Some parents amaze me

lashawn04 · Dec 19, 2007

Dalesgirl you are so right! My upbringing was definitly not one to brag about so I tried to be different from the example I had. My oldest is now a teenager and I still wonder how he made it this far, I had no idea, lots of good intentions and problems of my own. My youngest still drinks out of puddles with our dog when we are not watching, the dog doesn't drink fruit juice so he figures that puddles are better. After all these years and kids you would think that I would have found a way to stop negative, (read: stupid) behaviours from my kids.
After 5 kids I have figured it out, (I think) my philosophy is that the kids will choose my nursing home when I am old and broken, so be as good to them as would want them to be when choosing my home....I hope that karma works!
Final thought: Common sense is not always common!

I totally agree. I grew up in a household where my father shot anything up his veins that he thought would make him high and my mother was soooo in love that she basically ignored it and look at me, about to graduate with my BSN in July and my little sis is the District Manager of a supermarket chain in our area. I on't have any hard feelings towards my parents but it made me a better person which is good in this profession, my father has a PhD in Political Science, so I know that before the drugs there was a successful person in there, so, I feel I'm not as judgemental as I may have been if I didn't have these experiences.

NursingAgainstdaOdds · Dec 19, 2007

Oh, come on! Cut them some slack. Maybe they were playing ATM.

In that case, they shouldn't have swallowed anything smaller than a $20.

Ms Kylee · Dec 19, 2007

playing "beauty shop" and cutting bald spots in each others hair...

My twin nieces did this.. under their dining room table. When they got busted on it, they told my sis in law "Daddy did it"... and my brother wasn't even home at the time. Cracked me up. I think this is something that every kid does at least once when they're under the age of 5. I cut my bangs when I was about 3 and when I got busted, I told my Mom "I used my Miss Patty scissors".

MrsCannibal · Dec 19, 2007

I totally agree. I grew up in a household where my father shot anything up his veins that he thought would make him high and my mother was soooo in love that she basically ignored it and look at me, about to graduate with my BSN in July and my little sis is the District Manager of a supermarket chain in our area. I on't have any hard feelings towards my parents but it made me a better person which is good in this profession, my father has a PhD in Political Science, so I know that before the drugs there was a successful person in there, so, I feel I'm not as judgemental as I may have been if I didn't have these experiences.

:yelclap: :yeah: :w00t::icon_hug:

I love me a survivor...good for you, lashawn (and your little sis, too)!

country mom · Dec 20, 2007

Thanks, dalesgirl - I bet you're a great mom. I loved your stories about what the things the little ones got into. A little love and compassion for the ones who are struggling can sure go a long way.

teeituptom, BSN, RN · Dec 21, 2007

All this talk here about how parents do not value their children and mistreat them, but such low value expressed for the role of parenting. First, society must value parenting and parents. I live where the wind chill gets below zero and stays there for months. When you've got to drag a little one along with you, a closer parking space is much appreciated- by the little one. I remember carrying a baby in her carrier and holding a busy toddler by the hand and trying to navigate across a busy parking lot without the little guy getting run over. And then when you unload your cart, you've got to go put that cart away, then haul the kids back to the car with you, again without anyone getting run over. If we want a society that values children, then we must value families and the role of parenting.

:yeahthat:

I always park in the mommy space. I really appreciate it.

On the other hand, when I have been driving around a full parking lot and keep seeing a bunch of empty handicap spaces, that kind of gets on my nerves.

And those spaces are for the truly handicapped,and that is for them only

Mommy spaces what an atrocious thought, simply amazing

wonder what ,my mother would have thought about mommy parking spacesactually

I know what she would have thought, bologna

rph3664 · Dec 21, 2007

A while back, I briefly dated a very nice man who survived a horrible car accident; when I met him, I thought he had a BKA but this turned out not to be the case. He used a cane, and even had handicapped plates for his motorcycle! I had never known such a thing existed, but it does. He seldom used handicapped spots except for things like big concerts or the mall at Christmas, and even when they saw his cane and unusual gait, he was yelled at more than once for "taking up a space that could be used by a person who's really handicapped!"

