Some days, I just don't get it. If there's anything that occasionally causes me to re-think my participation here, it is the fact that reality-based, honest answers are so often derided as rude & .....wait for it.....NETY. In some folks' worlds, the only good answer is a sugar-coated, rose-colored view of the nursing profession. Anything else is mean, rude & sarcastic. In my world, honest, realistic answers are the kindest, most thoughtful way to communicate with those who have questions. In my world, I would be doing a disservice to those who have questions if I did not tell the truth.
This week, someone actually spewed to me that I must have had my nails pulled out as a child because I was so rude when I suggested that an Algebra 101 book would be helpful for a nursing student who wanted to practice dosing calculations. I literally just answered "Algebra 101" to the question "what books can you recommend to help me with dosing calculations?" So I provided a reasonable recommendation of a book (and yes, dosing calculations are solved by pre-algebra and dimensional analysis) and I'm told that I'm so mean that I must have had my nails pulled out as a child?? Now, THAT'S rude, not to mention hateful and deliberately hurtful.
I don't get what folks want/expect/need from an Internet forum, but I apparently do not possess it. Some days...
The Godwin's Law of Allnurses. (Maybe we could call it Ruby's Law!).
The longer an argument goes on, the more likely someone is to invoke NETY. (Nurses eat their young). The person who invokes NETY has automatically lost the argument.
Specializes in M/S, LTC, Corrections, PDN & drug rehab.
There's a huge difference between giving an answer & personally attacking someone. Not only is it over the line but also violates the TOS.
If you're asking a simple questions there is nothing wrong with a simple/direct response. Roser never insulted the OP's intelligence or her personally.
That's what I don't get. We will go out of our way to reply to a post & then the OP won't like it & stoop so low as to insult you as a person/nurse/etc. I figure if the person has to start hurling personal insults, they know you are right & are grasping at straws.
I'm also tired of hearing 'NETY' every time just because someone doesn't like a reply. Or they think nursing is so drama filled & it's only in nursing. Anywhere I have worked (non-nursing) there is drama & people picking on others.
I never try to interpret tone from a post. I take them all at face value. So unless someone outright says something nasty, I don't get offended. It's the Internet.
Some days, I just don't get it. If there's anything that occasionally causes me to re-think my participation here, it is the fact that reality-based, honest answers are so often derided as rude & .....wait for it.....NETY. In some folks' worlds, the only good answer is a sugar-coated, rose-colored view of the nursing profession. Anything else is mean, rude & sarcastic. In my world, honest, realistic answers are the kindest, most thoughtful way to communicate with those who have questions. In my world, I would be doing a disservice to those who have questions if I did not tell the truth.
This week, someone actually spewed to me that I must have had my nails pulled out as a child because I was so rude when I suggested that an Algebra 101 book would be helpful for a nursing student who wanted to practice dosing calculations. I literally just answered "Algebra 101" to the question "what books can you recommend to help me with dosing calculations?" So I provided a reasonable recommendation of a book (and yes, dosing calculations are solved by pre-algebra and dimensional analysis) and I'm told that I'm so mean that I must have had my nails pulled out as a child?? Now, THAT'S rude, not to mention hateful and deliberately hurtful.
I don't get what folks want/expect/need from an Internet forum, but I apparently do not possess it. Some days...
I wish I had someone like yourself recommend that great tip when I was in nursing school. Long story short-9th grade developed severe mono-out of school for 3 months, my algebra teacher(tenured) refused to give my tutor any of my class/homework assignments. I failed my NYS REGENTS exam & had to retake it next year.
Also agree sometimes very snippy comments not just on this forum, but on a lot of forums in general.
I wish I had someone like yourself recommend that great tip when I was in nursing school. Long story short-9th grade developed severe mono-out of school for 3 months, my algebra teacher(tenured) refused to give my tutor any of my class/homework assignments. I failed my NYS REGENTS exam & had to retake it next year.
Also agree sometimes very snippy comments not just on this forum, but on a lot of forums in general.
I zoned out taking algebra in HS...thinking of boys, maybe. I passed but really didn't know what I was doing years later when I was thinking of entering nursing school....and then had to take alegbra 101 in college. No biggie.
roser13, ASN, RN
6,504 Posts
Oooh! I like that rule!