SIL seriously has a psychiatric issue

[Magsulfate, BSN, RN]

I was reading a recent thread on an MA who was saying she was a nurse, and this was brought up between me and my husband.....

My sister in law has been telling our family for YEARS that she is a nurse. A "nurse" is what she usually says,, and when asked by me and my other RN sister in law she says she's an "RN".

Okay,,, so me and my other sil were talking to her during christmas (because we hardly ever see this sil and her husband,, she likes to keep him away from the family as much as she can) and we came to the conclusion that if she is a nurse, she's a very dumb nurse. She had no idea what she was talking about. We even set her up and started talking crazy,, like how we do care plans with the doctor's input,, and we were just going wayyy off base with some things. I could barely keep it together while we were doing this. She went along with ALL OF IT.. She agreed that nurses write their care plans, and doctors will adjust it to fit their needs... etc..

So, we looked her up on the Texas BON website. She does NOT have a license. No RN, no LVN, no GN, no GVN... She supposedly works at a doctors office that does vasectomies. Anyway,, we were concerned about it to begin with because her husband (our husbands are all brothers) was telling our husbands that she got into big time trouble for writing scripts form this doctors office,, and she was caught at the pharmacy filling narcotics for herself. And she had their baby with them.

She has totally brain washed her husband, and I doubt that there is anything our husbands can do about it. But she has the whole world thinking she is a "nurse". I really hope that they don't think that at the place that she works. I'm not sure where it is,, it would take some digging to find out. Actually, I doubt that she still works there after being arrested and such. I heard this isn't the first time she's done this. Or the first doctors office she's worked at.

Anyway, in a way, I am just venting, because I don't know what I can do about this if anything. I mean,, her husband is totally brain washed,, I know that he has no clue about her. Our husbands have tried to tell him that she's not a nurse and all these lies that she's been telling... but he won't believe them.

I try to stay out of it,, but it really bothers me that during holidays I have to put up with this psycho maniac nurse imposture for a sister in law.

[~Mi Vida Loca~RN, ASN, RN]

If it makes you feel better my husbands entire family minus his grandma are off their rockers and so is my family. My only sane family member is my step mom and well me of course

[oramar]

Perhaps she is one of those people that graduate and never worked. May have even let her license go. Once I had a patient that really rubbed me wrong. She had got out of nursing school in 60s, passed the boards, married an engineer with a job making big money and never set foot in hospital again. She had the nice life with a big house and lots of vacations, her kids went to good colleges and bragged she about it. She was very judgmental of our staff and liked to tell me how easy we had it, she said she knew because she was a nurse too. I just gritted my teeth. Secretly I thought to myself, "you are no more a nurse than my cat".

[Whispera, MSN, RN]

What I would do is sidestep the issue unless it jumps up by itself (as in her giving medical opinions, etc.). You don't have to talk about nursing with her. Talk about family!

[RN1982]

I would just ignore her if she starts talking about nursing. Change the subject.

[mustlovepoodles, RN]

I don't think you have to say anything. This woman is doing enough damage on her own.

[Smitty08]

This has the sound of character pathology and/or substance abuse vs. Axis I psychiatric disorder, but you never can tell with such a short synopsis. Just my 2 cents...

[Keepstanding, ASN, RN]

hello.....can we say "illegal" ! i can see where it would get to you

praiser :heartbeat

[linzz]

My family and my spouse's family are both nuts, so we just have decided that a few short visits per year are enough. It just got to the point where every visit was just like an endurance test.

Anyway, I know how you feel.

[flightnurse2b, LPN]

wow.. she could get in big trouble for that.

i think everyone has atleast one crazy in law. my boyfriend's family is something else. we just moved back to florida, and they live in the same city, and my boyfriend as actually decided not to tell them where we live because he does not want any of them over our house. last time his sister visited our last house she stole a guitar and pawned it for crack money. no thanks.

[RNMeg]

My sister-in-law tried to tell me that her 2-year dental hygiene course was more difficult than my BSN. I just smiled and nodded. In the interest of family harmony, it's best to ignore things like this. If it really, really gets to you, you could report her to the BON, but I'm not sure they would do much if she isn't actively working or harming patients.

[Magsulfate, BSN, RN]

Yeah, I've just got to learn to ignore it,, all the while laughing deep down inside. Usually I would try to help someone thats screwed up,, but she doesn't want help.