:madface:

Maybe it was his age (early 30s) or the ponytail halfway down his back that made people question his motives; I don't know. He said the main advantage to these spaces is not that they're close to the destination, but that they are flat and are the first spots cleared of snow, which is important since we both live in the upper Midwest.

I once read about a woman who did respite care for a severely handicapped young woman, and when she parked in a handicapped spot, someone walked up to her and yelled at her, even after seeing her passenger, who weighed 40 pounds and was profoundly retarded! That person must have thought that the DRIVER had to be disabled, not a passenger!

That misconception kept my grandmother, who died in 1990 at age 91, from getting a handicapped placard for some years. She was in a serious car accident in her early 20s and never got behind the wheel again, and by the time she got the card, she wouldn't have been able to drive anyway. But someone at her retirement village told her otherwise, and her doctor was happy to fill out the paperwork and she carried the tag in her purse.

The only place I've seen around here that has "parent spaces" is Shopko, which is kind of like Target, and it's for PARENTS of young children, meaning that a father with young ones in tow is welcome to use it as well.

JessicRN · Dec 21, 2007

And then they wonder why their kids act the way they do.
I know a family who have been permanently banned from several restaurants in our town because of the way their kids act. Kids running around the restaurant, playing tag and running into people, will get you kicked out once, but grabbing food off other people's plates and throwing it at them? Yep, don't come back. quote]
My hubby and I were out for dinner last week and watched 2 boys (under 10 years old) run amuck through the restaurant, head off to the BR alone, and lay on the floor right where the wait staff had to walk. What did the parents do? You got it...they watched.
I know this is a bit off topic, but it really makes you wonder about the parenting style today (or lack thereof).
kids = me) LOL
I had the same thing happen with the kids of two couples dining the parents were enjoying their dinner while the kids were playing remote cars on the floor. The cars kept hitting me and my date in the legs I went to the waiter to ask him to do something and he did nothing I went to the parents and asked them to control their children and they told me they had the right to do as they please. I asked for the check got up and put it down on the parents table. I said "you ruined my dinner now you can pay for it" and walked away. Amazingly no one stopped me and the guy I was with did not ask me for another date

morte, LPN, LVN · Dec 21, 2007

I once read about a woman who did respite care for a severely handicapped young woman, and when she parked in a handicapped spot, someone walked up to her and yelled at her, even after seeing her passenger, who weighed 40 pounds and was profoundly retarded! That person must have thought that the DRIVER had to be disabled, not a passenger!
That misconception kept my grandmother, who died in 1990 at age 91, from getting a handicapped placard for some years. She was in a serious car accident in her early 20s and never got behind the wheel again, and by the time she got the card, she wouldn't have been able to drive anyway. But someone at her retirement village told her otherwise, and her doctor was happy to fill out the paperwork and she carried the tag in her purse.
The only place I've seen around here that has "parent spaces" is Shopko, which is kind of like Target, and it's for PARENTS of young children, meaning that a father with young ones in tow is welcome to use it as well.

my understanding is the same that the driver needs to be the disabled party, otherwise why not drop off the disabled party at the door?

rph3664 · Dec 21, 2007

That worked with my Grandma, but that would NOT work with someone who has a serious disability like the 40-pound retarded adult.

And what about people who have disabled children? I don't have a problem with them using those spaces either, IF THE CHILD IS WITH THEM.

flashpoint · Dec 21, 2007

I once had a mother bring her three kids to the ER to have their mosquito bites counted and measured. Mom and dad are divorced and dad took them camping...they got a few mosquito bites. They also got a few bruises and scratches, so we measured those too. Yes, dad should have made sure they were using mosquito repellent, but bringing them to the ER was pretty over the top.

Weeping Willow · Dec 21, 2007

My thoughts exactly! What's wrong with a license for have a kid?
(I can think of a lot of reasons, but it would make a less crazy society, wouldn't it?)

The only thing is, who is licensing the licensers? :uhoh3:

I do think, though, that this child might have a psychiatric illness. I forget the name of it, not Pica but maybe a form of it, in which people ingest foreign objects. Everything from SCISSORS to PHONE BOOKS, broken down into bite size pieces. It is truly scary. Screwdrivers, other metal objects, objects large and small - all are fair game. Maybe the child should be seen by Psychiatry.