Some days, I just don't get it. If there's anything that occasionally causes me to re-think my participation here, it is the fact that reality-based, honest answers are so often derided as rude & .....wait for it.....NETY. In some folks' worlds, the only good answer is a sugar-coated, rose-colored view of the nursing profession. Anything else is mean, rude & sarcastic. In my world, honest, realistic answers are the kindest, most thoughtful way to communicate with those who have questions. In my world, I would be doing a disservice to those who have questions if I did not tell the truth.
This week, someone actually spewed to me that I must have had my nails pulled out as a child because I was so rude when I suggested that an Algebra 101 book would be helpful for a nursing student who wanted to practice dosing calculations. I literally just answered "Algebra 101" to the question "what books can you recommend to help me with dosing calculations?" So I provided a reasonable recommendation of a book (and yes, dosing calculations are solved by pre-algebra and dimensional analysis) and I'm told that I'm so mean that I must have had my nails pulled out as a child?? Now, THAT'S rude, not to mention hateful and deliberately hurtful.
I don't get what folks want/expect/need from an Internet forum, but I apparently do not possess it. Some days...
Some days, I just don't get it. If there's anything that occasionally causes me to re-think my participation here, it is the fact that reality-based, honest answers are so often derided as rude & .....wait for it.....NETY. In some folks' worlds, the only good answer is a sugar-coated, rose-colored view of the nursing profession. Anything else is mean, rude & sarcastic. In my world, honest, realistic answers are the kindest, most thoughtful way to communicate with those who have questions. In my world, I would be doing a disservice to those who have questions if I did not tell the truth.
This week, someone actually spewed to me that I must have had my nails pulled out as a child because I was so rude when I suggested that an Algebra 101 book would be helpful for a nursing student who wanted to practice dosing calculations. I literally just answered "Algebra 101" to the question "what books can you recommend to help me with dosing calculations?" So I provided a reasonable recommendation of a book (and yes, dosing calculations are solved by pre-algebra and dimensional analysis) and I'm told that I'm so mean that I must have had my nails pulled out as a child?? Now, THAT'S rude, not to mention hateful and deliberately hurtful.
I don't get what folks want/expect/need from an Internet forum, but I apparently do not possess it. Some days...
It's the internet! It's an open forum. Take and give from it that you wish. Feels so good when you stop
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By all means take a break. If you take all this stuff on a website like allnurses.com so seriously, you need it.
I'm the one that said I needed a break. Maybe I do. I didn't threaten to leave, just said I may need some time away.
After this, I think I will take at least a week. I thought people came here for advice. If you take the simple phrase Algebra 101 as offensive, well then, I'm at a loss.
Well, my answer to "what book should I study for nursing calculations?" could have been "bowing to you, and plus sugar plums, please read Algebra 101, which is easy-to-read and will solve all your problems because you're a Special Snowflake."
Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
I agree. I think just remembering to be courteous and kind goes a long way. Just a thought, but it's my thought.
I've had my feelings hurt by a poster a time or two in the past that enjoyed picking everything I said apart - no matter what I posted. Using quotes to be cruel. I felt belittled and stupid, and it really hurt more than I care to admit.
I do want to take this opportunity now to send out a heart felt apology to anyone I may have hurt in the past without realizing it. Please believe that if that happened it was unintentional.
It is easy enough to hurt or offend someone without realizing (or intending) it; why would anyone deliberately set out to hurt someone? I'll admit to being direct, even blunt, but I have never gone out of my way to hurt someone. I'm baffled at why someone would respond to a simple, direct and helpful answer with a deliberately offensive comment about having your nails ripped out as a child. It boggles the mind.
Specializes in CCU, SICU, CVSICU, Precepting & Teaching.
What's "NETY"?
The Godwin's Law of Allnurses. (Maybe we could call it Ruby's Law!).
The longer an argument goes on, the more likely someone is to invoke NETY. (Nurses eat their young). The person who invokes NETY has automatically lost the argument.
Been there,done that, ASN, RN
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It's the internet! It's an open forum. Take and give from it that you wish. Feels so good when you stop