iffy from the C-section, carrying a newborn, and herding the other kids in front of me, over the icy parking lot...I don't know why I am letting this upset me so much.
I'm a PCA on a Pediatric Hem/Onc/BMT unit and there have been two occassions (different teens) who were caught having sex in their Bone Marrow Transplant rooms. BOTH TIMES, the mothers of the teens got mad when social work and the attending went in there to talk to them about it. I mean, not only is it nasty, but your immune system is depleted and you decide to do the nasty. The mothers both stated that the teens are "grown" and we had no right to address the issue. Oh well...
Another occassion is when the parents do not make their 4 y/o put on clothes. They want her to be comfortable so she runs around stark naked. There have been multiple times when this kid has ran down the halls like this. Not to mention that mom blows on her implantofix and she has to caress the nanny's boob before she goes to bed. Oh..the parents sleep in the same bed as their naked kid. Things that make you go hummm....
I spent one day in Peds this past semester. My pt was 18 mos old.. Mom comes walking by the nurses station and says "I'm going down for a drink, I"ll be right back" Nurse asks "is he in the crib with the rails up and locked?" her reply, "no he is in his high chair eating" So you are leaving your baby in the high chair, which he could easily climb out of and fall, while he is eating completely unattended. Brilliant. So I went in there and sat with him until she got back. She hadn't even bothered with the straps. After that we put the monitor on in the room so we could see it on the tv in the nurses station. Later when he was over tired and cranky and crying she smacked him. :angryfire Good one, lady. Thats really going to make him stop crying.
It is astounding how many things most of us assume are common sense that just don't even occur to some people.
I really hate it that people think just because they've produced children they deserve special and preferential treatment. I hate those "Mommy spaces" that give you reseved parking. Handicapped spaces are a necessity and a different story, so don't go bashing me. I don't see why just because people have given birth they "deserve" a reserved parking space. Get off your butt and walk like everyone else.
All this talk here about how parents do not value their children and mistreat them, but such low value expressed for the role of parenting. First, society must value parenting and parents. I live where the wind chill gets below zero and stays there for months. When you've got to drag a little one along with you, a closer parking space is much appreciated- by the little one. I remember carrying a baby in her carrier and holding a busy toddler by the hand and trying to navigate across a busy parking lot without the little guy getting run over. And then when you unload your cart, you've got to go put that cart away, then haul the kids back to the car with you, again without anyone getting run over. If we want a society that values children, then we must value families and the role of parenting.
:yeahthat:
I always park in the mommy space. I really appreciate it.
On the other hand, when I have been driving around a full parking lot and keep seeing a bunch of empty handicap spaces, that kind of gets on my nerves.
Dalesgirl you are so right! My upbringing was definitly not one to brag about so I tried to be different from the example I had. My oldest is now a teenager and I still wonder how he made it this far, I had no idea, lots of good intentions and problems of my own. My youngest still drinks out of puddles with our dog when we are not watching, the dog doesn't drink fruit juice so he figures that puddles are better. After all these years and kids you would think that I would have found a way to stop negative, (read: stupid) behaviours from my kids.
After 5 kids I have figured it out, (I think) my philosophy is that the kids will choose my nursing home when I am old and broken, so be as good to them as would want them to be when choosing my home....I hope that karma works!
Some parents absoulutely amaze me. Not really, just how stupid and petty and vindictive can they be. Case in point.
Parents of a 3 yo child. Bring that cute little child in for swallowing a quarter. Xray shows the quarter in the stomach. GI and the Endo lab come in. Off to endo lab. Sedated child, scoped and removed quarter. No big deal ehh. All is well. They put the quarter in a specimen jar and give it back to the parents. A souvenir I guess.
The parents in their alledged wisdom discuss with the child about swallowing foriegn objects. Wasnt foriegn though, it was an American Quarter.
The parents show the child the quarter, and let the child handle it. Yes it happened. The child immediately put it back in the mouth and promptly swallowed it.
Moral of the story
some people should not be parents.
Oh, come on! Cut them some slack. Maybe they were playing ATM.
Ms Kylee
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After reading this thread I am so glad I realized at a young age (ok, I was 19.. *LOL*) that I could never be a good parent and I was not parent material, so I didn't have kids. I've never regretted that decision but I sure get a lot of flack from people who have kids and make it their business to let me know I missed out on so much. I probably did, but I knew my limits. I knew I couldn't provide for a child or children financially, and I could never be as good of a Mom as my Mom is. Maybe I am being selfish, but there's no child or children being neglected because I gave birth to children I didn't want.