"I would never want you as my nurse!"

[Emergent]

When people at allnurses get upset with others, and they can't think of anything else to say, they say "I would never want you as my nurse! ".

Can't we just all get along?

[imintrouble, BSN, RN]

That phrase, "I wouldn't want you as my nurse", just makes me smile. The big secret is I don't want to be anybody's nurse anymore, so tossing that at me for insult purposes is just not effective.

[SmilingBluEyes]

When you tell me that, I think, "hmmm I probably wouldn't want you as my patient, either". The feeling, at least, would be mutual, and we would have something to agree upon.

[Wrench Party]

My response would be "Well, fine then, I guess you're fired as my patient." Actually, I'd love to say that way more than I get to.

[macawake, MSN]

I suspect that posters who utter "I never want you as my nurse" probably imagine that it stings a whole lot more than it actually does. It's likely something that they would perceive as a devastating blow to their own self-image if someone told them the same thing. It seems like it's most often said by new nurses or nursing students. Perhaps they picture the ideal nurse as someone who's always sweet, caring, compassionate, soothing, 24/7, whether they are on duty or off.

The reason "you lack compassion and I don't want you as my nurse" insult doesn't even begin to touch me is:

a) What I write on an online community has absolutely no bearing on how I conduct myself at work or how I treat and care for my patients.

b) The poster who passes judgment on my nursing ability has never met me.

c) The real life patients who have met me and whom I've provided nursing care to, actually tend to trust, like and respect me.

d) It's the internet...

So as insults go, it's pretty lame. As a general rule, if you have to resort to insults then more often than not, you've lost the argument.

[Iknowwha2du]

What goes on in the post/online is no different from what happens in the hospitals etc. Sometimes it is worse in the hospitals. You are trapped at work, in that you can't leave the place, or risk being charged with abandonment...not making excuses for the behavior but at-least you can log off the web. In nursing we are taught to have so much compassion for the patients but maybe we need to be taught to have that same compassion for our fellow nurses etc. When someone says they wouldn't want a certain person to be their nurse..what they aren't realizing is maybe the nurse wouldn't want them as their patient. The pendulum swings both ways people. Just be nice to each other.

[flying_ace2]

Well you know, one's not a true, competent, or caring nurse unless one is willing to sacrifice themselves upon the altar of Florence Nightingale........

[CBlover, BSN, RN]

And don't EVEN hurt their feelings if they've failed NCLEX 6 times because after all they are called to be a nurse. 🙄

[heron, ASN, RN]

A book worth reading, regardless of your politics:

amazon.com/Ordered-Care-American-1850-1945-Cambridge/dp/0521335655/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1454705658&sr=1-1&keywords=Ordered+to+Care

... Building upon extensive use of primary and quantitative data, the author creates a collective portrait of nursing, from the work of the individual nurse to the political efforts of its organizations. Dr. Reverby contends that nursing's contemporary difficulties are caused by its historical obligation to care in a society that refuses to value caring. She examines the historical consequences of this critical dilemma and concludes with a discussion of why nursing will have to move beyond its obligation to care, and what the implications of this change would be for all of us.

[hawaiicarl, BSN, RN]

Haters gotta hate .... Trollers gotta troll

In Internet slang, a troll (/ˈtroʊl/, /ˈtrɒl/) is a person who sows discord on the Internet by starting arguments or upsetting people, by posting inflammatory,^[1] extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community (such as a newsgroup, forum, chat room, or blog) with the deliberate intent of provoking readers into an emotional response^[2] or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion,^[3] often for their own amusement.

This sense of the word "troll" and its associated verb trolling are associated with Internet discourse, but have been used more widely. Media attention in recent years has equated trolling with online harassment. For example, mass media has used troll to describe "a person who defaces Internet tribute sites with the aim of causing grief to families."^[4][5] In addition, depictions of trolling have been included in popular fictional works such as the HBO television program The Newsroom, in which a main character encounters harassing individuals online and tries to infiltrate their circles by posting negative sexual comments himself.^[6][7]

Cheers

[kakamegamama]

......there HAVE been 1 or 2 posters that I really wouldn't want to be my nurse, especially the bullying kind....... ;-)

[BuckyBadgerRN, ASN, RN]

You do know that nurses don't JUST work in hospitals, right? LOL

I don't want any of you as my nurses... BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO BE IN THE FLIPPING HOSPITAL. (true story)

#AMA #DNR4Lyfe

[NursesRmofun, ASN, RN]

I got offended about responses here in the past a couple times for all the "usual" reasons, including that some posters definitely intend to incite! This IS the anonymous internet...but then I remembered that I don't care about those replies. I only care about thoughtful, helpful and insightful replies, so I *usually leave the rest. Not that I expect everyone to agree with me all the time...but I can tell an attitude quite handily at my age. I detest people that come to a site like this to mix it up...but it takes all kinds! I can ignore it.